Discussion in 'Vaginarium' started by i dangled you, Aug 21, 2007.
Guys you can thank me later.
What does that mean?
see my thread lulz.
you're going to do this to a crazy and totally get a stalker
I had to read it 10 times before I figured it out
until she tells all her hott friends what a desperate loser you are and shows them messages.
then you're like
dude, i've told you about this. the only thing it accomplishes is that you sound like a total dick
The best way to kill a relationship is to tell the other person you're not interested in one, and follow through with your actions. Playing around is stupid, and it the other person might not get it, so you're just dragging them along, which is lame.
I don't think anyone understood, I was telling people how to keep a relationship alive here, not how to kill it. I was showing the best way to cause most women to lose interest. Therefore guys, you need to act the opposite way to this.
I am going to disagree with you on this one, because we debate this all the time. A highly interested girl if you tell her you are not interested in a relationship, that is going to cause her to want you more. (Don't use yourself as an example). I have found as have numerous other people who do this, that a girl who is highly interested will be more interested if you reject her. The more you don't want her, the more she wants you.
At the same time I posted what not to do in a relationship, if you want to keep the average girls attention.
If a guy I'm interested in tried to play the "hard to get" game, I would just laugh and move on. I'm not going to put in more effort and not have it matched in any relationship. I believe in equal effort. If he ignored me, or showed disinterest, I would totally back off.
How did you come to this conclusion?
so by your logic, you playing hard to get or using a guy for attention is ok
yeah, about that
It's a pretty reasonable response. I am not going to chase anyone that shows disinterest. I'd be much more interested in him if he showed interest in me. It's an equal effort thing.
Where did you get that? I don't play games, I'm pretty real with people. If I show disinterest in a guy, it's because I'm truly not interested, not because I want him more or something stupid. The reverse logic doesn't work with me.
why are you getting so defensive?
ok, so humor me. you're not interested in a guy. would you continue to talk to him and string him along?
Haha, I'm not getting defensive, I'm replying to what you said and trying to understand how you came up with your idea based on my post.
No, if I'm not interested it's pretty clear. I either say "I'm not interested", or not pay any attention to them.
humor me some more
what happens if you're not sure if you're interested?
i'm just picking your brain btw
i like learning about people and the way they behave
Personally, I know what I'm looking for in a guy, so I know relatively quickly whether I want to have this guy as a friend, a boyfriend, or not at all. I don't leave them in the dark about my intentions, because I'm not here to waste anyones time, there's too many people that are compatible with me to lead on guys who aren't.
then how do you tell them that?
only reason i ask is that i was getting mixed signals from this girl about 6 months ago and i could never get a definitive answer from her one way or the other. kicked the bitch to the curb, then was informed after i did by one of her friends that she wanted to date me but now wanted nothing to do with me because i damaged her ego by rejecting her. i said that was too fucking bad because she should have said something to me. after all, we aren't in middle school anymore, kids.
I tell them in a normal and upfront way, there is no better. And with guys (and girls) you have to be really clear, because they don't understand anything else .
You are full of shit, you say one thing and behave another way, you'll lead a guy on for your enjoyment of the attention.
Social Experiment Proven Correct.
Guys Don't Listen to Beast, he has no idea what's going on.
Haha, I have enough going on, I don't need attention from a guy I don't plan on being with. Why would I sit here and tell you this if I didn't practice it? I have nothing to hide/prove here in the Vag . I'm just telling you how I view things, truthfully.