My girlfriend and I broke up yesterday. We're both seniors in college and had been dating for about 9 months. I'm not exactly sure how I feel about the whole thing. The main reason for the break up, as I understand it, was that she didn't think the relationship was progressing, mainly due to me. There have been a couple times when she mentioned that she wanted me to be more "boyfriend-like" and that she felt unappreciated. I have no problems talking to people and being social, but when it comes to serious I guess I'm not very open. I second guess myself a lot - to the point of not saying anything in fear that it's not really what I think (if that makes sense). I'm like an extrovert with an overwhelming inner dialogue. With her I've had trouble being up front and confrontational about things on occasion. Depending on how I look at it, there are some good things about the break up, and some bad. I'm just having trouble figuring out and weighing which are more important. Lately, maybe the last 2 months, I haven't been having as much fun with the relationship - physically and socially. Not to say it's bad, just not as much energy as there was previously. I don't know if this is due to me actually losing feelings for her or just the natural progression of all relationships, ie - the initial fire fades away. A third possiblity is that it could be due to the winter season. I always get a little depressed and blah in the winter. So I don't know what to think. She still cares for me a lot, and I for her. Both of us feel like crap. Neither of us has any ill feelings towards the other. It's just that she doesn't think she could handle the stress of graduating college, looking for a job, and moving, etc. with me not being more open and emotionally available, so she thinks the best is just to move on. The thing is, I'm not sure if I'm capable of it.