Been dating for a couple months..what does this mean?

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  1. sdubz

    sdubz New Member

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    Ive been dating this girl and we really like each other...

    she says that im not obligated to her though...aka i can talk to other girls and shes okay with it...but she wont do the same because she is not like that..

    she said she knows that i have fun with my friends talking to other girls and that if i started liking another girl that she would want me to tell her..

    does she even like me??
     
  2. haargerman

    haargerman ayuh.

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    how old are the both of you?
     
  3. sdubz

    sdubz New Member

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    girls are so confusing!
     
  5. ChipOnShoulder

    ChipOnShoulder New Member

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    Though rare, some girls are:

    1. Pragmatic: maybe she is looking for just a casual relationship
    2. Bi-Sexual. Unlikely, but possible.
    3. Crazy. She's actually super duper clingy, but is trying to pretend she isn't, knowing that most guys find clingy girls super unattractive.

    Either way, you probably want to find out. Easiest and most accurate way is to ask her directly. However, NEVER ask a girl "do you like me?" because that's pretty much the most insecure/needy thing a guy could ask. Instead, you're just going to have to read her responses/body language when you talk your relationship with her.

    Since you're not on sure footing, be sure to play it cool, meaning, don't the insecure/needy one.

    From her response that she won't do the same, i'm guessing she is #3, but I'm just reading the 4 sentences you wrote. You're going to have to figure it out for yourself.

    And don't forget: if she doesn't like you, don't throw yourself to ground and cry, haha. When you're 21, you're barely and adult, you have your whole future in front of you.
     
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    gkremian New Member

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    It sounds like a trap. That being said though, you can "talk to other girls" and she's okay with it? You should be able to talk to other girls no matter what :big grin: The only way for you to find out is to directly ask her what she means by saying you're not obligated and ask about your relationship. "Are we exclusive?" is a good one for you to ask, and in the mean time I just wouldn't do anything that would make her think that you've been playing around. Saying "you can do something, but I won't because I'm not like that," is sketchy and makes me think she's insecure and trying to hide it.
     
  7. Kinks

    Kinks Sup. OT Supporter

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    +1 I think it's a trap. It's exceptionally rare for a woman to be that pragmatic.

    Call her bluff, if she flips out then dump her. If she really is cool about it then she might be a keeper :)
     
  8. LBFilmGuy

    LBFilmGuy LOL why u mad tho?

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    In other words, I am banging other dudes, don't listen to a word I say.
     
  9. sportsjunkie

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    maybe she's waiting for a commitment from you. seems like she doesn't want to come off as clingy; aka yes she does like you
     
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    Seems like she likes you but is reserved enough to not dedicate herself til she knows YOU want her.

    At the same time, it sounds like shes reluctant to be in a relationship and that is her way of keeping enough 'distance' so she doesnt become all clingy and needy to you.

    :dunno:
     
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  12. D7

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    Batshit crazy in fact

    :werd:
     
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    It's not a trap... it's a woman's test. She's testing you, if you like her don't fail the test.
     
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    Am I the only one who thinks the people saying she's crazy are going off the deep end with this?

    It doesn't seem like anything serious to me at all. Sounds to me like she wants to try and remain aloof about the relationship just to see where you are at. Nothing more, nothing less.
     
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    She's no more crazy and any other woman...
     
  17. D7

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    have you been in the girls locker room? :mamoru: (and not as a spy ;))
     
  18. The Terminator

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    I agree.

    ALOT of girls are suspicious of guys they are dating, or even married to. It's just something that has to be dealt with. Though obviously, some are worse than others. I think she likes you for sure, but wants to test you and how you may react to such a comment.

    Ultimately, from what you said, it comes across as if she's still testing the waters when it comes to you.
     
  19. Ford4Life

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    If you like her, tell her you aren't going to go after other women, and you want an exclusive relationship with her.

    She wants to see your reaction. Welcome to the world of womens games.
     
  20. Specialist23

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    :werd: she waiting to see your response. if you want to keep her happy, say that you'll do the same.
     

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