I was having a lovely little conversation over dinner last night with Lovely and we were discussing the degree to which we want/are/can come out to the people around us. This can mean fetish wise or, in our case, our open relationship. We were discussing how it is still very frowned upon (Kink of any kind) by society and how you have to be careful about things. Since mine and Lovely's change to the kink community and opening up our relationship a bit more, we have found that a lot of our previous friends we do not hang out with anymore. This isn't because we have no interest in doing so, but more that they (and us) feel awkward around one another due to judgements about the lifestyle we chose. Lovely made a comment about relating it to be gay. She stated (and I agree) that she never fully understood the need for a 'Gay Pride Parade' as sexuality has no impact on the person you are and should not matter in the world. However, since immersing ourselves into the kink community more, we have begun to understand that feeling as you are constantly judged for your sexual decisions. This got us to discussing the degree to which we want to be out to those around us. Currently, especially the open relationship stuff, it does not make sense for us to allow everyone to know as we are both young and going into professions where it might not be the best if this information was common knowledge; at least to begin with. However, we did state that we did not want to really hide our true selves. Thus, the discussion that I propose to the FS community is: How out are you about your kink to those around you (friends/family/co-workers/etc)? How do you feel around non-kink individuals as far as judgement goes? Do you feel your decisions are accepted by those around you that are not a part of a general kink community? This, of course can include open relationships, but also dress, activities, interests, etc. Thoughts?