Bad performance first time...

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  1. Oddo

    Oddo And then Trogdor smote to Kerrek and all was laid

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    So I had been out with this girl a few times before tonight; when she came over and we watched a movie. After the movie things heated up.

    Here is the problem. I guess I should have jerked off today when I was thinking about doing so. I blew my load in under 5 minutes. Which is pretty ridiculous for myself when I'm wearing a condom. I mean, I don't understand that part, but its not really the why's of the situation that are bothering me.

    What I'm wondering is: HOW negatively this reflects on me? Before tonight she had been seemed pretty interested, texting me today to see if I still wanted to hang out after I had mentioned it earlier in the week. I dunno, I'm not going to bother typing more right now because few will probably read this much as is.

    Everything else went really well tonight...besides the sex.

    Cliffs: Had sex with a new friend for the first time and was unimpressive, by any means. I'm wondering how poorly this reflects on me.
     
  2. MCohen

    MCohen #NotMyPresident #AmericaIsAlreadyGreat #GoSolar OT Supporter

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    she will give you another chance if she really likes you. Fuck it up this time and you're probably done though
     
  3. ForgottenSpiral

    ForgottenSpiral Hope and Irony OT Supporter

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    Is this more of a hook up scenario or a relationship scenario? In my experience if it's more of a relationship that you're building, girls tend to be understanding if you haven't gotten any in a while and you don't last long. That being said, if you did it right and had enough foreplay first, then the actual time spent fucking is less of a concern (unless it is a matter of seconds or is consistently too short). Just my 2 cents.
     
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    victimizati0n New Member

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    if shes into you she will give you more chances, if she is a whore looking for sex, you're outta there.
     
  5. ForgottenSpiral

    ForgottenSpiral Hope and Irony OT Supporter

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    MCohen #NotMyPresident #AmericaIsAlreadyGreat #GoSolar OT Supporter

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    I'm always right, son.
     
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    just_another_on New Member

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    Pretty much sums it up
     
  8. Abomb

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    :bowrofl:






    :ugh:
     
  9. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    Chill out man. As the only woman responding in this threead let me tell you that a majority of women are not disgusted or appalled when a guys blows his load in under 5 minutes. The only kind of women who get really upset are the one's that aren't really into you or are such huge sluts they are just hunting for an orgasm and not a connection.

    Basically, I am saying if she likes you she honestly wont give a shit, in fact, she's possibly a little proud. A lot of women equate a guy getting off fast with them either being really hot or doing something good sexually.

    This is for you and any other guy who has came fast-if it happens again don't spend 5 minutes in shame apologizing. Laugh and say "damn, you were so amazing I couldn't help myself, I'm sorry!" Immedately the focus is on her and she'll most likely eat it up.
     
  10. D7

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    Also, if you had jerked off before, there is a possibility that you would last too long and that just hurts, so don't kick yourself over that.
     
  11. Abomb

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    would rather last too long then too short :hsugh:
     
  12. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    Well that's nice, most times if a guy lasts too long I get bored as hell.
     
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    MCohen #NotMyPresident #AmericaIsAlreadyGreat #GoSolar OT Supporter

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    One of you is doing something wrong then. It depends on your definition of what "too long" is though.
     
  14. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    I'm really not worried about it. My point is many guys are obsessed with the idea of lasting long (like an hour every time :ugh:) and women don't always want hour long sex.
     
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    Oh, in that case, I agree then. Going for an hour after no sex for like a week is mind-blowing though.
     
  16. Abomb

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    15 minutes of super hard pounding in different positions and my woman is done.
     
  17. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    Oh of course, but we are talking on the regular.
     
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    ForgottenSpiral Hope and Irony OT Supporter

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    If only it really worked that way though... I could replace exercising with sex! :p Oh well.
     
  19. MCohen

    MCohen #NotMyPresident #AmericaIsAlreadyGreat #GoSolar OT Supporter

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    If time is flying when you're having sex, you're doing it wrong.
     
  20. MCohen

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    I'm just saying if 15 minutes (usually) of sex is enough or getting boring, something must be wrong.
     
  21. Ford4Life

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    Look at the bright side, 5 minutes is better than 30 seconds. When in doubt, go down to her to make sure she gets off to.
     
  22. Oddo

    Oddo And then Trogdor smote to Kerrek and all was laid

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    It is more of relationship I guess. She had said things such as "You'll get used to that" and when meeting her friend, the friend kept saying similar things, such as "I'm sure we'll see each other again" (maybe a bad example). But in terms of looking for a relationship I had been getting pretty positive feedback. Not sure what I'm looking for at the moment though, I guess I should rely on the relationship potential for getting another chance to prove myself, lol.

    This is my favorite answer I guess, its a win/win angle. I don't want to waste my time trying to be king dick to some hooch disguised as a librarian (she's a librarian at school)

    Again, this one points me to the truth in a quick way like the answer before.

    I think i was stressing way too much about this. I mean, she is quite attractive and all, but she is NOT worth the amount of pressure I put on myself last night. I couldn't sleep! Stupid pride.
     
  23. Oddo

    Oddo And then Trogdor smote to Kerrek and all was laid

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    I'm not too sure about going down on someone who is currently still in the "strange" category.
     
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    Toda Party .....

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    If you can't get a woman off in 15 minutes, something must be wrong.
     
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    Some dudes are obsessed with the time. My cousin is a perfect example, he thinks the longer time the better the sex. Though for Christs sake if you're having sex for an hour you better make sure your girl is getting off as well.:mamoru:
     

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