broke up with my girl after 3 months,because of sex-update

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  1. quamen

    quamen New Member

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    WEll im pretty upset today,but i feel like i had to do it. My ex complained and compared me to her ex after we had sex for the first time. she pretty much said i didnt satisfy her with me 6" plus size penis and i was really hurt by this. After that she seemed to always make a excuse not to have sex with me, only one other time and then she said she wasnt in the mood so we stopped. I feel like a jerk for breaking up with someone over sex,but at the same time i dont believe over 3 months we been together she is telling me she hasnt wanted sex? she is 19 and im 24 and i find this hard to believe. She realized that is hurt me alot and if we werent compatiable in this area, she knew i would end it. i think the relationship wouldnt be that healthy without sex that is how i feel. Did i do the right thing? When i ended it last night, then alll of a sudden she said she believe we rushsed into sex to fast,but at the same time she would tell me all the sex she had with her friends not even bfs, and ex bf but sex with me NEVER only 2 times. She said it would be soon we would have sex,but i think again this was just an excuse to keep me around for much longer. If your not in the mood or never get into it, how is sex going to be good anyways. I dont want her just having sex to please me and keep me, i want her to have sex with her because we love each other.

    I feel really depressed and hurt,because alot of other things were going good besides this. Now i just have to figure out how to get over it. Suggestions and did i do the right thing?
     
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    It takes more than size to pleasure a woman. You sound pretty insecure... might want to work on that.
     
  3. ArthurPewty

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    Sounds like there was a compatibility issue in the relationship. By the way, did the two of you discuss what you liked?

    I guess I would be curious that your gf had sex with her ex-bf (not exactly sure what she thought of that), but not with you. What was different in those two relationships for her? Did she tell you why she wasn't interested in sex? I think that if she did talk (how often?) about sex with other people, but then said she was never in the mood to have sex with you, that's something that she should have been open to discussing and that you should have broached (and not just when your pants are around your ankles).

    Can't say you were right or wrong, that judgement will come in time. Break ups suck and I wish you the best.
     
  4. quamen

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    Well the difference is that her ex had a huge dick and she enjoyed it alot,and mine she didnt. We talked about what each other liked,but she implanted in her head that she wouldnt have sex with me because she knew i couldnt please her. She avoided it all the time,and the second time we did it she started crying. She said she didnt really feel me that good and she didnt want me to break up with her cause the sex was no good. She talked about sex with other guys plenty of times, i lost track until i got pissed and said. Why u keep talking about that when your with me, i really dont want to her that especially since your not having sex with me.

    Also the fact is im not a sex fanatic either. Even if it was once or twice a month, i dont think that is asking ot much at my age and hers is it? Especially when she can have sex with her ex bf 2 times a day EVERY DAY. Also she mad a comment that she didnt want to have sex,because since she had sex with her ex bf he ended up hurting her as in breaking up with her. That just doesnt make any damn sense to me what so ever. So if she has sex with me and expresses herself in that way, i will break up with her.
     
  5. RedVsBlue

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    You can please a woman with a 1" stub of a dick if you know what youa re doing.

    And you say you arent a sex fanatic, wait until you actually have good sex with someone you love...you wont be able to get enough.

    You realize you are at your sexual peak pretty much right? Its downhill once you hit your 20's, thats a biological fact based on how the male body works.

    You arent wrong ending a relationship you weren fully happy with though. It just seems you have alot of growing up to do before you get involved with another female sexually.
     
  6. Falconer

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    You guys had sex like once or twice? It takes longer than that to figure out what each other likes.
     
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    yea, but by the sound of it in those few times, she pretty much destoryed his self esteem by saying his [above average] dick size was not enough to please her...
     
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    you cant please her with a once inch dick i think the minimum is a 3" dick to hit the g-spot bro
     
  9. quamen

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    Update. she called me today and finally told me the problem that she never told anyone. Right before we started dating,she was raped at a party she went to when her the person put something in her drink. She never found out who it was,but she says it is affecting her still that is why the sex isnt happening?
     
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    no sex for home?
     
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    All the more reason to move on. I WILL NOT have a relationship with a woman who was abused (assuming this happened). Too many fish in the sea.
     
  12. keleko

    keleko yes, he is

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    yep

    ignore and move on, don't need that kind of crap
     
  13. GTLifter

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    Just go to the doc and get a shot of test on a regular basis to keep your youthful test levels. It's totally legal and a great idea.


    To the thread starter, sorry to hear it bro but it definitely sounds like you also have confidence issues. Work on the confidence and the sex will follow.
     
  14. RedVsBlue

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    well "bro", ive seen my wife get off with things smaller than an inch. Ive seen women in porn get off with things smaller than an inch. You dont need to hit the G-spot to get an O
     
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    bullshit. I have heard that all to often. If she was raped, ask her for the police report
     
  16. RedVsBlue

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    That really is a bad idea, and it isnt really going to keep your youthful levels. Ive heard of it before, but never heard anything good. If thats what people feel they need, then go for it. Still a bad idea.
     
  17. quamen

    quamen New Member

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    rape


    she says she didnt know who he was and no one knew at the party either.
     
  18. RedVsBlue

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    How ironic. You really made the best decision. Sounds like this one carries a bit too much drama 2...
     
  19. Midgetized

    Midgetized Don't mess with Douche Cat

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    It's good you finally got rid of her. You've made a million threads talking about all the problems you are having in the relationship, I'm surprised you lasted this long. Any girl who constantly tells you about all the sex she had with everyone else is a whore and isn't worth having a relationship with. There's nothing wrong with a 6" dick and she's a bitch for trying to make you feel bad about it.
     
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    werd, and
    how convienant, she should have still filed a report and gotten help.
     
  21. quamen

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    i felt bad for a short while,but now feel great.
     
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    Why is it a bad idea and how is not going to keep your test levels up? Do you understand how Hormone Replacement Therapy works?
     
  23. Jake!

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    tell her you'll put it up her ass to remind her how big it is
     
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    kinda fuckin severe for this situation
     
  25. GTLifter

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    I never recommended it for this kid but once my levels start to drop you can bet your ass I will get some test from my doc. We have the medical knowledge to put off aging so why not take advantage of it.
     

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