SRS Calling a person you haven't spoken to in 10 years

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  1. Deadhead9150

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    I'm thinking about calling my grandmother who I haven't spoken to in 10 years. (I'm 19) I always really loved when she came when I was little but around the time my father died her and every other relative disappeared. Anyway, now that I've completely separated myself from my mother I feel like the problem could have been her all along and I'd like to try and call my grandmother. Anyone think this is a bad idea? I want to call I'm just really worried she'll be like, "no, I don't want to talk to you" or something. Tips on what to say?
     
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    just go for it. If talking again was not meant to happen, at least you will know for sure and can move on. It is better knowing now, than wondering for a lot more time. It will probably either be an awesome chat that is long, or a short lived clink of the phone. At the very least, it will take away a lot of future worry, and possibly spark up a really good relationship.
     
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    That's what I'm thinking. It's just a lot harder after talking it out to actually do it.
     
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    I've found that people from my past belong in my past. Even family end up returning from where they came, no matter how hard I try to resurrect the dead. Relationships are a two way street, and they inevitably die when I'm the one doing all the work.
     
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    I'd like to say "what can it hurt?", but I know it might. Either way, opening with a "Hi, [whatever you call your grandmother]? This is [your name], how are you?" Any grandmother I've known personally is happy when a grand child calls especially if they haven't seen them since they were little kids.

    Then again, I'm kinda in a similar situation with parts of my extended family I've rarely met and barely know, and I've chosen so far to continue that situation. As far as I'm concerned, related or not they're strangers to me and any family ties died with my grandmother in October.
     
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    I mean, I used to be really close with her but then when my father died everyone disappeared. (I don't know if they chose to disappear or if my mother pushed them away) I'm hoping I can actually call her and I don't chicken out. I think her disappearing in my childhood was one of the factors that has caused me the problems I still suffer from today. Hopefully I'll update tomorrow night with positive news but we'll see.
     
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    Hell I say do it . . .

    If she isn't thrilled to hear from you then it's not gonna cause anymore damage then the abandonment did. Now, if you start talking to her and get to gossiping about your mom well that's no good . . . even if she isn't the greatest person you don't wanna be in that situation.
     
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    Yeah, I think I want to but it's going to be really hard for me to pick up the phone and make the call. We'll see how it goes, I was planning on calling her tomorrow afternoon so I'll update tomorrow evening.:hsd:
     
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    I'm going to call my brother in the near future, it's going to be harsh. I'm going to lay things on the line and tell him how I feel. We don't have a good relationship. He kind of a dick. Well, not kind of, he actually is a dick. Yup, he's a dick.
     
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    good luck . . .

    i'll be in for an update : )
     
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    Thanks :hug:
     
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    Or maybe she hates all of us and wants nothing to do with me. We'll see tomorrow:hs:
     
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    I was talking about myself.
     
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    Well, I still haven't called her. I'm so worried she's not going to want to talk to me.
     
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    You'll make the call eventually.
     
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    probably. I've been known to take long time with things though.:o It took me three months of every day planning on asking a girl on a date to actually ask her:rofl:
     
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    odds are good she will be delighted to hear from you
     
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    Not when you're deathly afraid of rejection:hs:
     
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    she will not reject you. She will be very, very glad you called.

    She is your grandmother, and her time on this earth is in short supply. Do not delay, or you may find yourself waking up in the middle of the night regretting it.
     
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    I'll try to call again tomorrow. Regret I can deal with, rejection I can't.:hsd:
     
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    right . . . this is your grandma she will be glad to hear from you.
     
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    If I have a problem I can call my gp's and I didn't talk to them for almost four years . . . hell I didn't talk to my parents for four years either and one day my best friend just dialed their number and handed me the phone and told me someone called for me . . . I was forced to talk to them and I am really glad she did that.

    just do it you have nothing to lose
     

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