Best advice received/read on here?

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  1. RyeLou

    RyeLou OT Supporter

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    What is the best advice someone from OT:Vag has given you or you have read that was posted for someone else?

    The one in my mind that sticks out the most is fairly basic and seems simple...but I guess sometimes it's those kinds of things that are the ones most over looked.

    I forget who it was (Bandwagon or Poco maybe? I'm sure they would both agree either way) but it was something like "have the mind set that the other person is privileged to be hanging out/dating/with you"
     
  2. bandwagon

    bandwagon Copy/Paste

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    Yea that's a fairly common 'frame' in pick-up or seduction. Be the prize.
     
  3. xinster

    xinster New Member

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    be yourself.



    jklawlz!
     
  4. Yail Bloor

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    That's one of the most important things, for sure.

    We all have internal beliefs. My opinion is that the majority of young men in the United States have an internal belief that women are of greater value than men (or to break it down further, they believe the vagina is worth more than the penis).

    It certainly seems to me that our culture promotes this idea. That belief hampered my interactions with women until I became aware of this belief, realized that I didn't like it, and made a decision to change it.

    Most of my past failures were as a result of believing women have to be put on a pedestal and "won" - basically most of us men believe the woman is the prize, and that causes us to do things that turn women off.
     
  5. PocoDiablo

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    The advice I tend to give out that I consider "high ranking" would be stuff like:

    The less you talk, the longer you last.
    Look for indicators of interest.
    Be the prize.
    Make decisions.
    Be a gentleman - gentle but a mature, adult man.
    Be yourself, be a little cocky, and be confident when people try to knock you down.

    Etc.
     
  6. Yail Bloor

    Yail Bloor OT Supporter

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    I love this one!

    So many guys meet a girl and the girl wants to talk on the phone for long periods of time and send txt messages all day.

    The guy sees that this is what she wants and he likes her so he figures he is doing the right thing...

    WRONG!

    Chatting will rarely build attraction in her, but the flip side is that the likelihood of him saying something that will hurt his chances with her is great.

    Like David D says "Give her the gift of missing you." You can't do that when you are in constant communication with her!
     
  7. EPD Hater

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    So if the girl calls, (and you are available and you see she is calling), should you just ignore the phone call and be "unavailable"?
     
  8. awlewis

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    all girls love it when you finish on their face or stick it in their butt.
     
  9. PocoDiablo

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    Sometimes, yes.
     
  10. Socrates

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    The most important advice i've heard, which I don't know if I originally heard it or said it on this board, or on another site, is for men to focus on their own life and become the best person they can be, without worrying about impressing women. The more you succeed at this, the less game you have to worry about having.
     
  11. Yail Bloor

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    I'm a fan of "I'm busy [changing the spark plugs on my car, building a fence, etc.] I'll call you back"

    then I don't call back
     
  12. erobbins

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    I learned that I can get laid left and right by pretending to be someone completely different than who I actually am :coolugh:
     
  13. scent of a wookie

    scent of a wookie OT Supporter

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    this thread has a lot of good advice so far
     
  14. Placebo

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    You should work on that... :ugh:
     
  15. erobbins

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    oh, I typoed. I meant to say that people who do that are just lying to themselves
     
  16. Placebo

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    Why do you need to lie about yourself to get laid? How about better yourself so that you can actually get laid consistently and/or have a serious relationship if you want one.
     
  17. lauren

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    cause girls dont like nice guys. :hsugh:
     
  18. Toda Party

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    It's about improving yourself. If something you're doing isn't getting the results you'd like, you change it. For some reason, some people think that doesn't apply to dealing with the opposite sex. Just everything else in life.
     
  19. RedVsBlue

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    Just shows all advice isnt for everyone and every relationship is different.

    Had I followed that advice, I certainly wouldnt be in the happy marriage I am in now. :dunno:

    Thats the best thing I learned, everyone is really completely different and nothing can be applied globally
     
  20. Yail Bloor

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    There are always exceptions.

    I doubt your wife would have lost interest in you had you been less available to her in the beginning stages of your relationship.
     
  21. Falconer

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    It's weird that that works on women. If a chick said that to me "I'll call you back" but didn't call me back, I'd be like "wtf shady ho" and drop her.
     
  22. RedVsBlue

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    I doubt you know my wife, and I doubt our relationship would be enarly as strong. Once again, everyone is different. I am not an exception to the rule, because that should not be the rule. It isnt like that applies to the majority, or minority, it applies to specific relationships. You may see it as an exception because it doesnt apply to you or your relationships
     
  23. Toda Party

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    We're talking about meeting and dating women, not long term relationships.
     

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