SRS Another Fucking Question!!?!!

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  1. SpeedLaci

    SpeedLaci New Member

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    Ok. so i took all your guys advice and started to hang out with friends. Well I went to a movie with one yesterday.. and he wouldnt keep his hands off me... and when we were saying by grabs my face and starts making out with me, stupid me plays along .. you know just to i guess find some comfort in it since i havent heard from my ex well he gets all touchy feely and says lets go back to my place.. so i say no and he kept trying.. finally he got the message and we left. So today.. i go with another friend of my from out of town to a movie then we came to hang out at my place. he has never showed interest in me before.. so i thought it was platonic.. out of no where he kisses me. Well I try to go with it, you know.. just to see if i can find something.. anything!! ..nothing.. within 5 minutes he goes for the boobs and starts rubbing everywhere...and did.. what i hate the most! made me grab. Seriously guys if a girl wants to grab you she will! ugghh! i hate when guys move my hand there! anyways!! so i tell him no.. and we laugh it off.. then he starts again.. and again.. and each time it starts with simple kissing.. .. now i know its my fault for kissing.. but what the hell happened to just a good session of kisisng? Am I that prude? Just because i dont want to do everything on the first night? seriously was that just high school days were girls could just make out with someone and not have to put out? I mean i didnt mean to lead him on.. i just really thought thats all it was especially because me and him wont end up dating. Its just frustrating!!! Trying to get over the love of my life..and all the guys i meet just want to get into my pants. It ridiculous..i am a very sexual person.. but first off im not ready because of my ex.. and secondly i mean treat me like a woman...take me out on a couple of dates.. you know? I dont know i guess im old fashioned.. or am i?! please someone help me understand. If you think im leading them on by simple kissing tell me! Ill stop. And i guess what makes it worse is out of the two..they didnt even turn me on..in my head all i could think about was my ex.. and how bad of kissers these two were...i kept thinking of how softly my ex would kiss me... how we could just make out for hours without trying to have sex.. but i guess that was love.. and all this is now .is fun right? well its no fun for me any more! i dont want to play this stupid game! i just want my old life back:squint:

    Ps if you want a catch me up on my situation ready "God Damn it Stupidity" which is posted earlier in here
     
  2. Peyomp

    Peyomp New Member

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    Quit making out with random boys.
     
  3. The Secretary

    The Secretary My domestic skills will rock your socks off!

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    Seems to me that the old life isnt something that can be had. You need to tell these boys that you are off limits period. Any man with sense will back off. You need to heal and they need to repsect that, are your friends only boys? That could be an issue. I used to hang out with all guys and when a relationship went bad they were there and totally platonic. Not all guys are bad but they see vulnerability, and they can and sometimes will take advantage of it. Find some girls and have a boy bashing party or something. Ill post more later.
     
  4. SpaMan

    SpaMan Mind over matter.

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    I'd get over your ex before starting up anything new with anyone else. You dont sound emotionally ready for a relationship. Your judgement isn't very sharp right now as you're still struggling to get over your ex, so sure you might be able to find a new guy that fits the profile of your ex, but once you finally get over your ex, you'll also get over the new guy who filled the void of your ex. You'll have a "Oh what was I thinking?" moment and realize what a mistake it all was to hook up with this new random guy. Be a stronger person and as Shortcake said, tell them you're off limits at the start until you're ready to pursue a real relationship with someone.
     
  5. big 1

    big 1 New Member

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    Its bad enough that you have to get over your ex. youre probably feeling some sort of reluctance and mistrust towards guys to begin with. but when they start using you for sexual pleasure- that sucks!!
    my advice: BE FIRM. if it goes beyond kissing, tell him no. i dont care if you slap the guy. any gentleman worth dating wouldnt do that to you, he would treat you as a woman. However, just to make things clearer to the men youre with, say "if you do anything more sexually to me than kiss me tonight, i definetly wont be interested in a second date, or pursuing a relationship with you."
    remember, men love the chase!!
     
  6. PuppyCat

    PuppyCat O.T. Mom

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    I am so anti-men right now...I could make some nasty comments but that would such terribly bad form.
    So, I shall simply state: "I can relate."
     

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