BJ Problems

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  1. MagicGAT

    MagicGAT New Member

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    I CANT Cum from a BJ without help from myself and i really am starting to think its my girl- Idk is this common? can anyone else tell me about problems like this. Maybe im not patient enough should it take more than 10-20 minutes? Does sitting/kneeling/standing/laying have any effect? Its to the point where after 20 minutes i feel really frustrated and awkard and immediatly start thinking about porn and i finish myself off-which is completely not what i want:crying:

    Now granted my gf isnt that skilled. She just goes up and down about half way on he dick and that all. She dosent make noises or try to switch it up- theres really no "fore-play", shes like "i forgot to give a you bj srry" and i unzip my pants and she goes right for it. But the thing is i would feel really turned off/mean/awkward/demanding trying to instruct her on how on to please me. And Correct me if im wrong in thinking that she should be able to realise things need to change (ive made my signs pretty clear the last few times) and to either come to me with suggestions, find some other source, or just experiment.

    I mean i did the same thing with her- shes the first girl i ever pleasured with my hand or orally and i just payed attention to what she liked, upped the teasing and anticipation, and tried new things. Now i give a pretty mean finger fuck

    Is my only option to straight up tell her and feel like a douche?
    OT help me!
     
  2. Cerridwen

    Cerridwen Guest

    If you can't talk with your girl over your preferences on having sex, you shouldn't be having sex with her.
     
  3. maskednegator

    maskednegator Kosmonaut, best we've got...

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  4. Shadoxity

    Shadoxity New Member

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    fkn be happy that ur gf will give u a bj...
    prick!!!
    :p lol

    but main thing is talk 2 her about it!!!
     
  5. MagicGAT

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    ok, agreed

    i feel better after ranting
     
  6. chica&buddies

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    believe it or not, sometimes we're not so smart on figuring out little hints, etc. just tell her straight up what you would like her to do differently.

    :o the technique i use now was developed by a guy that i was with. :rofl: i don't have a penis, so i don't know what's gonna feel good. :dunno:
     
  7. lauren

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    um, ive heard from more than a few guys that they cant come from head. so i dont think its all that uncommon. as for time, ive had to do it for like 40 min before to get the guy off. there are too many factors involved for there to be a set time.

    as for her not doing what you want, well, how is she suposed to know. most girls dont watch porn when they are young, so unless they get feedback from you, how are they suposed to know?

    when shes down on you, tell her what you want, tell her what feels good and if it bothers you, tell her to ease up or change.

    be direct.
     
  8. NotDave

    NotDave New Member

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    i cant cum either. i know what you mean when you say it feels awkward...even looking down sometimes feels awkward for me. i give some direction but then i just give up and hit the cooter ftw :o
     
  9. R KriLLz

    R KriLLz Uncomfortable in my own skin.

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    you ever watch porn... look at a girl giving head and are like "damn, she knows what she's doing!"

    find a chick with a style you might like and show it to her??
     
  10. almostnormal

    almostnormal OT Supporter

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    Jerk off less.
     
  11. RedVsBlue

    RedVsBlue Penguins > *

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    doesnt necessarily have a thing to do with the situation :nono:

    Many males, including myself just don't cum from head. Id rahter be having sex anyways...
     
  12. red97gst

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    I don't think jerking off less is a bad suggestion. if you have masturbated earlier that same day, it very well CAN make you take longer to climax.

    I'm 24 and have had sex well over 1000 times (mostly with the same 3 ppl). First time I came from a BJ was like 6 weeks ago. I kid you not.

    I had the same issues as you, but you have to kindof make the girl feel confident. She is obviously well aware that you're not cumming. Which doesnt make her think shes doin that well. When she starts going down on you just take her hand and put it on your shaft and kindof motion it up and down. be like "it feels good when you do that," etc.

    You need to stay super turned on. Do it with the lights on (girls doin it to me with the lights off i have realized is the main reason ive never climaxed.....half the fun is SEEING whats happening) when possible.

    It helps me if the girl is kindof perpendicular to me, and i can play with her pussy while she is goin down on me. It keeps me turned on..... so you could try something similar. Youve got to do the exact OPPOSITE of things that youd' do during sex to delay orgasm..... in this case you want to speed it up, so you want to be as turned on and ready to explode as possible.

    Start out with foreplay other than her just going down on u. You should be rock hard from before she starts going down

    this is an excellent suggestion as well:

     
  13. Advan

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    who cares use head asforeplay before you go at it so you can both benefit from her being so kind
     
  14. almostnormal

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    I've had trouble myself. Sometimes it works for me, other times... oh well, it still feels good.

    But things work better when its been awhile since I've shot a load.

    Edit: Sometimes not coming just feeds on itself. You get all concerned about whether you'll be able to or not, worrying about her getting tired.. that you never get to the finish. I suspect a key is to just relax.
     
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    you know what turns you on so ask her to do it for you
     
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    I have to completly agree with this.

    Comunication is very important even before entering the bedroom. ;)
     
  17. mrs0323

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    Could it be she doesn't WANT you to cum when she's going down on you? I pull that trick sometimes just to be evil....get him very close and then stop. By all means, you MUST talk about it, before, during and after. Also, that half way down technique may not do it for you. What kills my guy is going ALL the way down very slowly, I mean deep throat city. I do that for about 15 minutes and it's game over. But I didn't learn how to do that overnight and like someone else said, I don't have a dick, so I don't know what works best unless he had TOLD me. I sure as hell had no problem telling him what I liked and didn't like. My motto-either do it right or get your face off of there.
     
  18. niknaim

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  19. FyreDaug

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    Kinda the same with me, dunno what to tell her though, it feels awkward. And I know I do a good job on her, she's tried a couple things before but she usually has to stop soon (while what she is doing IS working, she stops) because her jaw starts to get sore...
     
  20. Germaine

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    Its really only circumcised guys that can't com from head due to loss of sensitivity.
     
  21. Apothis

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    I usually have trouble cumming from head. Not that I can't or never have, and as always, it depends on how horny I am at the time too. I love busting in her mouth, but it doesn't happen all that often. Getting head, for me, is usualy more for foreplay than for a finish.

    Damn, this thread has made me want to do a :69: now.
     
  22. MattThom01

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    I'm circumcized and have no problem cumming from a bj
     
  23. Germaine

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    People that are circumcised from birth that ie. for say 20 years are different.
     
  24. johnny

    johnny shit, baby

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    I have the same problem...it reached a point where I simply had to ask her to jack me off while teasing me orally around the, er, genitalia :o
     
  25. Sean John

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    I've slept with a lot of women and only a few could make me cum off of a BJ w/out my having to fuck their face or assist with my hand. My new GF is a champ...I cum in her mouth all the time. I can lay flat on my back and not move and she can make me cum all the time....

    It's not your girl...I used to tell my ex...what makes you think I can cum off the 3 mins BJs you give me....when I can fuck you for 30 to 45 w/out cumming. She has to do it longer and use technique...Get a porn with a lot of BJs being given. She'll pick up on some tricks...If she does not like porn...Get the Paris Hilton movie..She gives great head and who didn't want to see that.
     

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