Discussion in 'Vaginarium' started by killerZees, Oct 23, 2008.
would like to last longer than 10 minutes
Get the first one out of the way ... Fire your own gun before you fire it at her
Pace yourself and learn to slow down
It happens even when going slow
I usually only go once
idk... a girl had me try a cock ring not too long ago (more for fun then to last longer) and that worked well, and even when I went it kept me hard for a lot longer so that helps too.
bummer ... but i'm not saying you have to do it right away. a few hours before will help too
try a thicker condom.
don't go out there with a loaded gun, at least flip the safety on first. that and use condoms, or thicker condoms... or try a cockring.
don't get so giddy and worked up over the sex.
yeah I don't really wear one, I will try it. I wonder if my woman is gonna think Im cheating if all of a sudden I start wearing condoms.
Breathe. Relax. Concentrate on the muscles that are creating the pressure (the ones around your prostate) and relax them.
In the worst case, learn to squeeze those muscles on-demand - they're not the ones that cut off urine flow, incidentally - and squeeze like a bastard just before orgasm. You can completely avoid ejaculation, and for me, this results in continued erection and continuing to have sex.
And multiple orgasms.
Sidenote: It is interesting that many people do not know that men can have multiples as well...they feel good!
use a condom?
Well, yes. That's the natural (and completely awesome) side-effect.
wait, huh, whats this? So where the hell are the muscles creating the pressure?
They're wrapped around your prostate. You know the shuddering pressure you feel when you actually ejaculate? It's those muscles. They're the ones that actually create the motive force that makes the spooge fly. If you clamp them down just before they "pump", you still get the orgasm sensation but *no jizz* (or very little, anyway). Many men (including myself, and apparently Bubba) find that they remain hard and able to orgasm again once they've done this.
For me, the first one is relatively quick, then the others can take awhile. It's pleasant for my wife when she wants to go for awhile.
I should point out that if you sit and think about it, you can flex those muscles individually. It's not easy to separate them from the urine-stoppers to begin with, but concentrate and you'll figure it. Once you've got them flexing, if you can command those muscles to relax when you're feeling close, it can also put off orgasm.
try a cockring.
it restricts blood flow which means more blood in cock and you also last longer.
trust me, it definitely lasts longer. ex would never cum.
Is there anyway to actually work on strengthening those muscles? I find that I can identify them, especially approaching orgasm, but either they're not strong enough or I lack the mental will power to avoid ejaculation
It sounds like a fantastic party trick though and handy for those longer all night sessions
We have this problem sometimes...one of us gets all antsy and busts too quick and the other one just has to finish off quickly.
Going slower and doing more than just "pounding it" seems to help lengthen it. Make out, pull out for 15-30 sec and start up again...all keeps it going for a lot longer time.
OP, are you in a relationship?
Depending on WHY you are shooting quick, it may help to relieve some of the pressure you have on yo to perform well. Have a talk with your girlfriend/wife and tell her that you've been havign a hard time holding out, but that you want to try and improve your stamina. That way if you're havign sex and you start getting close too early, you can say something and she'll be more understanding and not be confused if you slow down, stop thrusting, or take it out and start doing other things to her.
I've been lucky enough to have a girlfriend who usually comes quicker than I do, but communication is a hell of a thing to have!
Also, to echo a few of the above posters, cock-rings are a neat toy to help you last longer. You can even get ones with vibrators attatched so that hopefully it'll make her go quicker!
its called kegels and it helps..
the #1 best way to last longer is to have sex than more sex than more sex than more sex than more sex until you find that you have become.... experienced.
Ha, that's one way to look at it!
Experience definately helps, and so does doing kegels.
You just need to train your body, and repeition is a very effective way of learning.