break-up question. weird maybe?

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  1. blueberry

    blueberry New Member

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    been a long time lurker around these boards and i figured this place is as good as any to ask about this.

    now i know i may not come off as a nice person asking this but i was wondering if anyone can tell me how to make my gf break up with me instead of me breaking up with her? i mean i've been a complete jerk to her the last couple of weeks. very distant and indifferent and yet she's still with me. we currently live together so maybe that's one of the reasons she's not willing to let go very easily. what can i do to make her sick of me? i've even been acting unreasonably jealous when she's with any guy friends and she apologises to me instead of telling me to fuck off.

    we've been together for just under a year and i really want to get out of it but i feel like if i break up with her, i will hurt her deeply. i figured if i could get her to break up with me instead she might not end up hurting as much.


    any advice? i just want to leave her but hurt her as little as possible and it's not that there is anyone else but i just don't want to be in a relationship anymore. i want to be single again.
     
  2. kiri

    kiri New Member

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    be a man and break up with her yourself, that will hurt a lot less than you being an asshole and dancing around the issue. at least give her the peace of mind.
     
  3. Do it yourself.
     
  4. otherlank

    otherlank OT Supporter

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    Man up. I can't believe you honestly think that she'll hurt less by you being a dick. She'll be heartbroken that the person she loves isnt who they used to be. She's going to be crushed anyway...might as well be mature about it. If you cared at all for her you'd communicate your feelings towards her and possibly you two could have a relationship later where she didn't hate you.
     
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    Falconer OT Supporter

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    Welcome :hug:
     
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  6. gnob1

    gnob1 New Member

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    DUDE break up with her yourself or you'll be stuck!
     
  7. antihero

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    torturing her for weeks isnt making her feel any better. stop being a coward and pull the trigger
     
  8. JemmaX

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    how long have you been living together? how old are you guys?
     
  9. blueberry

    blueberry New Member

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    well i think i get the point... i shouldn't have asked in here lol.

    @ JemmaX: im 24 and she's 25. been living together for only 2 months. i think i made a mistake moving in with her...
     
  10. HuskiRuski

    HuskiRuski Cardinal Fan

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    stop being such a girl.
     
  11. otherlank

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    why shouldn't you have asked in here?

    Just because it wasnt what you wanted to hear?
     
  12. ArthurPewty

    ArthurPewty New Member

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    :werd: You've already shown that you aren't that aren't opposed to hurting her feelings.

    Think about it this way, your next relationship will only repeat the same patterns in this relationship if you don't learn from what you did and change. By actually breaking up with your girlfriend, you will likely be better able to manage some of the issues that arise related to dealing with conflict.

    So there, do it for yourself (because frankly you don't sound interested in doing it for her).
     
  13. jesskasubercool

    jesskasubercool Jesska.

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    coming from a girl...
    i'd rather have my bf break up with me, then being tortured.
    just man up and do it.
     
  14. Skeletor

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    Just do it
     
  15. Gregsaidthat

    Gregsaidthat "Individuality is the new conformity"

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    Is your girl on this board?
     
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    huntz0r New Member

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    How to get a girl to break up with you? Easy... smother her with attention. Don't leave her alone for a second.

    note: this will take a longer time to work if she has low self-esteem.
     
  17. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    :rolleyes: I hate when people are afraid to be the "bad guy." Just fucking do it so she can move on and find someone who won't treat her like an idiot.
     
  18. Gregsaidthat

    Gregsaidthat "Individuality is the new conformity"

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    Yes and I almost fell out of my chair. For some reason that was funny to me! HA
     
  19. Midgetized

    Midgetized Don't mess with Douche Cat

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    You'll get the same answer no matter where you ask. Grow up and break up with her. You don't deserve to be in a relationship if you think it's ok to treat someone like that. Acting like a dick out of nowhere is going to hurt her a lot more than breaking up with her would.
     
  20. blueberry

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    well... can't say my ego hasn't taken a hit on these boards. i feel like i've done the most horrible thing conceivable but whatever.

    i really thought it would be better on her if she broke up with me but after reading the replies on here i'm quite convinced i was wrong. you all seem to have suggested the same thing so i guess im going to just tell her how i feel instead. thanks for the replies.
     
  21. demosnat

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    What you are doing right now will hurt her much more and for much longer than for you to just stop being a pussy and end it. You are teaching her that she deserves to be treated like shit, that she shouldnt have friends etc.
    Scenario a: you do what your doing, hurt her over and over again for however long it takes you to extract you head from your ass, and then finally hurt her in a big way by ending it
    Scenario B: you extract said head NOW, and only hurt her once. Dont talk to her, don't give her hope of getting back together, don't sleep with her, let her go.

    What did you expect? Someone to tell you to cheat on her so you have an "easy out"?
    No offense, but i sort of hope you get hit by a bus.
    Good luck.
     
  22. blueberry

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    obviously you missed my reply but thanks. i have no ill intent towards her. obviously i was wrong thinking it would be easier on her if she broke up with me. i've decided not to go about it that way anymore. i'll just tell her straight up.
    and no offense but i sort of hope you die in car fire. good luck to you.
     
  23. demosnat

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    Thanks. NP.
     
  24. Bruticus

    Bruticus half dead OT Supporter

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    :rofl: demosnat so hostile.

    blueberry - glad you have decided to do the "right thing" and man up.
     
  25. demosnat

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    :wtc: I know. I posted before I saw that he decided to not do what he was asking about. Behaviour like this really, really gets under my skin...
    In case that wasnt obvious :mamoru:
     

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