I was at work today, when I got a call from my best friend's older sister, who I have known my entire life (21 years)... I coudln't answer, so when I could, I checked my voicemail. Her sister left me a message saying "**** was in a car accident, she's in *** in on the ... " so and so floor, room number.. I panicked immediately, because I didn't know the extent of what happened, I ran back inside to tell my supervisors that I needed to go home right then. They were very understanding and in a matter of 10 minutes I was on my way to the hospital. I found my way upstairs and ended up in the elevator with her dad somehow (he was lost, didn't know where to go), and he just looked.... I dont know, scared out of his mind. I didn't know what to say, or what to do, and he said to me, "Her car burned up." After that, we just walked along in silence until we got to her room. When we walked in, she was fine. Well, she looked fine from what I could see, and was sitting up, talking, just being herself. She had a few broken bones, and some cuts and bruises from the seatbelt, but that was about it. She had to have surgery to repair the broken bones in her ankle. I felt like once I knew she was okay, I was immediately exhausted. I asked her a few questions about what happened... as she told me the story, I grew more and more amazed that she WALKED out of it alive. Then I started to get angry. She doesn't live in the same city that I do; I moved about a year ago, and through her accident ended up in my city at the hospital. I found out that she had been here the night before-- arrived early in the afternoon, and spend the night with a friend in a hotel room so they could shop, and blah blah. I dont' know if they were drinking for SURE, but I could almost promise that they were... I jsut know them that well. Apparently they kind-of pulled an all-nighter, and the friend kicked her out of the room during one of their common fights (which usually only happen when they are drunk), so my friend decided to drive at 6am, 2 hours home to where she lives. Now, this is where I start to get angry. I need to have some opinions on if I have a right, or if there's a reason why I'm so angry about this. #1. She comes to town and doesn't bother to call me, even though I haven't seen her in over a month. #2. She and her friend get in a fight and instead of calling me to crash at my place (where I have TWO extra rooms and beds and couches, and blah blah) decides to get in the car. #3. SHE GETS IN THE CAR, MOST LIKELY INTOXICATED TO DRIVE 2 HOURS HOME WHEN SHE HASN'T SLEPT AT ALL. #4. I think she's just dumb. That's all I can say. I can't explain it. I just can't believe that she, at her age of almost 22, would think it a good idea to pull something like this. The accident happened about 2 miles from her parents house on a road that she knew like the back of her hand... I dont understand. Although I am EXTREMELY happy that she's alive and well, I cannot help but be angry. I go back and forth between crying and being so angry I could scream. Any thoughts on if this is normal? If I should talk to her, or just leave it alone? I feel like I"m being selfish a bit on how she just didn't call me, but I can't help how I feel. Even if no one has any advice or thoughts, I still thank you for being my sounding board. It felt really good to get this all off my chest. CLIFFS: There are none. Please read, I know it's really really long.