This post again started as a response to another post and grew out to something I think will benefit a lot of the people here - so that's why it is a bit particularly addressed (no names though mods ). A lot of us here in the Vag, and on OT are very scientifically and logically-oriented people - it's the nature of IT, computer-savvy, internet-forum type people. I have always been and hope I will always be the kind of person who tries to look at a situation very objectively, very logically, and try to make my decisions based on a totally objective basis. Unfortunately, sometimes it's kind of hard to tell when you are actually objectively observing a situation or whether you are going with an emotional response and then trying to FIND evidence to try to justify to yourself that your emotional view is right - even if you are ignoring all the counter-evidence that shows you are quite in the wrong. A lot of this exists in your ideas about "whores" or "good girls." As a woeful addition your already misfounded maddona-whore complex, you believe that what causes attraction in one type of girl is vastly different from what causes it in another. This is not true. Women are attracted to masculine polarity, the things I wrote about in my identity posts - they are attracted to men. The subtle differences in what they value more are minute compared to the core pieces. Until you lose your blindspots and your limiting beliefs and your ideas about the differences in the attraction mechanisms of "intellectual" women and "whores" ... Until you truly embrace the fact that you have to change, you are not going to. Your ideas do not mesh with what is actually going on in the real, physical world. If you opened your eyes and stopped trying to backwards rationalize your EMOTIONAL feelings about things, you would notice this too. Everyone does the backwards rationalization. But it hurts you much more because you are a very logically minded person, and you are able to convince yourself even more thoroughly than those who do not have as of a strong rational mind. Myself, I try to be as logically minded as I possibly can; it is my default mode of examination. But the trick is to look at every decision you make and see if you are really in a position to make an objective assessment, or whether you are going with your gut reaction and then looking for excuses and backwards rationalizing that decision in order to convince yourself. You are using your intellect to try to justify your emotional, subjective feelings on what picking up girls should be like, or what kind of girls are sluts or are not sluts, or, and I was DEFINITELY someone who used to do this, why the "cynical, depressed, 'intellectual'" view of reality and the world is the one you should adhere to. But you have to really look deep inside and see if that's what's really going on, or if that's your gut feeling and you are finding an excuse to justify it and avoid changing your beliefs. Because changing (bad) beliefs is at the very core of self improvement, something which should be a lifelong quest for all of us.