LGBT Anyone care to answer some questions for a paper I have to write?

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  1. aballas

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    Okay...so the honors class i'm taking this semester is human sexuality, and I need to write an interview paper on homosexuality. Meaning, that I need to interview a gay man. If any of you would like to help me out by answering some of my questions I would greatly appreciate it..You can answer all or someof the questions. You can either post your answers here or PM me with them....

    I would also need your first name and age.

    1. How do you label your sexual orientation

    2. When and how did you realize this?

    3. Who knows, and who doesn't? What were their reactions when you came out?

    4. How did your family react, if they know?

    5. How do you decide whether or not to let people know about your sexual orientation?

    6. What do you believe about homosexuality is it biological or a choice?

    7. How have your spiritual/religious beliefs been affected by your sexual orientation?

    8. How do you feel about loing-term committed relationships. What problems arise specific to homosexual long term relationships?

    9. How do you feel about parenthood? If you have children, do they know?

    10. What do you think is the appropriate method of giving your children thar information?

    11. Do you fear for your safety? How do you cope with discrimination in your society?

    12. How do you feel about your self-esteem currently? Is it now, or has it ever been affected by your sexual orientation?
     
  2. bioyuki

    bioyuki Ich habe Angst

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    What length answers are you looking for?
     
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    I would also need your first name and age.
    Rhyan, 24

    1. How do you label your sexual orientation
    Bisexual (I've mostly been with a man sexually though)
    2. When and how did you realize this?
    Pretty early in life.... around 4th grade

    3. Who knows, and who doesn't? What were their reactions when you came out?
    My dad, my late mother, and maybe 10 other people

    4. How did your family react, if they know?
    Took it very harsh. Threatened to kick me out if I didn't get an HIV/AIDS test, stressed my mother to the point of she died less then 4 months later (not the main reason but I know deep down, part of it was due to the "stress" of having a gay son)

    5. How do you decide whether or not to let people know about your sexual orientation?
    I tell basically nobody, I feel that it doesn't matter who I have as a partner besides myself and the other party be it male or female.

    6. What do you believe about homosexuality is it biological or a choice?
    Biologial.

    7. How have your spiritual/religious beliefs been affected by your sexual orientation?
    Possibly, I'm religous to an extent, I've just rarely felt welcomed in any church that I have attended.
    8. How do you feel about loing-term committed relationships. What problems arise specific to homosexual long term relationships?
    I was in one from age 15/16 to 24. I "cheated" once with a friend that I was friends with for longer who wanted to know what it was like to kiss another male (all we did was kiss), however my ex wasnt so faithful, at last count 20-24 other males in the time we were together. I feel that for some people, regardless of sexual preference that they just can't be commited to one person. I myself could never have sexual relations with another person if I was in a relationship with someone, and as far as dating goes same thing I only date one person at a time. When it comes to relationships I feel that I am the last of a dying breed, be with one person as long as possible, hopefully until the end.

    9. How do you feel about parenthood? If you have children, do they know?
    I do not have a child yet, however it is one of my life goals to have a son. I wouldn't tell him until he reached an appropriate age, say somewhere in the teens.

    10. What do you think is the appropriate method of giving your children thar information?
    I'm not sure of this, but I would present the child with some basic info and let them know if they have any questions (age appropriate) that I would answer them to the best of my ability, and comoort levels.

    11. Do you fear for your safety? How do you cope with discrimination in your society?
    Only when I'm racing my car or riding my horse close to a cliff. As far as discrimination, I've noticed very little changes with the people who know I'm gay, and I've never been descriminated against because it's not easy to tell I'm gay / bi.
    12. How do you feel about your self-esteem currently? Is it now, or has it ever been affected by your sexual orientation?
    Very Low, not due to sexual orientation reasons right now. Possibly during my high school years it might have been due to the fact of hiding part of my life.
     
  4. ExDelayed

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    These are intresting.

    I would also need your first name and age.
    Jon, 27

    1. How do you label your sexual orientation
    Gay

    2. When and how did you realize this?
    I believe I knew since elementary but it was buried deep inside my head until one day I just realised it when a new friend introduced me to the gay lifestyle. I was eighteen.

    3. Who knows, and who doesn't? What were their reactions when you came out?
    All except a few co-workers, older brother/sister and extended family.

    4. How did your family react, if they know?
    Younger brother and sister took it well. Dad had known for years. Mom kinda freaked but returned to normal after we had a long conversation. I believed my best friend was going to go postal but he turned out taking it better then anyone. Co-workers I dont really care as I generally check the descrimination policy before I apply.

    5. How do you decide whether or not to let people know about your sexual orientation?
    I tell people who need to know. If the life they are leading will remain unchanged with me telling them there is no reason to tell them. Co-workers just generally figure it out when there is a general lack of intrest in the conversations of straight relationships/sex.

    6. What do you believe about homosexuality is it biological or a choice?
    Biologial.

    7. How have your spiritual/religious beliefs been affected by your sexual orientation?
    Im agnostic. Have been for about fifteen years.

    8. How do you feel about loing-term committed relationships. What problems arise specific to homosexual long term relationships?
    I believe that a good portion of the people in the homosexual community need this to feel accepted. Perhaps it is their way of showing all the heterosexuals that they too can be in a relationship. Perhaps it is a desire to be accepted, loved or that their upbringing/coming out has changed their personality and they need the relationship to feel whole. As for problems, most of these whirlwind relationships end almost as fast as they started, generally with a bitchy fued because one party did something. A relationship needs to start slow if its going to last and finding someone who is willing to take it slow can be somewhat difficult.

    9. How do you feel about parenthood? If you have children, do they know?
    I will have children. I see the joy that my brother's son has brought to our family and want to have this feeling for myself. As for if the child knows or will know, I believe that is something that would have to be taken up with your partner. Even at a young age, a child will wonder why they have a mom and dad, their cousin has a mom and dad but their other cousin has two dads/moms.

    10. What do you think is the appropriate method of giving your children thar information?
    I'm not sure of this, but I would present the child with some basic info and let them know if they have any questions (age appropriate) that I would answer them to the best of my ability, and comoort levels.

    11. Do you fear for your safety? How do you cope with discrimination in your society?
    I have never been on the recieving end of any discrimination. I feel perfectly fine in my society.

    12. How do you feel about your self-esteem currently? Is it now, or has it ever been affected by your sexual orientation?
    Right before I came out I was trying to cheer myself up and keep my mind off of the added pressure of the secret I was hiding. I put myself on a crash course to Hell. I bought anything I could get my hands on. Partied every chance I could. Generally I was running my life into the ground and my depression was growing as the days progressed. After my family found out and after years of rebuilding my life I am happier. The depression is gone, life is good, but I still have a cold and bitchy personality. I believe that came with me hiding from everyone and just never went away.
     
  5. CoCo

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    Does he need more, or are we all just doing this for fun. Its all good regardless.
     
  6. bioyuki

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    Kai/21

    1. How do you label your sexual orientation
    Gay. If we're gonna play the spectrum game I'm all the way at one side...pretty much zero attraction to females.

    2. When and how did you realize this?
    At some level I've probably always known. In first grade I'd always rather play with the boys, love playing doctor, etc. It really kicked in when puberty hit when I realized that I liked boys sexually. I never really questioned it, I just always stared at dicks instead of tits in porn.

    3. Who knows, and who doesn't? What were their reactions when you came out?
    Everyone knows except for my extended family in Taiwan. Everyone was really suprised and thought I was playing a joke or something and pretty much didn't believe me at first which sucked.

    4. How did your family react, if they know?
    I told my parents senior year in HS and overall took it a lot better then what I expected for conservative FOB parents. My Dad actually took it really well, my Mom not so much. They never really broached the subject again and instead asked my sister all the questions.

    5. How do you decide whether or not to let people know about your sexual orientation?
    For me its a no brainer. It's a part of who I am and if people are really gonna get to know me its something that they should know...doesn't matter who they are. In the end I mean it usually slips out in general conversation whether you're talking about where you went last night or who's hot in the latest TV show, etc. I'm moving towards very convservative and straightlaced fields but there are still gay people working there and it's kinda cool to be somewhat of a trailblazer. I don't think I've ever really considered my sexuality has having a detrimental effect on my professional development.

    6. What do you believe about homosexuality is it biological or a choice?
    100% biological

    7. How have your spiritual/religious beliefs been affected by your sexual orientation?
    They definetly have been. Whenever I look at a religion now, I kinda use the gay issue as a barometer or litmus test for the belief structure as a whole. I know I looked really deeply into what Buddhist beliefs have to say about the issue.

    8. How do you feel about loing-term committed relationships. What problems arise specific to homosexual long term relationships?
    A long term committed relationship is the ideal for any person, gay or straight. I think its a damn shame that an emphasis isn't placed on it in the gay community and I think that arises out of the problems you have with gay relationships. First off its a much smaller dating pool so in the end you have less selection/less of a chance of meeting the right guy. Second you have the issue of fidelity. It's just that much easier for gay men to keep their dick in their pants and not cheat.

    I think a sociological thing as well, the idea that if you're gay you're living an alternative lifestyle. Therefore it's not the norm to be in a committed relationship. I know when I was out in Castro and we were all talking and I said I could see myself moving back to the suburbs, settling down, have the white pickett fence and kids, everyone looked at me like I grew a third eye or something.

    9. How do you feel about parenthood? If you have children, do they know?
    I'd love to be a parent but I do have reservations. I personally believe I have what it takes to raise a child but pundits do make good arguments over the fact that the long term effects of a two father environment on childhold development haven't really been studied. This kinda stuff is 10 years off at least so I'll just let the debate rage for now.

    10. What do you think is the appropriate method of giving your children thar information?
    No idea.

    11. Do you fear for your safety? How do you cope with discrimination in your society?
    Haven't before and I don't see a reason why I should. Everyone who I've been out to has been fine with it and I think society has reached the point where Matthew Sheppard-esqe events are simply not tolerated.

    12. How do you feel about your self-esteem currently? Is it now, or has it ever been affected by your sexual orientation?
    I don't think my self esteem has ever been affected by my sexuality. For me it was more like, "OK I'm gay, now how do I deal with it." I see it as an intrinsic part of me and its nothing to be really ashamed about. The self esteem issues that I do have stem from your other normal crap, not sexuality.
     
  7. aballas

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    awesome...thank you so much guys...that looks perfect....sorry i didn't get around to answering your questions...i stopped looking at the thread after a while...

    if anyone wants to see my finished paper afterwards just let me know...i'd be glad to PM it to you...
     
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    originally I was only going to use one, but the answers I got are so good I'll probably use more than that...


    if anyone still wants to answer the questions for me by all means...go ahead..
     
  9. BoredVersion

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    Here goes nothing.

    I would also need your first name and age.
    Chris, 15

    1. How do you label your sexual orientation
    Bisexual.

    2. When and how did you realize this?
    I realized it when I was about 11. Only recently have I begun to accept it as a fact. I guess I realized it when I was interested in both the male and the female in porn.

    3. Who knows, and who doesn't? What were their reactions when you came out?

    A good few of my friends and one of my cousins know that I am bisexual. To my fortune, they have accepted me. The rest of my family and most of my close male friends don't know yet.

    4. How did your family react, if they know?
    I came out to my cousin in the early hours of Christmas day when we were out walking. He just looked at me, said, "Really? I would have never thought so", and we just kept on walking, discussing the topic and joking around.

    5. How do you decide whether or not to let people know about your sexual orientation?

    I don't plan to tell people unless they are really close to me. I choose to be as honest as I can around my friends, and I feel that they should know. Other classmates, teachers, etc., don't need to know.

    6. What do you believe about homosexuality is it biological or a choice?
    Biological. I really can't say that I would choose to be bisexual over being full-blown straight.

    7. How have your spiritual/religious beliefs been affected by your sexual orientation?
    It was a mixture of events, including the death of my grandmother, my lack of a "connection with God", and my realizing my bisexuality that lead me to become agnostic. I've been agnostic for 4 years now.

    8. How do you feel about long-term committed relationships. What problems arise specific to homosexual long term relationships?
    Long-term relationships are one of the best things that can happen. If two people love each other enough to be monogamous and faithful, then more powerful to them. The main problem with long-term homosexual relationships are that since promiscuity is a very large problem within the gay community, these relationships are hard to come by. And if those relationships do last, it really takes commitment between the two partners.

    9. How do you feel about parenthood? If you have children, do they know?
    Parenthood is a wonderful thing. I don't plan on having any children at the moment, but things change from when you're 15.

    10. What do you think is the appropriate method of giving your children that information?
    It would depend on whether they realize it at a young age or not. If they realize it and start asking questions, then I would explain it to them. But if they were older, then I would wait until they were in the teens to explain it to them.

    11. Do you fear for your safety? How do you cope with discrimination in your society?
    As I live in Alabama, it's always in the back of my head that something could happen. I've been lucky enough to have an accepting group of family and friends, and I also have been told that I do not look or act gay/bisexual in any shape or form.

    12. How do you feel about your self-esteem currently? Is it now, or has it ever been affected by your sexual orientation?
    It has never been affected by my orientation, but just by my appearance.
     
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