(Short version of this story: Been dating someone for 7 yrs. We have a kid together. I see him as just a friend. Complicated. Break up or no?) I've been with this guy for about 7 years now, and we have a 2 year old together. I used to be in love with him and wanted to marry him, during the first 3 years that we dated. Then as years went by, I've became less attracted to him. Now I just feel like we're just roommates or friends with benefits. We don't go out together. He spends most of his time on the computer and I sit on the opposite couch watching TV or I'm at work. We hardly ever talk to each other. We probably spend about an hour or two of the day talking and it's usually just me talking about my day or some random crap and him just listening while he's playing on the PC. I've told him that I want to break up because I see us as friends. He got upset. We sort of talked it out. Then a couple days passed and he says to me that if we break up that he'll join the Marines so that he won't have to see me every day (since we have a kid and he wants to see our baby but he wouldn't want to see me), and that's always been his dream and the only reason why he's never joined it was because I didn't want him to. He also said he doesn't want to force me to go out with him. If I really don't love him, then I should leave him. But he said that it's my choice and he still loves me and wants to work things out. At that time I was having mixed feelings because I didn't want for him to leave me but then again, I still wanted to break up. I just still had feelings for him. So I told him I need to think about it. Well now that I've thought about it, I don't want to hold him back from his dreams. I want him to lead a good life, so I want him to go ahead and join the Marines. And I still want to break up. Also, another story into this story (lol)... well there's this guy at my work that I've been interested in. I haven't known him for that long but he seems like a really sweet guy. Well today he handed me his phone number and just said a little comment and then smiled and walked away. Well, um, I'm interested in him but I'm also still in a relationship... a lousy one that I kind of want to end and I don't see it going anywhere. The past year or so, I've only been staying with my bf to please him and my daughter. I can put up with being unhappy in order to please my family. I won't cheat on him because I don't want to be a bad example to my daughter. I've also never cheated on anyone in my life because I despise cheating. (My mom cheated on my dad and that's how their relationship ended... I don't want to do that to my daughter and put her though that... I'd rather end our relationship mutually and stuff) But yeah, if we did break up I wouldn't jump into another relationship. I would want time to myself but maybe go on a couple dates, for fun or whatever. I'm just not sure what to do. Should I continue dating my bf to please him and my daughter? (I hate hurting people and I know how much he loves me but he knows that I don't love him...and I don't want my daughter to grow up thinking I'M the reason why her parents aren't together. Know what I mean?) Or should we break up and date other people? I feel kind of selfish breaking up because it will hurt him and it will hurt my daughter as she gets older because her parents aren't together. I don't know what to do... Advice?