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  1. Cherry Red

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    My daughters adoption is done...
    I question why I did it in the first place.
    I thought it was the best thing for her I thought that it would all be okay once the papers went through.
    Now I can't stop thinking about it, do they not say that when you regret something that it was a bad choice to make?
    I just miss her, she is the best, just her little smile makes the whole world brighter.

    Sorry
    I guess I just needed to vent
     
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    DesignerAddic71 RIP Luther Vandross 1951-2005

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    no apologies needed, we are here for you...

    im not the best with advice, so instead i just offer u a :hug:
     
  3. Cherry Red

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    :) Thank you
    I guess just getting it out and having someone listen really does work
     
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    Don't worry, it's for the best.

    And nothing is forever. A lot of kids want to find their birth parents when they're older, and often they establish a really good relationship.

    You can look forward to that.
     
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    civicmon got all my game from the streets of california.

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    hard choice.. but the truth is, you're probably making the right one....
     
  7. Cherry Red

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    heh its an open adoption so i get to see her a lot, i did raise her for two years it was all fine till her father got involved in our life so to me its more of a thing i had to do not wanted to do i guess
     
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    You did the right thing, especially if it was for her good and to keep her out of harm's way (I don;t know your situation :hs: ). Many people out there don't think of their children's welfare, only their own. She will thank you for it someday.

    :hug:
     
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    Toasty Naked people have little or no influence on societ

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    I was channel surfing one day when I was sick at home and I think I caught an Oprah show (yes Oprah) where she invited a two women on her show...one was the biological mother, the other was the mother who had adopted her child in an open adoption.

    They were really close to each other and I found it very touching as is Oprah's usual MO. The biological mother ended up giving the other woman a locket in thanks for the help and love she was giving to her child.

    Good things can happen in situations like this.
     
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    I sure hope so...
    I can't stop thinking of what could have been and what will be
     
  11. Mel

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    The hardest decisions we make sometimes are the best ones, and I'm sure you made the decision out of love and caring for her. :hug:
     
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    Thank you all for hearing me out...
    Its good to have someone listen when you need to vent
     
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    You say that you question why you did it in the first place but it seems to me that by the reaons you've listed; you really do already know. Hold on to that. You're panicking right now and having second thoughts. But, that scenario usually comes with any choice we make in life that we fear is irreversible. It's an open adoption as if you've stated, therefore, you don't have to tell her goodbye completely.

    As she gets older continue to be there for her and help her understand that you aren't going anywhere, won't, and have never tried to abandon her. As long as you're around and she knows you do still want to be a part of her life and helping her grow, I honestly can't see how she'd hold anything against you. In the break you have from constantly raising her use that time to get yourself and your life together and know with each day and with each accomplishment, you're one step closer to making things be better for your daughter. :hug:
     

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