Brokeup with the gf yesterday and already feeling regret

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  1. Fachh

    Fachh New Member

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    we were together for 2 years and nothing was wrong...just that she wanted to get more serious while I didn't want to. She didn't want to breakup despite the fact we wanted slightly different things but I ended it because logically it makes the most sense.

    emotionally however I feel like a wreck and want to call her and take her back already because the relationship was pretty damn good with no real problems...:hsd:
     
  2. Pringles

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    Don't do it and it will be the best damn this for you. Look at this from your viewpoint and how would you be if you did take her back? So every decision from here forth you start to doubt yourself and become weak. Don't take her back you made a choice stick with it. Life is so short and trust me you can generate this attraction with another girl and make her just as amazing as the last or better.

    "once and ex always an ex"
     
  3. Fachh

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    fuck I know your right
    I needed that
     
  4. Fachh

    Fachh New Member

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    just got a text telling me how much she misses me

    fuck
     
  5. BoomBoomBoy

    BoomBoomBoy Guest

    Poor some ice cold water over your groin and get over it.
     
  6. enfiniti

    enfiniti How firm thy friendship ... OHIO!

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    you dont miss her, you miss the feeling of being with her

    if you broke up, you either did it for a reason, or the idea of breaking up wasnt so outlandish to you that it actually slipped out of your mouth. Once that seal is cut, there is no going back. Wish her well, pick yourself up, and try again with someone else
     
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    Make it after the first two weeks and you'll be okay. Just go live life.
     
  8. Pringles

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    Dude DON'T FUCKING ANSWER. This will be your first test/step to showing yourself what a god damn champion you are. I know how it feels I've done it twice we have all been there and from the otherside fight it. Go find hobbies do things you enjoy that you used to not do and sacrifice for her.

    Skydive, Lift, mountain bike, read, GO OUT AND WHAT LIFE HAS TO OFFER!
     
  9. Fachh

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    She just came over looking all sexy
    I tried to be very comforting but that was it
    looks like I made it
     
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  11. delussional77

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    dude, you're an idiot..

    You are saying so yourself that you liked being with her and that she didn't do anything wrong besides wanting to be more serious than you both were. If you're not gonna marry her than fine, move on. But if you liked her and there was nothing wrong then I disagree with leaving her.

    I left my g/f a month ago for a pretty dumb reason and I regret it.
     
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    Fachh New Member

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    what was your reason?
     
  13. MissKitty

    MissKitty If squats were easy they'd be called 'Your Mum' OT Supporter

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    How serious did she want to get? What's more serious than 'together'?
     
  14. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    Its over now. Even if you tried to get back together eventually you'd remember you both want different things ultimately and you'd hurt her even more by dumping her again.

    Stop talking to and seeing her. You are hurting yourself and her by giving her a glimmer of hope.
     
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    The details in this thread are overwhelming. Granted you broke up with her for what I would say is a legit reason, the details behind that reason are lacking.

    What either of you wants can and will change, I'll put money on it. So please explain to us the reasoning, in detail, behind your break up over wanting different things, because

    1. You were happy with her, what the fuck does anything else matter if YOU'RE happy with her?

    2. You didn't have any real problems? I've been single for 2 months, been out on so many fucking dates and how many damn problems have I run into with... just about every single fucking one of them (except the latest one, she's cool as fuck and I like her quite a bit)

    You said it's the "logical decision". I'm gonna throw out there that I tend to think like a girl a little bit more than most guys. I'm kinda emotional, it pisses me off, but I can't do shit about it so whatever. Anyway, life isn't always logical, sometimes you gotta go for the illogical to have a little fun, excitement and joy in your life. All I see here is you dumped someone you obviously care about, who you didn't have problems with and you were happy with. Frankly, I love being happy, drama free, and having someone I care about deeply... I dunno about you.
     
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    what are these slightly different things? you talking like the color of your bedroom or the #of kids?
     
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    I promise take the advice of everyone here! Don't go back! I was in the exact same shoes as you and even tried to go back a few times.

    A good way to look at it is would you ever go back and drink spoiled milk when you know its spoiled?

    Give it 2-3 weeks and things will get better. Just have to get over that initial shock phase. You'll then see you don't miss the girl you miss the companionship of a person.

    It's a big life change to break up with someone you spent that much time together with (my ex and I were together for 2 years).
     
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    we need more details. dont listen to the first few answers.

    she wanted to be more serious. like what? move in? get married?

    you say you are not ready. which is fine. however, do you EVER want to w. her? if yes..... have you talked to her about it?


    its not easy to find a person to be with for 2 yrs and have "no real problems". make sure you're not freaking out and pulling the trigger for no reason.
     
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    Theres a really good article I found online a few days ago. It detailed whether or not you should try and get back with an ex. I'll see if I can find it and post it here.
     
  20. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    fuck this is hard

    logically it all makes sense but emotionally it just feels like we should be together

    we arn't gonna get back together though, I know its the wrong move, just need to fuckin say something might as well say it on OT
     
  22. BoomBoomBoy

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    We're here for you bro.
     
  23. Dreams2Reality

    Dreams2Reality saywhat

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    We're not machines, our bodies and mind aren't programmed to think a command and act it out. Emotion, history, challenges you've been thru together, etc.. They're not just going to leave your mind. They're going to make you think things, and ultimately do things.

    If what you had was great and wonderful, why did you leave it? Because she wanted to be more serious doesn't seem to bad.. If you're both young, and in a mature relationship, I don't think a simple conversation where you both sat down and talked about what you each need would be too hard.

    Regret is a part of life, as it comes with the decisions you make. Just remember, every decision you make is something you wanted at one point or another.
     
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    What different things?
     
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    I just got out of a 2 year relationship and I couldn't feel any better.
     

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