Anyone purposely play "hard to get"?

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  1. DOBERMAN

    DOBERMAN New Member

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    Im talking about when you are already in a relationship and you want to make the SO want you more. Does this make sense :hs:
     
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    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    In what sense? How are you playing hard to get? Missing phone calls?
     
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    trudat cervPun

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    I play hard to get all the time, does work to makes the sex 10x better. Gotta make them never think they have you.
     
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    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    is this when ur in love?
     
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    sure, if you mean in a sexual denial sense.
     
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    lauren Active Member

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    note: i meant that in a male oriented dominating context....not that i'm holding out to gain control.
     
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    Man... This is confusing.
     
  8. DOBERMAN

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    Yeah something like that.

    Missing phone calls, canceling without a real reason, etc.

    The reason Im asking is because my friend told me that from the side I seem to be whipped and that I should take it easy and not do too much and too soon with my girl.

    (This is not about sex btw)
     
  9. Yes, I play hard to get and it works extremely well. ;)
     
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    doesn't matter whether your in love or no however when you are in love or at least the way it was for me was she knew that I was just fucking with her and she liked it, maybe i just trained her that way but things worked out well. You keep eachother on the edge with utmost trust and honesty, hard to explain but seems to make things more interesting.
     
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    Missing phone calls is plausible unavailability. Canceling plans for no reason is just a dick move. If you want to be a challenge, be unavailable, don't be a dick.
     
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    don't just not pick up when she calls, be out and actually doing something. missing the call just for the sake of missing the call is pretty lame, in my opinion.
     
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    Absolutely.

    Works like a charm.

    But you have to pay close attention and be sure not to overdo it.
     
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    Yail Bloor OT Supporter

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    doesn't really matter.

    if you are away from the phone, you are away from the phone

    girls do this all the time (don't pick up)
     
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    :hsugh: right. what i was talking about was hearing it ring, looking at caller id, and deciding not to pick up just for the sake of not picking up.
     
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    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    are you saying this somehow has a different effect on the girl than not picking up because you're actually doing something? sounds metaphysical..
     
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    you're reading too much into it. im saying over thinking things, and pretending to be something you're not, is sorta lame.

    i'm sure the effect would be similar, unless she found out.
     
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    A little bit is whatever. Too much builds resentment and will ruin your relationship.
     
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    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    ok, but this "being lame" thing sounds like it can happen when only you are the one who knows about it... a self-judgment. in which case being lame might be very practical. or backwards, being Machiavellian about stuff might be "lame" by some arbitrary system of judgment but if it gets you what you want then that is more important.
     
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    I think she just doesn't like the idea of being call-screened.

    She should join the club :mamoru:
     
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    right.


    it's a self assigned stigma. like going to the movies alone...if you think nothing of it, it wont be any big deal to engage in such behavior, regardless what others think of you.
     
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    I do it all the fucking time.
     
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    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    I dont think I play hard to get, although i think we pace each oother emotionally
     
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    Don't play hard to get...be hard to get!
     
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    Why did it take this long for someone to post the /thread line?

    I blame myself.
     

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