any guys like being sub in bed?

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  1. JohnJohnJohnson

    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    i don't mean this in a freaky way (in which case i would have posted elsewhere).

    i just mean that... a lot of girls seem to be pretty heavily submissive in bed, be they on top or missionary or whatever position.

    a lot of girls have rape fantasies and get turned on by violence. many just like the idea of being dominated in small, less "freaky" ways. the guy leading them.

    something that used to embarrass me was that i liked it when the girl led. when the girl seduced the guy, for example, and i don't mean in a "pick up" sense but rather an in-the-bedroom STYLE, presumably with two people already well away form the friend-zone.

    like i said it's not even necessarily in a kinky way, i just think it's hot when the girl is in control. alternately for female posters, do you enjoy the "top"? have you been in that mental position in the bedroom?
     
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    Sephiroth13 Beginning of the End

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    I'm submissive in bed.. Actually I prefer her to take control and just go wild with it. ... I'll do anything for mistress.
     
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    I want a girl to take it like she owns it.
     
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    Power gradients of whatever type, in whichever direction are hot to me :dunno:
     
  5. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    Is it coincidence that my bf said that to me last night? :eek3:
     
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    its funny, I LOVE an aggressive girl in bed, but that just makes me turn my level up even further.
     
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    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    o rly. does it work for you?
     
  8. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    I like being dom in bed from time to time, I'm sure he loves it. Though we do our fair share of compromise because being dominated is always hot.
     
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    Phantom Empress mmmmmm tasty!!!

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    you know where i usually post, but I do enjoy being in control of the situation part of the time and the bf like it when I "use him like it own it" or just take charge and get what i want sexually.

    I think a lot of the more mature women are more comfy with that role because they KNOW what they want. the young ones are timid and so seek that dominant male figure in bed to 'lead ' them and teach them and control the situation.

    I've found the older I get and the more comfy in my relationship i've become, it has shifted to a more even keel of us taking turns withthe control of the sexual situation.
     
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    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    It's awesome that your guys' sex life evolves.

    :h5: to the ladies who like top :o

    Interestingly, I've steadily grown to like dom more and more, over time
     
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    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    It makes sense really. The more confident a guy becomes (in bed and with how he handles women) the more he usually responds well to the idea of a girl taking the reins.
     
  12. JohnJohnJohnson

    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    Er.

    Thanks, I was going in the other direction though.

    I will always like a girl taking the reins. What I was saying however is that I've become more turned on being dominant myself, over time. Starting from totally apathetic when I hit puberty to getting aroused by it these days.

    The first girl I was in love with was a very natural, self-assured sub, so in some sense I was probably "trained" dominant by that experience.

    Always love the dom girls though...
     
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    Midgetized Don't mess with Douche Cat

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    I was when I fucked my ex in the ass and that was pretty hot :mamoru: Usually I'd prefer the guy to be more in control though.
     
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    I like sub guys and don't mind taking control as long as they are not just plain out lasy and just do it so they can just lay there -.-

    does this make sence?
     
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    :eek3:

    I'm like... uptight about that or something. I'm sure it would feel good but I guess I got issues.
     
  16. JohnJohnJohnson

    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    There's a difference between being lazy and being submissive, as well as a difference between being bossy and being dominant, which is what I think you are getting at.
     
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    Phantom Empress mmmmmm tasty!!!

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    it's gotta evolve to stay fresh. after 5 years we've found so much more confidence and comfort in each other that we are willing to try just about anything together or at least broach new subjects without too much fear.
     

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