SRS Apparently the majority of married men cheat on their wives.

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  1. advertisingguru

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    Whether it's just once, a few times, or in the form of a full-fledged affair. My mom told me both my grandfathers cheated on their wives.

    I read online, and the statistic is incredible: It's reported that 75% of men do this. Does this sound right? Share your experiences and observations.
     
  2. Mr. Pelham

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    I never cheated. My two brothers never cheated. My father never cheated. My grandfather, my fathers father, never cheated. the last example is assumed.

    I have 4 very close friends that never cheated. Then I have 1 friend that cheated once, and I can't understand why because his wife is drop dead gorgeous.

    I'd like to see your reference and source.
     
  3. D-FENS

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    I don't know if you're intentionally trying to sound like a feminist hating on men, but I'd like to see the figure for married women who cheat on their husbands. I'll bet that it's just as bad if not worse, at least for the past decade. I'm just 19 myself, but I know about 5x more girls who have cheated on their boyfriends than guys who have cheated on their girlfriends.
     
  4. iwishyouwerebeer

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    22 percent of married men have strayed at least once during their married lives.

    14 percent of married women have had affairs at least once during their married lives.
    Younger people are more likely candidates; in fact, younger women are as likely as younger men to be unfaithful.

    70 percent of married women and 54 percent of married men did not know of their spouses' extramarital activity.

    5 percent of married men and 3 percent of married women reported having sex with someone other than their spouse in the year1997.

    22 percent of men and 14 percent of women admitted to having sexual relations outside their marriage sometime in their past.

    90 percent of Americans believe adultery is morally wrong.

    50 percent of Americans say President Clinton's adultery makes his moral standard "about the same as the average married man,'' according to a Time-CNN poll.

    61 percent of Americans thought adultery should not be a crime in the United states; 35 percent thought it should; 4 percent had no opinion.

    17 percent of divorces in the United States are caused by infidelity.

    Up to 37% of men and 22% of women admit to having affairs. Researchers think the vast majority of the millions of people who visit chat rooms, have multiple "special friends”. Dr. Bob Lanier

    Recent studies reveal that 45-55% of married women and 50-60% of married men engage in extramarital sex at some time or another during their relationship (Atwood & Schwartz, 2002 - Journal of Couple & Relationship Therapy)

    Only 46% of men believe that online affairs are adultery.

    80% think it's Ok to talk with a stranger identified as the opposite sex. 75% thinks it's ok to visit an adult site.

    About 60 percent of men and 40 percent of women will have an affair at some point in some marriage "Monogamy Myth", Therapist Peggy Vaugn

    About 24 percent of men and 14 percent of women have had sex outside their marriages, according to a Dec. 21, 1998 report in USA Today on a national study by the University of California, San Francisco.

    Affairs affect one of every 2.7 couples, according to counselor Janis Abrahms Spring, author of After the Affair,as reported by the Washington Post on March 30, 1999. Ten percent of extramarital affairs last one day, 10 percent last more than one day but less than a month, 50 percent last more than a month but less than a year, but 40 percent last two or more years. Few extramarital affairs last more than four years.

    A lesser known fact is that those who divorce rarely marry the person with whom they are having the affair. For example, Dr. Jan Halper’s study of successful men (executives, entrepreneurs, professionals) found that very few men who have affairs divorce their wife and marry their lovers. Only 3 percent of the 4,100 successful
    men surveyed eventually married their lovers.

    Frank Pittman has found that the divorce rate among those who married their lovers was 75 percent. The reasons for the high divorce rate include: intervention of reality, guilt, expectations, a general distrust of marriage, and a distrust of the affairee.

    One-third of divorce litigation is caused by online affairs. This Is An Internet E-Mergency, The Fortino Group

    Approximately 70% of time on-line is spent in chat rooms or sending e-mail; of these interactions, the vast majority are romantic in nature. Dr. Michael Adamse, PhD., co-author of Affairs of the Net: The Cybershrinks' Guide to Online Relationships

    Because of the anonymity, affordability, and accessibility of Internet sexual resources, the computer can accelerate the transition from "at risk" to "addicted," as well as the progression of sex addiction in those with a history of prior sexual compulsivity. Cooper et al Survey

    8-10 percent of Internet users become hooked on cybersex. Dr. Bob Lanier

    Spouses who get hooked on Internet porn are a growing complaint among spouses filing for divorce, according to a survey of 350 divorce attorneys. "If there's dissatisfaction in the existing relationship, the Internet is an easy way for people to scratch the itch," said lawyer J. Lindsey Short, Jr., president of the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers, which conducted the study.

    57% of people have used the Internet to flirt.

    38% of people have engaged in explicit online sexual conversation and 50% of people have made phone contact with someone they chatted with online.
    Evidence proves there is a high correlation between on-line infidelity and subsequent real-time sexual affairs.

    Evidence supports the existence of disinhibition, accelerated intimacy, and hyper-sexual online behavior that can easily lead to real-time infidelity
    31% of people have had an online conversation that has led to real-time sex.

    It is estimated that 53% of all people will have one or more affairs during their lifetime.

    Look at the numbers from Playboy Magazine:
    -2 out of 3 women and 3 out of 4 men admit they have sexual thoughts about co-workers.
    -86% of men and 81% of women admit they routinely flirt with the opposite sex.
    -75% of men and 65% of women admit to having sex with people they work with.
    The fact is that human beings are NOT monogamous by nature. That means they cheat.

    Experts say that a gut instinct is the most powerful indicator of a cheating lover. Adultery statistics state that 85% of woman who feel their lover is cheating are correct. 50% of men who feel their lover is cheating are right. The first clue is seldom obvious. Typically, it's a "feeling" that something is different.

    Cheating spouse statistics confirm that 50 and 70 percent of married men (between 38 and 53 million men) have cheated or will cheat on their wives. One study found that 2/3 of the wives (26 to 36 million women) whose husbands were cheating had no idea their husbands were having an affair - largely because they failed to recognize the telltale signs.

    According to Annette Lawson, author of Adultery, published in 1989 by Basic Books. "The various researchers arrive at a general consensus…suggesting that above one-quarter to about one-half of married women have at least one lover after they are married in any given marriage. Married men probably still stray more often than married women—perhaps from 50 percent to 65 percent by the age of forty." According to Maggie Scarf, author of Intimate Partners, first published in 1987 by Random House, re-issued in 1996 by Ballentine.

    "Most experts do consider the 'educated guess' that at the present time some 50 to 65 percent of husbands and 45 to 55 percent of wives become extramaritally involved by the age of 40 to be a relatively sound and reasonable one." According to Peggy Vaughan, author of The Monogamy Myth, first published in 1989 by Newmarket Press (third edition published 2003).

    Conservative infidelity statistics estimate that “60 percent of men and 40 percent of women will have an extramarital affair. These figures are even more significant when we consider the total number of marriages involved, since it's unlikely that all the men and women having affairs happen to be married to each other. If even half of the women having affairs (or 20 percent) are married to men not included in the 60 percent having affairs, then at least one partner will have an affair in approximately 80 percent of all marriages. With this many marriages affected, it's unreasonable to think affairs are due only to the failures and shortcomings of individual husbands or wives."
     
  5. borazhasleftthebuilding

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    most of the husbands and wives in the group of people ive known/currently know have cheated.
     
  6. borborygmus

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    I've never cheated, bro :hay:
     
  7. borazhasleftthebuilding

    borazhasleftthebuilding Lets Party OT Supporter

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    note, i said "and wives" ;)

    j/k


    your numbers shift it from all to most
     
  8. Sloi

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    Pretty much everybody I know (both men and women) have cheated once, if not multiple times. It's so bad I don't even feel like bothering with monogamous relationships. It comes down to a question of respect and consideration: if you're not satisfied with your current relationship, why aren't you breaking it off instead of going around someone's back? I have a few hypotheses, but that's a story for another day.
     
  9. iwishyouwerebeer

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    It's true, all men cheat...You shouldn't date for this reason...
     
  10. Netbastard

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    <------ have had opportunities but never cheated.
     
  11. jmezz

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    Man that is some discomforting shit. :ugh:
     
  12. itchypony

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    40% of percentages are made up
     
  13. no lol today

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    Dood. I'm always paranoid about this shit. I'm paranoid to begin with. It's the worst part of a relationship because I know mistrust can cultivate the undesirable result ... become self fulfilling ...

    I just want to put a GPS thingie on his car but it's so wrong. He's a good guy & doesn't deserve that unless it's true & the only way to find out would be to violate his trust.

    Shitty.
     
  14. Mr. Pelham

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    You have self esteem issues. Instead of looking at him you should look at yourself.
     
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    Projecting shit like that on people you don't know makes YOU look like you have those issues.

    I really disagree with diagnosing a person's problem based on a short post, especially the way you worded it.

    How do you know she's not picking up signals from him that he might be cheating. I don't think there is anyway to tell if she has a self esteem issue or her gut is accuratley telling her something is wrong, especially not on a single post.
     
  16. Mr. Pelham

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    who's to say I didn't?

    She's paranoid. If she had any reason to assume he's running around on her she may have posted it. If anyone wants to GPS someone without assumptions is paranoid and needs to look at themselves as to why.

    If that is the case, then why stay with him, why not discuss it, why not take a more civil approach other than bugging his car. Paranoid!
     
  17. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    :rofl: :uh: I was being sarcastic.
     
  18. Soltaker

    Soltaker 03-18-2015 #NEVERFORGET

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    Divorce is too fucking expensive :rofl: It's cheaper to keep her. :bigthumb:
     
  19. Firewall97

    Firewall97 Heeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee

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    i'd like to see pics of the women in your family. im not sure the are telling you the truth :hsugh:
     
  20. no lol today

    no lol today Soy la bailarina de la muerta. OT Supporter

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    It's not really self esteem issues at all.

    I'm just a crazy paranoid person.

    Sometimes, I feel things crawling on me but I can't see anything.

    :hsugh:
     
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    I'd like to see where you got that stat. Most publicized documents I've seen claim much smaller figures
     
  22. mandrew

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    It's not like they're going to be open about it if they did. Don't be so sure of what other people do in their private lives, regardless of how close you are to them.
     
  23. arfanrauf

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    I don't know any man in my family thats cheated
     
  24. Darketernal

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    There's nothing good about cheating, the unimaginable pain that one causes another person due to their cheating is so big, that kids should be thought how proper dating should commence, how to sustain their relationships, and how to break it off in a proper way, before starting a new relationship instead of cheating on the person who thought their partner really loved them.
     
  25. BadKat

    BadKat GIVE ME WINE!!

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    It's true for the most part.

    Shit, I'm the product of an affair :hs: My Sister's (now Ex) Husband cheated. My Husband cheated. Only my other BIL has been faithful (that we KNOW of!).

    But it goes both ways.
     

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