breaking the friendzone

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  1. Jimeigh

    Jimeigh Every rook and jay in the corvidae have been raven

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    the age old situation of being friends first. i know people have broken it. im wondering, has anyone here done it, and what came of it?

    obviously i have an ulterior reason for asking, but i needn't bore you with the details.
     
  2. lauren

    lauren Active Member

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    yep. i dont talk to any of them anymore.
     
  3. 20Psi_GST

    20Psi_GST New Member

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    Honestly dude i would just forget about it. Sometimes it works but 98% of the time it doesnt. I was in the situation where i got close to one of my friends, it was my best friends sister. She was in a relationship when i started havin feelins for her. I acually told her last valentines day (a few months after hereakup) how i felt and told her we could take it slow that this was probably a shock. But i cared about her a lot. Basically to make a long story short all she did was take advantage of me and treat me like shit. And i had known her for 7 years now, she said that she considered me one of her really good friends, that she could always count on, and said i was the only person that was really there for her when she needed someone. We dont really talk that much anymore. And u bitches say that men are cruel.
     
  4. Jimeigh

    Jimeigh Every rook and jay in the corvidae have been raven

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    just realized there was another thread about this, sorry 'bout that :o
     
  5. 007

    007 Riden, sliden, whipin and dippin, my chrome strips

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    waaa waaa waaa.
     
  6. Elphaba

    Elphaba New Member

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    Yeah, I replied w/ my 'sucess story' in the other thread....maybe it'll help ya...
     
  7. purplebeast

    purplebeast The depths of hell and endless torture await all h

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    Its never worked for me. Just recently i cut off all comunication w a girl because I got stuck on the dreaded friend zone. It sucks ass. its like some kind of ass backwards friends w benefits.

    To quote Jay-Z

    Bitch I dont need mo friends, got plenty. Put out or move the fuck out.
     
  8. PocoDiablo

    PocoDiablo New Member

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    If you're in friendzone, and can "break thought it", it still means you are *probably* lacking skills to maintain a quality relationship with a woman who is looking for a mature adult.

    Learn how to be a mature and straight forward adult, and friendzone no longer exists.
     
  9. Jimeigh

    Jimeigh Every rook and jay in the corvidae have been raven

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    upon further analysis and realizing the semantic differece, i have not been "friendzoned," and am merely "hanging out as friends" with this chick.

    at the same time though she has a boyfriend who goes to a different school 4 hours away. so, its not so much the friend thing that's the obstacle, so much as the fact that she's trying to be loyal to a guy she never sees. i told her we should go to the pool, and we'll be doing that soon. we'll see how that goes.

    anyway, there's already a thread about this shit so i'd lock this one if i could, i just dont come here all too often so i didnt realize.
     
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  10. jackjohnson

    jackjohnson simple as something nobody knows OT Supporter

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    ever since I fell in the friend zone badly for 2 years in college ( :hsugh: ) I always check out friendzone threads, and this is by far the best response I've ever seen in one :bowdown:
     
  11. Jimeigh

    Jimeigh Every rook and jay in the corvidae have been raven

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    i'm sure all the advice he'd have to give comes from this source, or others like it:

    http://www.fastseduction.com/

    knock yourself out.
     
  12. Menial

    Menial New Member

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    Learn some body language cues, and see if you can read him/her.

    Try it, go get some pussssay~!
     
  13. Rurikar

    Rurikar OT Supporter

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    It's pretty simple really.

    If shes worth keeping as a friend do nothing.
    If you really like her go for it.

    If you, yourself, are already past the "friend" zone and want to be more, then most likely you won't be able to still be friends unless you find someone else. You can go for on day but you might screw up the friendship if it doesn't work.

    Typicaly you can tell if a girl wants to be more then friends and if you can't she most likely doesn't. :/
     
  14. RedDawg

    RedDawg Well-Known Member

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    i broke through the "friendzone" wall
    we'll be together for 3 yrs. this june & she just moved in last month
     
  15. Yail Bloor

    Yail Bloor OT Supporter

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    The best way is to never get in the friendzone in the first place.
     
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    I'm in a similar situation. My advice is to make her jealous. Get with her friends, or date other girls all together. Sooner or later she may confess deeper feeling to you. Just keep in touch with her while your doing your own thing, and be honest! But be careful, she may fire back with hanging out with other guys, and whatnot. But if it's there, it's there. She just wants to play.
     
  17. Kev07

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    never worth the effort you have to put in.
     
  18. signal

    signal New Member

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    That's why I'm saying to do your own thing. She will make the move out of the friend zone FOR YOU
     
  19. Drifts180

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    sounds worth it to me :dunno:

    he either A) finds someone else while he is out doing his own thing

    or B) it works like he described.

    I did kinda the same thing unintentionally and it worked for me.
     
  20. Kev07

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    That's what I'm saying. I did this before, just to get a girl to like me, and it worked.

    But when I finally got her to like me, It was like "wow this is... pretty damn lame."

    next the ho, if you want my opinion.
     
  21. Mulsanne

    Mulsanne The Man = Funk Fusion Chaos

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    I broke through, so to speak, on this past valentines day last week or whatever. I was just sitting around and my good friend of a few years asked if I was busy...so we ended up hanging out, drinking beers, smoking reefer and soon she passes out. I wake her up and she just says how she wants to go to sleep, but doesnt say anything about taking her home :naughty:

    So I took her into my room instead. I'm just taking it slow now but hopefully it will continute to move forward.
     
  22. Toadster

    Toadster have you SHARTEEZED today?

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    if you never try, you will NEVER know!
     

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