SRS Are friends real?

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  1. Want2race

    Want2race Fearless

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    I came to this thought today.

    EveryoneI am friends with calls favors all the time.I never ask anyone for anything unless my backs against the wall. And thus far they havent come at that point.

    Is it just me or is friendship nothing more than people wanting favors?
     
  2. Darketernal

    Darketernal Watch: Aria The Origination =)

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    One time in your life you will come up with the conclusion that frienship is an illusion, friendship is a dream a package of scrapheap with a thin layer of chrome.
     
  3. PuppyCat

    PuppyCat O.T. Mom

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    Ouch! That's a really COLD thing to say DarkEternal...I am very surprised.

    Friendship, hmmm...I think friendship involves a lot of give and take and patience. Alas, some people are better at being friends than others.

    And, just when one thinks one does not have any friends, someone always pops out of the woodwork, as if by magic, and gives something of themselves ...something that will remain in your heart forever...like a haunting melody or a hug.

    How can one place that on a scrapheap?

    As for friends asking for favors all the time, maybe they do because they know they can depend on you. If one feels that one is being taken advantage of, one should speak up...one should always be honest with their friends, that's what friends are for.
     
  4. johan

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    Of course friendship is real. Very real and very necessary.
    However, I'm not sure these people you know are actually your friends.

    True friendship is about social exchange, real deep friendship implies the bond of mutual support also.

    You're not going to get that with most people you call friends. They might more properly be termed "acquaintances". But out of politeness, most people just use the term "friends". You get the idea anyways.

    And keep in mind, you have to BE a good friend yourself, in order to experience true deep friendship.
    It is not a product to be bought, sold, or consumed. It is an experience.
     
  5. Fred91GTA

    Fred91GTA New Member

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    I like to say that there are two types of friends. You have your close friends and you have your normal run of the mill type friends. Now, I have a lot of "normal" friends. These are the people I hang out with, and do favors for or talk to, whatever. Now as for close friends, I can probably count on one hand the number I have. These are the types of friends that I can talk to about anything, call up on a Monday morning at 3AM and shoot pool with, and no matter what, know that they will always be there for me to the very end. So yeah, if you feel like you don't have any friends like that, then you could develop feelings that friends are fake and what not. No they aren't. It's just hard to find people who truly understand you on your level.
     
  6. Budha

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    I definately agree there are two types of friends also. I have my buddies I go to parties with and call to drink, and I have the ones I'll actually call to hang out w/ or the first few people you'll think of to ask to help you move some stuff to your new apt and what not. I have VERY and always have had VERY few real and true friends. My ex GF was one of them, and most of the time its my family that I can really only trust.
     
  7. marauder

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    :bigthumb: thats true.

    Yeah well I don't think I have ever had a friend that Im not mindfull of just how much to say around them. That said I rarely speak about how I truely feel etc. what I might true;y think of something etc. to anyone. In fact I don't talk a lot I just don't have much to say..
     
  8. mrchina

    mrchina Guest

    They aren't your friends if they don't even help you in your time of need, they are "friends". Don't help them out the next time they are in trouble...so why be their friend when they are just your "friend"?
     
  9. Hootahz314

    Hootahz314 I have daddy issues

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    I am more or less in the same predictament. I used to consider my next door neighbors friends. I used to give them rides (after they asked), I've lent them money (after they asked), I've let them use my washer and dryer over a 5 month period (after they asked), they had their cordless phone plugged into my phone jack because they didn't have a phone for 2 months (you guessed it..after they asked). When I absolutely needed help these people came up with excuse after excuse after excuse. So I cut them off. Yes, it pissed them off to no end because and I will quote my neighbor " I should be doing those things because I am a generous person." I quickly came back with "My generousity has quickly dwindled down to those that truly deserve it and have the same respect for me as I do them." People walk all over other people *If they can get away with it*. You let people walk on you and borrow your shit and drive you insane with the favors and the never ending 'hey..do you think you can....' phone calls. It will eventually turn you into a not so happy person. The best thing you can do for yourself is to do a friend inventory. Ask yourself what kind of happiness each person brings into your life, if the only thing you can come up with is 'always in need of something' chances are you can do better. You deserve better! Friends do exist, just like every other relationship in life, you have to weed through the mess to find the bliss. Good luck and I am sorry I kind of rambled on for a minute, I am currently weeding out the bad to make room for the good.
     

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