Anybody else get pissed when she talks about her exboyfriends.

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  1. guchiew

    guchiew Increase your killing power.

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    I used to be a doormat and listen as she told me about things that they did in bed, but now, she knows that it makes me mad and has stopped. The thing is that I get pissed when she says little things like "This place looks familiar...oh, I came here with Jon", or "Eddie's brothers used to work here" and other meaningless, random statements. Does anybody else react the same way?
     
  2. Improvolone

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    No, because I realise she has a past and that her past affects her present and future
     
  3. guchiew

    guchiew Increase your killing power.

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    That makes sense, but what if she compared you to them? Would you be mad then?
     
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    i would be pissed, yea. cause whats the point of bringing something like that up? reguardless??
     
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    You just have to do a much better job than they did and give her nothing to compare you to.

    You are taking this way too seriously...and way too personally.
    IMO
     
  6. guchiew

    guchiew Increase your killing power.

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    I'd be cool with her telling me a little about them, but not what they did or where they've been. It's cool if she says "Eddie studied to be a bank manager". Shit makes me so mad when she says "Oh my god, you sound like Eddie", when I say something dumb trying to get her to laugh.
     
  7. guchiew

    guchiew Increase your killing power.

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    I appreciate your opinion. I could be.


    Edit: I am better than all of her exes put together. She has told me about how they were to her. She says that I'm the only one who has ever treated her so good.
     
  8. MrEous

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    ahhh...I see what you mean. Not just sex w/ her exes but other stuff?

    Maybe she's caught up on them? Extra baggage?
    Tell me, how did her other relationships end? How old is she?
     
  9. guchiew

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    She grew apart from the last one. She's 21.
     
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    How long ago was she with him?
     
  11. JohnDoe

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    I used to get really pissed and I broke up w/ one girl once cuz she mentioned one. But then I realized that I talk about my ex's all the time and I wouldnt want them to get mad at me for it.

    Like sometimes Ill mention the similarities of my ex and current gf and Id prolly get pissed if she mentioned my similarities to one of her ex bf's.
     
  12. chica&buddies

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    nah... i really don't mind hearing stuff about an ex. i love learning about people, and their past is obviously a part of them. i admit, :o, i've got caught up in talking about some people i've dated in which i'm sure the guys haven't been so keen on hearing. :(

    :confused: it's odd that your gf brings up her ex's all the time, tho. i could see maybe once in a while, but an every day thing is somewhat extreme. is it possible that she's still hung up on them? maybe she's looking for something to converse with you with. i admit, it's odd that she'd use him, but with us girls you never know. ;)
     
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    :eek3: that's soo odd. as i'm sitting here thinking about the guys i've dated/been with, none of them are even like any of the others in pretty much every aspect: different builds, different jobs... :o well, okay, now that i'm thinking, you got me. 3 have been obsessed with cars. :rofl:
     
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    no cuz she always talks about how much she hates them and how much better i am.
     
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    My most recent ex did that all the fucking time, it never stopped. She told me she does the same thing about me now, with whoever she is dating. She was a crazy bitch with a lot of baggage. She dumped the guy she was with before me, but couldn't manage to get over him, and now is doing the same with who she is with now by talking about me. I think it is her way of keeping a distance.
    I dunno. Intimacy issues, Daddy Issues, Missed a few hugs as a kid turned into a slut.
     
  16. JohnDoe

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    Im sure there are things that one of your current SO's will do that will remind you of an ex. it happens to me all the time.
     
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    IMO it shows a lack of emotional awareness and sensitivity.
     
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    yeah that shit would piss me off
     
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    Wouldnt bother me in the least.
    Your thin skin would bother me if i was her.
     
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    I never mentined my ex's to current girlfriend. I wouldnt want her doing the same. But if she did do it, Id just tell not to mention it to me.
     
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    i just one up the other dudes, hehe.
     
  22. guchiew

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    I asked her not to compare me to them and she got mad and told me to get used to it. I was pissed, but I don't think that it'll be a problem anymore, ever since I've been using it to my advantage. I got her to stop, so I think things are ok now. I think that she gets it now. I didn't mind, I even was interested in her exes (I want to know what they did wrong), but I don't need to her "OMG, Eddie used to work on his car all of the time too" and so on. Especially when it had to do with me looking at the blown Charger or the other E30 M3 that drove by. Most guys my age like cars and I don't like being just another guy to her.
     
  23. guchiew

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    The problem is that, even though I know that I have been and can "one up" them, I don't want to have to compete with them.

    I am the first guy that she has dated who hasn't cheated or lied to her. They didn't set the bar too high.
     
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    Random bringing up of boyfriends would piss me off. It makes her sound like her entire life has revolved around her previous bf's and she has nothing better to talk about.

    But if you tell her it pisses you off, and she just says "get used to it", I would find another girl.
     

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