Any of you guys ever gone soft during sex?

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  1. Werdna

    Werdna Livin' the SLO Life...

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    Happened a couple weeks ago with this girl I'm sorta dating. I was pretty shocked and I've been beating myself up over it lately. We'd been making out/fooling around for 1-2 hours beforehand and deciding whether or not to have sex, and I wonder if my body had just had enough. I had also just moved home from college and my mood was kinda in a funk and I had no appetite, so maybe I was depressed or stressed or something? Or maybe I was nervous because I actually like this girl and it wasn't just some random chick. I dunno, but it's somewhat upsetting.

    It happened once before with this other random girl a couple years ago, except she was just giving me head. Similar situation, made out/fooled around for hours, I was ready to go the whole time, we haggled over what to do, and by the time any action happened, I was just tired/over it.

    Thoughts? :dunno:
     
  2. Felix

    Felix Its good to be me.

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    I had it happen to me a few times, but it was a with a girl that I wasn't really attracted to all that much. She just didn't do it for me for some reason. Never had a problem with any other girl.
     
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    it happens. no reason to worry unless it starts happening regularly
     
  4. Werdna

    Werdna Livin' the SLO Life...

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    Yeah...she had me turned on earlier, but then we stopped, chatted about sex and other stuff, then decided to do it...i think i was just done by that time.

    anyone else?
     
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    happened to me once with my last ex. i wasnt really in the mood and i felt really really lazy
     
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    were you high again? :p

    i'm serious :squint:
     
  7. Werdna

    Werdna Livin' the SLO Life...

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    jonno, mah boy. no i wasn't high, i haven't smoked since i graduated and moved home. i miss weed a lot. :o but yeah, if i was high that woulda been understandable...but no, wasn't high...or drunk for that matter.
     
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    hmm. worried about mom or dad walking in? were your parents home?
     
  9. Werdna

    Werdna Livin' the SLO Life...

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    nah it was at her place...her family was gone for the weekend...i don't know if it was nerves, or stress/depression, or that i'm just not that attracted to her, or if i'd been turned on too long and my body was just over it...quite the mystery :sad2:
     
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    Stop pondering about it and move on... If it becomes something more common then go see a doctor.
     
  11. Werdna

    Werdna Livin' the SLO Life...

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    yeah we used a condom and those thoughts definitely went through my head about the anticipation etc...plus the condom felt thicker to me than usual, althought she claimed it was thinner because it was polyurethane or some shit :dunno:
     
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    el es dee ...through a cloud of chalk and the midst of pain.

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    id just like to jump in here and answer this from my personal experience. its happened to me, more than once. i was getting scared cause im 19. so i took a look at my lifestyle and tried to see what was effecting me. i came to the conclusion that because i was eating a severly calorie deficient diet my body was not up to par sexually. talking to others have further convinced me im right, a little research into the matter sold me on it. your body needs fats to make test, if you dont get enough your sex drive takes a dive :dunno: eat, eat well and fuck hard :wavey:
     
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    happens to me all the time if I'm not going at it... I seem to have to have some form of escalation (i.e. I can't be doing the same thing forever, it starts to lose its appeal) to keep hard. It doesnt matter who I'mwith
     
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    Stress, it'll do it to you, for sure. It has happened to me before. But it was probably a combination of all of those things. Stress, fatigue, and being nervous.
     
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    Happend to me before. This girl was really skinny, and she was also pretty dry. (I know I was turning her on by house heavy she was breathing during foreplay/makeout) --- Anyways...her being really skinny correlated her having a very tight vagina, and her being dry caused a problem.

    I tried a couple of times to get it in, then played it off and went back to making out. Anyways --- I was so nervous about not being able to get it in, that I forgot about being horny and lost my erection.

    I sometimes seem to lose focus of the girl and what i'm doing, and always focusing on not being a screwup, that I screw it up.
     
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    Don't worry, she's already told all her friends.

    Just wear sunglasses and see which one gives u that "look"
     
  17. cobramadness

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    This has happened to me twice. Very embarrassing but hey, what can ya do.
     
  18. Werdna

    Werdna Livin' the SLO Life...

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    yes, this is very true. testosterone decreases in a caloric deficit. at the time i never had an appetite and consequently probably was in a deficit.
     
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    Werdna Livin' the SLO Life...

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    yeah i totally agree on that...unless things progress in a timely manner my sex drive starts to die sometimes...that's why the best sex i've had comes with just a little foreplay and then right to the act...no indecisiveness
     
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    It happened to me a bunch of times with my current gf. I really dont know why either. I guess sometimes shit just happens. If it happens alot then worry.
     
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  23. RedVsBlue

    RedVsBlue Penguins > *

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    welcome to having a sex life, please enjoy your stay.
     
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    weed makes me horny
     
  25. Werdna

    Werdna Livin' the SLO Life...

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    your condom theory is quite a hit :bigthumb:
     

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