SRS Anybody else feeling crappy because it's Christmas and without a SO?

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  1. tqpolo

    tqpolo ***** Platinum Member OT Supporter

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    I've been in a serious relationship for the last 6 years and this is the first year that I'm single. I'm getting that holiday blue that I never had to think about before. I don't have to think of getting a gift for a SO and that make me kind of sad too. I have girls I can hang out with but when there's no real feeling it really is meaningless. Boy do I feel lonely. :hs:
     
  2. DatacomGuy

    DatacomGuy is moving to Canada

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    :hug: will be my first year also.
     
  3. soopa7fly

    soopa7fly stupid :06:

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    my first holiday season in a long time without someone. oh well. im going to spend some extra time with my family and maybe ill meet someone on new years eve
     
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    easeupoffmynuts MVP OF SUCK

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    yeah it can get kinda sad without that special someone but make the best out of it spend time with the ones you really care about family!!
     
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    antiabercrombie fuk u lemonardo OT Supporter

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    I've felt really off since Thanksgiving, but I have a SO.

    Maybe it's work stress or just some undetermined source of depression, but it's like I just don't really care about anything and I get irritated at people easily.

    I'll go home from work feeling drained, and just lay on the bed staring at the ceiling for hours. Like I'm lost or something. But I don't dread work, so I'm not sure what it is.
     
  6. deusexaethera

    deusexaethera OT Supporter

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    I've been single since July 2002. Christmas doesn't suck because I spend it with people I like. If you don't like anyone, I guess I can see that being a problem, but most families would be glad to host their brother/sister/child, provided they don't also invite their 15 shady friends who'll wreck the place.
     
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    just_another_on New Member

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    I was in the same situation last year, and I can honestly say, I think you will find it very beneficial.

    After being in something so committed or so serious, you tend to lose touch about everything else.

    Take the time this season to spend with your family and friends, the ones who were there before your significant other, and obviously now, after. I think a lot of us in this world forget how good Christmas and Holidays were before a SO was involved.

    Im not a very religious person, but I hold strong onto family values. I think we need to appreciate the fact that we have what we have, from family, to riches, to a roof over our head.

    It wont be to bad.
     
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    DatacomGuy is moving to Canada

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    Good thoughts..
     
  9. KSNIPPY

    KSNIPPY As lost as i get i will find you

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    first one in a few years that i havnt had a gf for the holidays and it has me down a little too. christmas feels kinda empty.

    :hug:
     
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    triXx Im the crack being smoked by your dealer

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    havnt had an so for the holidays in over 5 years, thought things were working out, bout a gift, now no so again, and the place wont thate the gift back... pawn shop time
     
  11. philvia

    philvia SUCKIN ON MY TITTIES LIKE YOU WANTIN ME CALLIN ME

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  12. lick wid nit wit

    lick wid nit wit Official OT Oracle

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    My SO and I had a shaky relationship for a long time. We never exchanged gifts because the relationship was shaky so no big deal. This year the relationship is over, meh. It's not a huge issue because the relationship is over.

    My family, on the other hand, banned me from Christmas diiner because of a feud with my sister. And they are siding with my sister because she is the one who has a kid.... the fuck?

    I've never been a huge fan of Christmas anyways so I'll just stay home and play video games. No loss here. Christmas is overrated unless you are in a solid relationship and have a stable family.

    Peace :)
     
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    :h5: Great attitude.
     
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    I usually don't have a girlfriend for Christmas or New Years. It doesn't really matter to me really. Only thing that sucks for this year was I was kind of seeing a girl for about two months and last month she said she still had feelings for one of her ex's that was starting to talk to her. So it kind of has been a hard holiday season for me trying to get it out of my head. It doesn't really help that I see her around, I still talk to her, and she's friends with the same people I'm friends with. now i''m just ranting and raving. sorry :hsugh:
     
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    I've only had a girlfriend for 2 Christmas' since I was 16 so it's no big deal for me. It is nice to have someone during the season though.
     
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    bimmer318 I'm out of applesauce

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    i've been single since september 1985 lol

    no big deal
     
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    AlliMae13 New Member

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    Oh yeah I hear ya...No SO...going to be lonely. Especially when I have to spend Christmas Eve alone by myself because all ofmy family is away at their SO's parties in other towns
     
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    newsroom_can Canada eh?

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    On a bright side, it is one less person that you will have to buy a gift for.

    Plus, couldn't you spend it with your other friends and family? For me and my family, Christmas is more of family thing and it doesn't really matter whether I am single or not. :dunno:
     
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    JakobwithaK Titty fuck for the win!

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    pretty much yeah
     
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    JakobwithaK Titty fuck for the win!

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    Im a beaver this time of year because of this, going out and seeing all the couples cuddle and spend time just depresses me more. Dont feel lonely OP, im a total loner too.:wtc:
     
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    Midgetized Don't mess with Douche Cat

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    This is the first time since 2000 that I'll be alone for the holidays :eek3:
     
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    This will be my first year through the holidays WITH a so..

    Feels the same
     
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    I know how you feel, I am in the exact same boat, only a few months ago I came out of a 5 year relationship :wtc:

    Having to go out and buy presents for familly etc and seeing all these couples around hurts and can be pretty depressing, especially when Christmas is the time of year when all you want to do is be with your SO
     
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    My sentiments exactly :)
     

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