i don't mean this in a freaky way (in which case i would have posted elsewhere). i just mean that... a lot of girls seem to be pretty heavily submissive in bed, be they on top or missionary or whatever position. a lot of girls have rape fantasies and get turned on by violence. many just like the idea of being dominated in small, less "freaky" ways. the guy leading them. something that used to embarrass me was that i liked it when the girl led. when the girl seduced the guy, for example, and i don't mean in a "pick up" sense but rather an in-the-bedroom STYLE, presumably with two people already well away form the friend-zone. like i said it's not even necessarily in a kinky way, i just think it's hot when the girl is in control. alternately for female posters, do you enjoy the "top"? have you been in that mental position in the bedroom?