Asking out a friend's ex-girlfriend.

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  1. Stimmy

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    My friend has been dating a girl off and on for approximately six months. They've broken up several times, and he's cheated on her multiple times. I live with this friend.

    Last night, they finally broke it off for good. As it's been a cycle of breakups, I'm guessing that the emotional impact isn't quite as strong as it would be under normal circumstances. I am really attracted to this girl, and am contemplating asking her out.

    Clearly, I'm going to wait several weeks to even mention anything to her, and will run it past my friend before doing so, but is there anything else I should be doing? Any suggestions from someone who has gone through this situation before?
     
  2. enfiniti

    enfiniti How firm thy friendship ... OHIO!

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    man law on 7 days, no need to talk to him about it but if you feel the need its all good. You may lose the window of her needing a sympathy fuck but after a week, all fair game
     
  3. Stimmy

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    god bless you, man law.
     
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    7 days? Fuck that. If they were serious, you should get his permission first so as to not be a huge fucking douche.

    Imagine: your ex gf of 2 years is suddenly hanging out with you again all the time because she's dating your best friend. How fucking weird would that be? Don't put your friend in that situation.

    Besides, do you want to stick your dick where your friend's cummy dick has been? That thought alone should make you change your mind :rofl:
     
  6. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    The only thing you should be doing before even attempting to aporach her (btw, who says she is even remotely interestedin you?) is asking your friend whom YOU LIVE WITH, how he feels about this.
     
  7. Stimmy

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    Nobody says she's remotely interested. Which is why I had planned on mentioning something to her beforehand to feel her out.

    If she feels similarly about me, then I would bring it up to my friend/roommate. There's no sense risking him getting angry if nothing is going to happen with her.
     
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    you should definitely talk to your friend first if you want to keep on being friends with him at all if you try and do this.

    if one of my friends asked out my ex without consulting me, they would get punched in the face
     
  9. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    NO, you talk to your friend first before you even attempt hitting on her.

    Most likely she'll think you are a creep for trying to get with her seeing as how you are her ex-boyfriends best friend and roommate...Or just use you for revenge.
     
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    If it helps to clarify, neither he, she nor I are in highschool. The breakup wasn't terrible, and she has no idea that he cheated on her. Therefore, there will be no revenge dating, and the way I would approach it would negate any creepiness.

    I suppose I could talk to him first, but I'm just trying to determine whether it's worth him potentially getting upset over nothing if she decides she's not interested.

    Either way, I have a lot of time to pine this over, as I don't plan on acting on any of this for several weeks at least. Thanks for the advice.
     
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    but if you ask her out and she says no and decides to tell her ex, don't you think he'd be pretty pissed at you?
     
  12. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    Whatever man, you've already got your mind set on the wrong way to go about things and I hope it doesn't backfire on you.

    Because what happens if you hit on her first and she actually is interested. Then you decide "ok, it's time to tell my best friend and roommate that I want to date his ex girlfriend" and he FLIPS OUT. Then you are stuck in this place where you want to date her but he hates the idea and makes your living environment a hell....But yeah, go ahead.
     
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    No, I mean.. I'm really not stuck on any certain way to go about it, and, honestly, that's a very good point. It'd almost suck more to find out she's interested and then have my friend not approve of it. Seriously, thank you for your advice.
     
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    you need to brush up on your man law
     
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    ask the friend first or you are no friend at all.
     
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    There are plenty of other women out there.

    Go out and find them.
     
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    Are you a douchebag? Don't date someone your friend has dated. Period.
     
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    don't do it. have some fucking respect for your best friend and roommate.

    if you went out with a girl, how would you like to see her making out and cuddling with your friend every day.

    not cool, man. seriously. stop thinking with your dick and realize that this chick is nowhere near worth ending your friendship.
     
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    enfiniti How firm thy friendship ... OHIO!

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    if I broke up with a chick and stayed apart for more than 1 week, I dont care whos dick she stuffs her perhaps you should make sure you arent reading women law
     
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    i'ev seen shit like this happen friend asked out friend's ex, they went out, now the 2 friends don't even talk to each other anymore, and they were friends since like elementary school.

    Ask your friend if it's ok first. unless you don't care much for your friendship
     
  21. Stimmy

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    Thanks guys.. I've decided to ask my friend first.
     
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    if emotions were involved...she's off limits...end of story
     
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    :bigthumb:

    Keep us updated.
     
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