SRS asked a girl out v. 11ty billion

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  1. wimp

    wimp New Member

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    so there's this girl ive been talking to from class... i sat next to her early in the quarter and we've been pretty flirty but the last day of class on friday i decide to ask her out... was gonna ask her out sooner, but found about about the bf so was hesitant to ask her out... i had to leave early so i shot her a text, she calls me back, and i ask her out... anyways, i know she has a bf she brought up a couple times, but i decide to ask her out anyways... so she comes up with an excuse about a test in the middle of this week but she said we could hang out later tonight...

    am i overstepping my boundaries here? should i just back off since i dont know what im getting myself into her having a bf and all?
     
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    figured as much heh ........ d'oh

    im ok with failure (and very acquainted with it), but how could i have done this better next time? if i meet a cute girl i should ask her out sooner instead of talking with her thru the entire quarter.... before she mentions her bf (cause they seem to always have one)? ... im 22 and for the last 2 years ive had a ton of personal shit and problems so i've missed out on a lot.... and want to catch up with other people my age when it comes to women.... i also get a bit anxious... when it comes to asking out girls i like but when i am just talking to them casually i can be charming... i also think i am physically attractive, but i get this defense mechanism thing going when i ask girls out and shit and it gets all weird.... i also used to be a fat kid in HS so i have all that baggage with me too...
     
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    i think the more important part here is not how/when you're asking her out. the important part is that she has a bf.

    flirty or not know that you should not build this into more then what it is. at best a quick hook up. at worst you date and she does this to YOU!
     
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    they all have bfs! akljfdalskdjfasl;df
     
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    then find ones that do not.

    like i said though.... if all you want to do is have fun then do your thing.

    however, if you are one to get attached to a girl easily i would stay away. you will set yourself up when she does the same shit to you.
     
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    im actually going through a similar thing. girl is cool as shit and hot. i know she likes me and she knows i like her.

    then i find out she has a bf.

    as soon as i found out all thought of dating this girl went out the window.
    however if she wants to hang out with me to a place im already going to then by all means come. whatever happens, happens.
     
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    yea i guess i feel like i dont meet that many girls im interested in and like id rather not be friends with a girl i like and it feels like all that chatter and hoping was a waste of time ... if i could pull the trigger faster i'd know exactly where i stand
     
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    its a balance. you cant "pull the trigger" too fast or she will lose interest. wait too long and you may get friend zoned.

    just tell her that you are going to shoot pool, bowl, to a happy hour, etc... and ask her if she will join you.
     
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    if he was good at listening to his gut he wouldnt be posting on a forum asking what to do.
     
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    Seriously, why the fuck do people text each other so much?
     
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    My experience is that all the good ones are taken by about age 16, if for no other reason than because most women will instinctively stay in relationships just so they don't get hit on constantly.
     
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    A woman that cheats is not worth going for.
     
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    so i need to find some 16 year olds?
     
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    Even if she says yes to you why would you want to date a woman like that? If she can drop her b/f just like that for you whats to say that won't happen to you when she meets some other guy?
     
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    You're setting yourself up for fail if you continue with a girl who has a b/f.
     
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    at the same time i feel like a lot of girls just stay ´dating´someone because its comfortable, not necessarily that they really like him
     
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    this makes me wonder.. are you looking for a girl to date/be in a relationship with or just a chick to hook up with? either case will most likely lead to disaster because she has a boyfriend.
     
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    Back off.

    You're just setting your self up to be friendzoned and hurt in the end. Just because she's "flirty" that doesn't mean she's interested.
     

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