SRS best friend serial dater..

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  1. big 1

    big 1 New Member

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    my best friend is a "serial dater". every guy she dates is "the one", and they will date for 5 months max. and break up. shes been engaged twice, but never actaully goes through with it......it takes her two weeks to find the NEXT "one." when shes in between guys, she will come out with me and our friends, but as soon as shes with the "next one" she stops calling... if she DOES coem out at all, she will go on and on about the guy shes with. she has no life outside of the guy when shes dating him.
    what should i do ??
    shes not mean or rude to me or anything, but im sick of hearing about her going on forever about joe or jim or whoever. what to do??
     
  2. Gregsaidthat

    Gregsaidthat "Individuality is the new conformity"

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    Just let her do what she wants to do.

    No matter what you say to do to try to change her, that is what she is going to do.

    Sorry to hear that she has a problem staying with men.

    Sounds like she is alittle insecure!
     
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    Her behaviour doesn't sound all that unusual to me. Therefore I'm not sure there's any reason to get her to change (why?)

    As for how it annoys you, maybe it's limited to how she drops you cold as soon as she has a guy, then when she doesn't, she uses you by talking endlessly about...herself basically.

    So it's less about the serial dating, and more about how she's basically....rather self-centered.

    Yes?

    So maybe you don't need to be so available to her. Just a thought.
     
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    Write a book about her, or a blog, or something, as a warning for other people. I have a friend like that, and if I had been clever enough to write a book about her life I am sure it would have been a best seller.

    Seriously.
     
  5. Ameter

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    She's obviously the clingy type. She's afraid to be alone, and defines herself by being in a relationship. That's all that matters to her, therefore shes not interested in being around her other friends when shes with someone
     
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    Maybe Maybe not Maybe fuck yourself

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    I had a friend like this. Notice I used "had".
     
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    she's not concerned with anyone other than herself. A friend's someone you can go to with problems, not just someone who comes around once in a while
     
  8. Darketernal

    Darketernal Watch: Aria The Origination =)

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    I am also puzzled on how you can define her as your best friend, she's just using you that's all.
     
  9. big 1

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    hm.....ive come to the conclusion that perhaps i should slowly detatch myself from her, so eventually when she calls, i will stop answering her calls....i think you guys have made me realize that i have better friends..:hs: :hs:
     
  10. Midgetized

    Midgetized Don't mess with Douche Cat

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    Either stop being there for her when she does decide to talk to you or just confront her about it. Say something like "Ok so you want to be my friend now but how long until you ditch me for the next guy that comes along?" She sounds pretty self centered so it probably won't really matter what you say but at least she'll know how you feel about it.
     
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    You have just described my best friend down to a T too.

    My advice is to just go out with your other friends, and if you're that desperate for her to come along, make an effort to include her boyfriend in the plans too.
     
  12. Ameter

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    im sorry, but what kind of pathetic friends do you have if this person qualifies as your best friend?

    Or do you make a habit of calling every friend your best friend?
     
  13. Crush

    Crush Epidural hematoma up in this bitch

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    Stay away comes to mind. Those people are not good friends.
     
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    For your information, he has been there for me for 14 years, and just because he occasionally would rather spend time with his girlfriend than with me doesn't mean I should stop calling him my best friend.
     
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    Then it didnt describe your friend to a T then, did it?
     

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