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  1. Thayleal

    Thayleal What is this 'sleep' you speak of?

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    Sooo..

    Here's the deal. I was dating this girl and things were going pretty well. We had kinda put forth at the beginning of dating that it wasnt really a long term thing. Well she started falling for me and vice versa but we didnt tell each other since it was an understanding it was supposed to be fun. She felt hurt that I "had the attitude that it was fun" and I was too afraid to tell her anything different for fear of her reaction. Sooo eventually this exploded and we arent together anymore and I miss her terribly. I went to her and told her how i felt and she confessed that she missed me terribly and had deep feelings for me. however she doesnt want to give me any hope of getting back together and doesnt want to give me no hope. What do i do?

    BTW I realize imma get flamed pretty hard for this. So a couple of serious replies would make that flaming worthwhile.

    Thanks
     
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    Kalypso New Member

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    You: "I want a serious, long term relationship"
    Her: *Reaction*
     
  3. Thayleal

    Thayleal What is this 'sleep' you speak of?

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    We already broke up... and i basically told her that and she told me she wasnt gonna give me an answer right now. Cause she didnt know how she felt about us getting back together...
     
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    Kalypso New Member

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    Time for the waiting game. The longer the wait, the smaller the chances. Sorry, just hope she digs the idea.
     
  5. Thayleal

    Thayleal What is this 'sleep' you speak of?

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    thanks....thats what i was afraid of
     
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    God of Thunder New Member

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    Not sure of what to add, but best of luck to you!
     
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    lauren Active Member

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    load of shit. she knows what she wants right now, and she knows she wants you to sweat it out like you made her.
     
  8. Thayleal

    Thayleal What is this 'sleep' you speak of?

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    ya think? I kinda hope thats all it is lauren!
     
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    verdiocchi Oh snap!

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    Just don't chase her too much or she'll lose interest completely.
     
  10. Yail Bloor

    Yail Bloor OT Supporter

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    all this talking about the relationship is a ticket to failure

    the only thing you should concern yourself with is her interest level in you, and right now i'd say its pretty damn low

    don't pay attention to her words. that's where you are gettting tripped up.

    her actions tell you everything you need to know, and her actions say "low interest."

    when she "felt hurt that you had the attitude that it was just fun" that was a shit-test that you failed miserably

    you accepted her frame and tried to appease her

    in the beginning you had mutually agreed this was not going to be a serious relationship, then she tested you to see if you were going to remain consistent with this and when you failed the test it killed her interest

    now she is just telling you whatever bullshit she needs to in order to not look like the "bad guy" and while not hurting you any more than is necessary

    HER WORDS MEAN NOTHING. HER ACTIONS MEAN EVERYTHING.
     
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    Yail Bloor OT Supporter

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    and all of this is a huge power play on her part. she is seizing the power in the relationship when you tells you things like "I'm not going to give you an answer right now"

    You need to start meeting and dating other women, if that doesn't bring her around nothing will.
     
  12. Thayleal

    Thayleal What is this 'sleep' you speak of?

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    That is definitely a possibility i have considered. Im not completely stupid honestly however I am inclined to believe that perhaps things are not always waht they seem. Ill definitely give you guys the heads up when something happens.
     
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    Sybian She's with me...

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    Best av ever... Forget her. Best thing you'll ever do for yourself.
     
  14. lauren

    lauren Active Member

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    best to just go on with life, your friends, hobbies and whatever you did before her. if she comes back, she comes back. if not, well then you are already 2 days/3weeks/whatever into getting over her.
     
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    Thayleal What is this 'sleep' you speak of?

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    All very true. .... Btw thanks for the AV comment. I like it too!
     
  16. Yail hit this one on the head.
     
  17. Thayleal

    Thayleal What is this 'sleep' you speak of?

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    Well i think hope is gone. I figured in 24 hours id either have her back or she would be gone forever. I guess its on to bigger and better things. Thats a damn shame Im gonna miss her smile and everything else about her. Thats life. Thanks everyone!
     

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