Bachelor Party -- Whats goin to far?

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  1. Project X

    Project X New Member

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    What is considered goin too far in a bachelor party? Im thinkin about having a few strippers and escorts at mine. Chillin with them kissin and touchin their bodies, but not her pussy. Watchin them play with eachother..lettin them touch me and kiss me, but not on the lips and not letting them touch my penis.. maybe through my pants.

    what other ideas do you guys have.. im thinking about having it in vegas for a few nights.. like thur-sun or somthing.
     
  2. machazure

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    If you truly love the girl you are going to be getting married to...should you really have be thinking how far you can go without it being 'too far' ? Shouldn't the real question be how you can stay as loyal as possible to your future wife?

    I think stippers and escorts at a bachelor party are wrong and I will not have them before I get married. I don't think there can be any innocent fun in them at all...It undermines the sanctities of marriage while disregarding the commitment, respect, etc you have for your future wife.

    Maybe you should rethink the stripper idea and have a celebration that you have found that one special person whom you want to spend the rest of your life with through marriage.
     
  3. Project X

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    problem is that my girl has been with a lot of guys before me and i have had none.. for that reason i feel like i want to get to have some girls ot have fun wiht.. no sex.. no kissing
     
  4. machazure

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    If you just want to do it because your girl has been with other girls it doesnt sound like you are ready to get married to her.......

    The past is the past...it shouldnt matter about her ex's and all if ya'll are in love enough to commit your lives to each other. You should love her despite that and not want to take 'revenge' by being with other girls because you dont like the fact she has been with other guys.
     
  5. RuskeR

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    I wouldn't get married if you feel that way. Fooling around with a stripper isn't going to help the situation.
     
  6. Project X

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    what are some good locations to have a bachelor party? vegas, south beach, europe, cancun??

    how long are bachelor parties usually..whats the normal range?
     
  7. scifimom

    scifimom Fear is the mind killer. I will face my fear and l

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    You're not ready to get married. Bachelor parties are a 1 night (several hours) event. I would not want my future husband to engage in the behavior you seem to be looking forward to, nor would I want him to feel like he needed to "catch up" in experience with a stripper or anyone else.
     
  8. HoodRich

    HoodRich Professional Street Nigga OT Supporter

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    bachelor parties can be anywhere from 1 day (lame) to about a week. I've had 4 of my 7 close friends get married and each time we've flown them out for a 4 day Vegas trip and always have a great time. Vegas is great for exactly what you want to do. You arent married yet so I dont think anything is too far.
     
  9. Cerridwen

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    I completely disagree.
    My husband went to a strip club for his bachelor party, ( a no touching one).
    I wouldn't have married him if he had done the things the original poster described.
    We might not have been married yet, but why does that piece of paper somehow change what he can or cannot do with others? His commitment shouldn't be any different (once he decided to propose, it was there).
    And this is a discussion you should be having with your future wife, not OT. ;) If your wife is cool with things like this,then go for it.
    If she isn't, you doing something like this WILL cause problems in your marriage! She WILL resent you for it!
    You say you are nervous because she has had plenty of men while you haven't had many women, well then maybe you should think about that BEFORE you get married.
     
  10. JustaMeThang

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    I remember your thread from 2 months ago, sayin you have been with her for 7 months and cant get over her past, how you wanted to wait til marriage but she kinda 'conned' you until it one night while away. If after 9 months of datin, you are still resentful of her past, maybe you are indeed movin too fast. Relationships arent about one-upin your partner....and its sounds like that is what you are attemptin you do...'get even' for her havin a more lively sexual past then you have. She's not at fault and shouldnt have to be at a detriment bc of it since shes obviously in love with you. You shouldnt hold it over her head or think of ways to get even via a bachelor party where you can push the limit...to come out 'even' in the end. On another note, if she's 20, how old are you?
     
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  12. Agave

    Agave God bless America, and no place else.

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    Your girl is a slut then, why do you want to marry her anyway? She'll probably continue her slutty ways and then you'll be stuck with her until she divorces you and takes half of your assets.
     
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  14. Project X

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    you are right.. this is the girl i want to marry im 22.. i do not like the fact she had more lively sexual past then me.. and u are right i kind of feel i need to get even.. i could never and will never cheat on her but i feel like i should push the evelope as far as it can go on my bachelor party when we get married.. i know i am wrong for thinking this.. but its just how i feel. i would feel better if i did this and we got married..
     
  15. Coco Monkey

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    what happens in Vegas, stays in Vegas.


    thats all you need to know.


    go forth, and have the time of your young life.
     
  16. AstroGirl

    AstroGirl If I don't respond it's because I have severe ADD

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    Her mosa? ITS MY MOSA!!!
    Yeah, I will have to agree with "most" of the people on here. Marriage is just a piece of paper, if you have the feelings that you want to be with someone for the rest of your life then why would you want to do all you can before that little piece of paper is signed? Emotionally you are already married, now don't fuck it up! And if you feel this way you should back out now, or maybe wait a bit. Because I can tell you from first hand experience divorces are never pretty, and do cost quite a bit of money. It is not something to play with.
     
  17. MovieMan84

    MovieMan84 Here we go

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    Is your fiancee ok with you screwing around with strippers at your bachelor party? Would you feel confident that you could describe the whole party in some detail to her and not have her leave you on the spot?

    Think about it this way: You're concerned that she's more experienced than you are and you feel some need to get even with her. Would you be ok with her feeling concerned that you're less experienced than she is and her deciding to sleep around with as many experienced guys as she can before the wedding? If you're not perfectly ok with that, then I sense a double standard.

    When's the wedding going to be? Please tell me it's at least a couple years off so you have time to get your head on straight.
     
  18. 1RMDave

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    Also don't do anything u wouldn't want her to do.
     
  19. Steve Grabacock

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    Good rule of thumb, dont do anything you wouldnt want your SO to know.
     
  20. Project X

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    yeah i wont be engaged to her till after she graduates college.. 1 more year.. prolly wont get married for about 2 years minimum..

    i realize i am wrong in thinking this.. and i know when i am engaged to her i could never think like this. i just need time to deal with the issues and by then i will be okay and will be ready to this kind of commitment.
     
  21. MovieMan84

    MovieMan84 Here we go

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    Good man. Sounds like you've got some trust issues or something. Does she know any of what you've posted here?
     
  22. Project X

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    maybe i am the jealous type and just have a hard time dealing with her sexual past.. its not her fault but i dont like it and sometimes its hard to deal with. she does know that it bothers me and i did talk to her about the bachelor party, she told me if i did anyhting bad she would leave me and that i dont need any of that because i am goin to be marrying her and be with her forever... basically shes right and im wrong.
     
  23. BiffHenderson

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    You guys aren't even married and you're off to a rocky start.:ugh:
     
  24. HoodRich

    HoodRich Professional Street Nigga OT Supporter

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    I totally agree with this. If you'd be ok with her sleeping with some stripper chick, feel free to sleep with a stripper chick.
     
  25. lauren

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    bachalor parties arent about getting even.



    do yourself a favor, and DO NOT GET MARRIED. you dont appear to be emotionally ready.
     

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