First time poster in the Vag. Been reading it for some time and it always seems as though the advice given here is good. Story: My wife and I have been together for 8 years and have been married for 7 months. About a month ago we talked and she made it apparent that she really just doesn't feel the spark any more. We discuss ways of bringing us closer and try for the last 3 weeks to obtain that. I though things were going really well and then boom out of no where we have a really small argument, and she says she wants to separate for a couple weeks so she can get her head right. Back story on my wife: She has depression issues and has been medicated since she was a teen. She is now 24. She has not been to her therapist for almost 2 years and her medicine just has not been having the same effect on her. She has been really moody, and has spats of wanting to fight and crying. Well about 3 weeks ago she decided to finally go back to her psych and try to be placed on different meds and start with her therapist again. She was placed on better meds and says working with the therapist is helping her alot. One of my concerns is the fact that we split up as she was going on her new meds and I really don't want her to think that she is feeling better because of the separation and not really thinking its the meds helping. She just keeps saying she needs her space and that she will let me know when she is ready to be back with me. She tells me she loves me very much and she keep saying she is so sorry for putting me through this. During the first week apart I made it my prime effort to get her back and went to our house and made her dinner and lit candles all over the place and when she got home from work we had dinner. A few days later I took her to a really nice restaurant. She seems so distant and things seem so awkward when we are together. Mainly because I'm still sleeping on my buddies couch. Some times I think she just really wants to end the relationship, but at the same time she does things that make me feel like she still wants me and that she REALLY does just need her space. IE: Last week she finally got full medical and dental coverage from her new job. She placed me on both of them as her spouse. She keeps telling me to hold out and not try to find a new place. (im not sure if she wants me to hold out seeing as I won't be paying half the mortgage if I get my own place and as of right now I still am) I love her very much and I don't know what I would do if I lost her. She says she is really Jaded with relationships since she really has only ever had 2 long term and she thinks that they always end like this. I keep trying to tell her that every relationship has it's dry spots and we both have to work to make it better. She keeps saying we will be back together when she figures out her own problems. But I keep thinking that this is more of a soft break-up. Like I said earlier I still try my best either via txt or phone calls to speak with her everyday. I usually text in the morning and then call in the evening before she goes to bed. I think maybe I am pushing her away by still trying to talk to her and sometimes she seems like she would rather not be talking to me. I've been doing this the entire time we have been apart. I think I am going to stop that and hope that she just misses me and or gets tired of being alone. I'm not really sure what to do. We have built so much together and I know I'm not the first person to go thru this and am just looking for any advice you all can give... Do you think she is maybe bored enough to be cheating on me. Or thinking that another man would be better for her. Thanks for reading my novel.