I was told in the Vaginarium to copy my post over here for some extra help Cliffs at bottom. Last night my bf of 6 years (we are both each others firsts) told me he was watching some HBO show where men were letting other guys have sex with their wives/gfs. He seemed overly into the conversation so I asked him what he thought about it and he said he's entertained the idea before. We talked about it for a little while over IM's and on the phone but nothing too serious, or so I thought (I only said that it might be okay with me sometime in the future, but there were a lot of factors). I asked him why he would want to share me with another guy but the only answer I could really get out of him was that it would be fun to watch another guy with me... Anyway, I called him after I got out of class today and he tells me that he talked to one of his friends about our conversation. Then later he says that he actually asked his friend if he wanted to... I never told him that it was okay to ask his friend about this and I am really embarrassed. My bf made it sound out like I was the one wanting sex from his friend and now I feel like avoiding his friend at all costs. He said he talked about it over google chat and I asked to see the conversation and he didn't want to show it to me. He finally showed me tonight and it really pissed me off. I don't understand why he would cross those lines with me And is there more to what he is telling me about why he wants this so bad? SECOND HALF: Thanks for your replies guys, it helps me realize I wasn't over reacting. He came over today and we talked about it. I told him that it really hurt me that he would tell his friend private (AND undecided) things like that without my knowledge. He apologized and admitted that he had no right to do that, especially when we had only talked about it less than 24 hours ago and not in person. I felt a little better about it until I got him to show me his conversation. Then I felt degraded and completely disrespected. He start the conversation with, "man, my gf is being a total slut right now." The rest of the conversation just continued to make me feel belittled. wtf he called me a slut and told his friend I wanted more dick? I just can't get over it no matter how much he says he didn't mean for it to sound like he was talking trash about me. Who refers to their gf as a slut, EVER? I asked him to please tell his friend that the idea of him watching him have sex with me was 95% his idea and that I had no desire to do anything like that (let alone tell him) anytime soon. For God's sake I've only hung out with the guy 3 or 4 times. ARGHHHDadskdjalasdja Cliffs: BF wants to watch me have sex with another guy, less than 24 hours later tells his friend I want to have sex him him (without asking me) I have a lot of questions popping in my head right now but haven't had much time to sort them out since I was at school almost all day.