At what point do you draw the line?

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  1. cyberj88

    cyberj88 New Member

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    Aite guys (and girls), when you are in a relationship at what point do you decide when she (or he) is the one you'll want to settle down with or not? i mean, when you date , do you approach the relationship with the mentality of looking for a prospective mate or just someone to have some fun with?
     
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    You're the only one who knows when you're ready. It'll hit you like a ton of bricks.
     
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    im ready. i know without a doubt in my mind that he is the one for me.
     
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    hasn't happened to me but I know that's how I want it to happen.
     
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    Whether it's just fun or for a mate would depend on the person. However, as you get to know people better they could switch expected sides. Would take me a long time to figure out whether or not I could "settle down" with someone.

    No, I wouldn't put a time limit on it, nor have a checklist of things that they must do/have done.
     
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    That's how it happened to me... I was recently out of a long, drawn out relationship, and just went out trying to meet new people....

    When I met Amy, I was done. Instantly. There was never a question...

    Now we're just over a month being married. It's awesome. She's the greatest!
     
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    Awww I love you too baby :p



    Actually I woke up one morning and thought Yup shes it. then went to work.
     
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    Different people date for different reasons at different times in their lives. I think once I turned 17-18 I started actually caring who I dated. I was already tired of meaningless relationships and wanted something that would last.

    When do you know you will settle down? I dont know how to put it into words, but you will KNOW. You wont feel it, you wont think it, you will KNOW it. If you question it, then its not right.

    Just remember, when you do actually search for someone for a longterm relationship, there is nothing wrong with being picky and judgmental. Find someone you are truly happy with and dont force love, it will make things alot easier down the road.
     
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    it all depends on you. It could take a long time, or it could happen instantly. With me..it didnt take long when i realied how wonderful my bf is and how happy i was when i was with him. After a year with him I am still as happy as the first day we were together.
     
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    if you have to ask yourself if he/she is the right one, then they are not the one. When it's right, you wont even think about it, you'll just know.
     
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    I think you know pretty early on the level of potential that exists. You date to see where that potential goes. You get married when you BOTH know its certain. In this day and age though, I can't advocate marriage.
     

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