SRS Best Friend Hookups

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  1. RotiEatter

    RotiEatter New Member

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    So...

    Anyone gotten into a serious relatioship with their best friend and how has it worked out for you guys?

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  2. getoffofit

    getoffofit New Member

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    cant say anything about the relationship, but the sex was pretty damn good.
     
  3. Platy

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    Worst idea ever.




    Coincidentally the best sex of my life...
     
  4. Darketernal

    Darketernal Watch: Aria The Origination =)

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    If you are friends for longer then a year its a bad idea, basically if you don't show that your intentions are 'beyond' just 'friends' then that person will get a whole other 'picture' of you , mainly as a support and not as a lover, if you break that image you'll not only lose your friendship but also risk a possible breakup between the two of you meaning losing everything you had with that person.
     
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    That happened to a friend I know, and they haven't talked in 8 months.
     
  6. johan

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    Go for it if you like to roll it double or nothing.
    You'll either have it made, or else you will lose it all. The love, the sex, the friendship, everything.

    So if this is just a temporary fling -- just trying it out, see where it goes kind of thing, AND you really value the friendship...

    then you'd better not do it.

    If you're prepared to lose the friendship...then hit it. And hit it quick.
     
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    best and first sex of my life, ruined the friendship
     
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    We aren't friends anymore

    But it was the best relationship I ever had
     
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    You shouldn't do it WHILE you are best friends.
     
  10. chica&buddies

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    if you genuinely like this person, your best friend, then go for it! don't be worried about what MIGHT happen
     
  11. chica&buddies

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    if you genuinely like this person, your best friend, then go for it! don't be worried about what MIGHT happen... you MIGHT be perfect for each other

    everything that happens, happens for a reason. the relationship may end, and you might not be friends anymore, but the vice versa might be true, too. :) it all depends on the parties involved.

    the most important thing is to follow your heart.
     
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    truer words have never been spoken.

    in my own experience, i lost one of the best friends i've ever had. however, i don't know if i regret hooking up with my best friend. it was extremely fun and i have so many cherished memories, but i hated to see our friendship crumble in the end. at the very least, my curious affections for her were satisfied.

    on the bright side, after over half a year, we've finally just begun to rebuild our friendship. but i know things could never be the same again. maybe. :hs:
     
  13. chica&buddies

    chica&buddies Active Member

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    don't ever say that ;) i have been there. things will get easier :) it can work. my first ex and i were really good friends, and we lost touch of each other a few years ago. we have been in contact ever since i called him on his birthday this year (which was in may ;)).
     
  14. RotiEatter

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    sigh, i wish i could post my story... but its waaaaaaaaaay to long and I really don't care to read the advice Ill get. I know everyone will say move on , that seems to be the common advice around here.
     
  15. JohnJohnJohnson

    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    i don't know why people can't be friends after a relationship. my ex is now my best friend. how's that for reverse order.
     
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    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    you just have to ignore those people
     
  17. the ground folds

    the ground folds rest your trigger on my finger

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    i think it has to do with going from friends to a relationship. Its hard to go back to just being friends again.
     
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    I wouldn't mind getting a "special" birthday present from c&b. ;)
     
  19. DiggityDogg

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    Are you kidding? Maybe people would say that because it is the truth of the situation. Don't be too stubborn to rule out good advice. That's no way to grow as a person.

    Post the story in a seperate thread and I will give you the best advice you will ever hear. In a year or two you will be telling me how I changed your life. If you don't believe me, read the following thread and see how I already helped others. BTW, skip all posts until you reach the posts by Zeke's Chaingun-that's me. Pick up the thread there, it will be like the 50th post or so.


    http://www.sherdog.net/forums/showthread.php?t=219079
     
  20. johan

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    Okay, don't move on. Allow your life to grind to a halt. Keep focusing on someone who clearly rejects you.

    It's your life, live it how you want. Eventually you'll become really depressed.
    Don't let people tell you any shit. Even if they've been there themselves. Or seen the exact same fucking circumstances 10000X over.

    Yeah, I know, I know "...but the circumstances AREN'T the same see, in your case, the girl wore blue, and my girl wears pink...".
    So they're TOTALLY different!

    Or I love the "I haven't spoken to her in a year, I stalk her and see her partying and having fun with a new guy. She blocked my AIM, email, voice calls and the last time we spoke she told me to get lost..... Do you think we still have a chance?"
     
  21. RotiEatter

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    hahaha

    I completely understand what you are saying and I'm not saying you are wrong. I just don't want to type my story because its really long and I don't care that much. I don't need opinions on it.

    I mean, its not like I'm stopping my life and sitting around waiting for her. I hang out with her all the time, thats not the problem. I'm dating some other girl from my other thread right now. That's going well also.

    Honestly, we are pretty much boyfriend and girlfriend, there is just no official title on it. I don't care that much though, I don't go out of my way or anything. She is my best friend and has been for awhile. I like her, but I don't kill myself for her. :)

     
  22. chica&buddies

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    :rofl: oh really? my back and scalp massages are pretty "special" ;) :big grin:
     
  23. johan

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    <this is being posted from a marble soaker>

    Ahhhhhh, I could sure use a back massage right now. Work is killing me. Hey baby, where'd you put my bourbon...

    ;)
     

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