I CANT Cum from a BJ without help from myself and i really am starting to think its my girl- Idk is this common? can anyone else tell me about problems like this. Maybe im not patient enough should it take more than 10-20 minutes? Does sitting/kneeling/standing/laying have any effect? Its to the point where after 20 minutes i feel really frustrated and awkard and immediatly start thinking about porn and i finish myself off-which is completely not what i want Now granted my gf isnt that skilled. She just goes up and down about half way on he dick and that all. She dosent make noises or try to switch it up- theres really no "fore-play", shes like "i forgot to give a you bj srry" and i unzip my pants and she goes right for it. But the thing is i would feel really turned off/mean/awkward/demanding trying to instruct her on how on to please me. And Correct me if im wrong in thinking that she should be able to realise things need to change (ive made my signs pretty clear the last few times) and to either come to me with suggestions, find some other source, or just experiment. I mean i did the same thing with her- shes the first girl i ever pleasured with my hand or orally and i just payed attention to what she liked, upped the teasing and anticipation, and tried new things. Now i give a pretty mean finger fuck Is my only option to straight up tell her and feel like a douche? OT help me!