SRS Another break up

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  1. livingdeadboy

    livingdeadboy New Member

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    Reasons: Big distance, Expenses due to big distance, No time, feelings changed
    Feelings Changed: Saturday(yesterday)
    Said: "lets be friends" thats the summary of what she said.
    longevity of this tragedy: lasted a month

    does it hurt? you be it does
    do i got a use for the anti depressants that i quit for her? you be there is
    did i get attached way too quickly again? You bet..
     
  2. johan

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    You don't need antidepressants. Breaking up with a girl (that you only been with for a month!) is something that happens all the time.

    First couple of times, ok sure, you might need some help.
    Breaking up a 10 year marriage, ok sure, you might need some help.

    Breaking up a 1 month relationship -- don't use drugs.

    You can and should be able to deal with these normal everyday occurances on your own.
     
  3. PuppyCat

    PuppyCat O.T. Mom

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    Hurt is hurt and I can relate big time.

    I concur with Johan, I don't think bug juice is the answer though...Time is. That's all I have to say.
     
  4. Darketernal

    Darketernal Watch: Aria The Origination =)

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    I think that you should reflect it in a different way, the long distance was killing both of you, and it would have been better for both of you to end this relationship. There's no need for anti-depressents, rather replace this ex-gf with a new gf. I encourage you to move on with your life, and set sight on a new femine life partner in your enviroment.
     
  5. livingdeadboy

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    Done getting over it, foned her, talked over shit, we r glad to be friends...

    I dun think if its morally right to jump onto searchin for another partner just like immediately.. The only drugs i did cuz of this is codeine yesterday in attempt to fall asleep, worked. Other than that its all good.

    Thanks guys. Do u think its morally right to search immediately? btw im meeting my ex 2 times this week prolly, so we'll see how good igot over her.
     
  6. johan

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    There's nothing immoral about looking around for companionship after your relationship is over.

    If you were married a long time, and immediately started dating afterward...well, even then I would guess that it's done more out of lonliness than because of low moral standards.

    Basically, the real question is, does dating immediately afterward show disrespect for your girl, and for yourself.

    1> first off, the girl.
    Does it show disrespect for her? Well, not really, if that relationship is done and there was no cheating or lying going on, and you parted on good terms, then she ought to be happy for you. Happy that you're moving on.

    2> Secondly, and more importantly...are you disrespecting yourself?
    This is the more worthy question actually. If this was a serious relationship and it fell apart, I think it's wise to take a little time for yourself to ask why this blew up.

    Are you pursuing untenable relationships?
    Are you taking enough of a break to mentally and emotionally collect yourself?
    If you were the breakee, are you maybe jumping into something prematurely just to staunch the flow of pain?
    If you were the breaker, are you grabbing onto another girl just to feel the flow of power from using (& abusing?) girl after girl after girl?


    These are questions a moral and ethical person should think about.
     

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