SRS Any Regrets?

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  1. anonymous

    anonymous New Member

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    So for those of you who have told an SO that you wanted to take a break, do any of you regret asking for the break? If so, how long after the break did you realize it was a mistake and what did you do about it (if anything)?
     
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    no regrets ... talk to her, but at arms length ...
     
  3. MissKitty

    MissKitty If squats were easy they'd be called 'Your Mum' OT Supporter

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    If you thought in your own mind that you needed a break, then you needed a break. If you were able t have the break and realise you wanted them back, I don't think that should be classified as regretting it, but more opening your eyes.

    I hope it all works out for you
     
  4. anonymous

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    oh, I wasn't the one who wanted a break; he did. From what I've read and heard, most people don't end up back together after the break and sometimes the one who asked for the break realized they were wrong and wanted the other person back, but by the time they realized this, the other person had moved on. I know he still cares for me (and he's not shopping, as most people would say is the reason for a break) and a couple weeks ago I saw his attempt at trying to be a better boyfriend. Then I got upset with something he did and blew it way out of proportion, so I think I made things worse which means if he really was thinking of trying this again, my actions may have made him decide that he was "right" afterall.
     
  5. MissKitty

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    I to am a think that most breaks are really break up's. I have never had someone tell me they want a break but I have been with someone where we kept breaking up and getting back together.

    Once your part, it gets used a lot one... like the flood gates have been opened and you just can't shut it again :(

    I hope you sort it out
     
  6. PuppyCat

    PuppyCat O.T. Mom

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    This puzzles me....taking a break from your SO? Why would one want to do that?

    I can very well understand not spending as much time with them, if one is busy with work, school and other obligations, but taking a break?

    To me, that sounds like "Um, you're really not that sigificant in my life. Let me get back to ya."

    I was under the impression that one's SO was important all of the time.

    Or maybe I just misunderstand the whole concept of "taking a break".
     
  7. johan

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    "Taking a break" almost always means "I no longer wish to be with you, but haven't the heart or guts or bravery to just end it right here, right now".

    I don't want you any more. But I don't want to hurt your feelings either.
    But I'm also scared of what's out there (maybe nothing?) so for now...let's just take a break, shall we?

    I spare my feelings (sort of), I spare your feelings (sort of), and I've left my options open.

    C'est ca. Clearer now?
     
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    PuppyCat O.T. Mom

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    I thought as much... et c'est vrai.
     

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