Discussion in 'On Topic' started by victimizati0n, Jul 19, 2007.
im thinking about it... should i go for it, or just stay away?
I have absolutely no experience with this- but I'd say go for it anyway. I mean, why the hell not?
i just dont want it to be akward and stuff
i think it will be akward, fact being it's all the chances that you'll run into this person, which maybe good or bad. i say, if you like the person, go for it! life is too short to pass up a chance... what if you were meant for that person and you just passed up an opportunity? work is the best way to have safe dating, i think. let me know how it works out. good luck!
well, i guess i got a bit far ahead of myself, i just started a new job, and there is a girl who i would be very interested in being with, but i really dont know her at all.
just thinking ahead
get to know her, ask her to lunch... haha you sound like this guy at my work place. i just started my job about 2 months ago, and there's this guy who've liked me ever since my first day there... and he's barely starting to make his move... like he sent me flowers at work today, and then asked me to lunch. it's exciting i must say it makes the dread of going to work a better feeling.
i dont work in an environment there that would be appropriate, but im going to try to get to know her a bit better
good luck bud, let me know how it worked out
i will probably end up not talking to her, because i have become a very shy person for some reason, i wasnt like this in highschool
no!!! don't be shy. you make it harder for a girl to try and get to know you because they don't know how to loosen you up. i get very uncomfortable or don't know what to say when i'm around a shy guy. just start out by saying hi to her everyday and then go from there
hmm, you said some interesting stuff, that helps a bit concerning what we are talking about in your thread
do you mean it in a good way? i know i'm not totally lost in the world of shutting myself down for a guy. like i've mentioned in some of the comments in my thread, i'm not stupid to the subject. i understand the situation but still choose to put myself in it to make me feel better. i'm only 20 and about to turn 21 in a month, i have both guys and girls all figured out. i understand the game of dating and the games of relationships, funny what experience will teach you.
basically, to put it simple, i became really depressed when i was in 10th grade, and basically i became really shy and not outgoing because of it.
im trying to change that though
from my experience it usually does not end well
it's easy to be outgoing. i don't know how old you are, but the things i do are: clubbing, bars( not to get drunk), plan small trips with my friends, either shopping, san diego to water jet ski... confidence takes away shyness, so try to shape up if you alreay aren't... outdoor activities are fun, biking is my favorite, and plus, once you're busy, you tend to take your mind off a lot of negative things.
yeah ill keep it in mind.
im not the clubbing type, and i dont like drinking with girls, because i know i will end up messing something up
i did something with her a few weeks ago, and i tried being more outgoing, and she seemed to talk to me a lot more than she used to
I haven't gone out with a girl at work, but I have worked with a girl that I went out with. Circuit city, she started after me and it was awkward. First day, the guys there came up to me and said "You see that girl in MP3's???? WOOOOOOOO"
I also worked with her recently at a sushi bar, as an ex couple, prettty weird still since people associated us like we were together.
I have back in high school it was fine, of course by the time we broke up neither of us worked there anymore that would've been a messy situation
only do it if your job is disposable
if shit goes south, everyone will side with her against you
My husband and i met at work
if it's a job you care about (career) don't go there
How has no one asked you what kind of job you have? This is crucial.
I dated a Co-Worker for 6 months, when we broke up and it was hell. Thank God that everyone in the Office Loved me, because of the shit she was saying behind my back would have gotten me fired in a heart beat. If the ENTIRE office didn't stickup for me I would have been gone.
It took 3 weeks, but the Boss finally sat her down and told her to Grow Up and leave her personal life at home, if she didn't improve by Friday, they would fire her.
It's a two way street. Just like in any relationship story, you'll hear the great, and the horrible. I've never dated a coworker (although I wanted to with a few ), but I do know of at least 3 couples that met at the workplace and ended up happily married...so far, lol.
If you feel she's worth the risk, I say go for it. But if you have a feeling that if you were to break up, she'd be a total headcase at work, then stay away.