SRS Anonymous Thread: I am afraid of failure, I am afraid of everything.

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  1. Throwdown

    Throwdown whore destroyer

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    All throughout my life (as far as I can remember) I was never comfortable with myself. Never have I experienced the mental freedom that every person should. Worrying about everyday things has caused me to really seek for help. Now being 21 years old, I am sick of it. School and work are on my mind constantly, I can be hanging out with my buddies and there I am thinking about this and that. I am afraid of failure, I am afraid of everything. Due to these “fears” I cannot focus the way I want to focus while performing my everyday tasks. This is also affecting my social life in a big way. I AM afraid of meeting new people. I AM afraid to talk to people. I do feel as if people are constantly judging me. EVEN around my friends I sometimes keep quiet because I am afraid of them judging me. It sucks; I wish I could explain it more. I have been trying to improve this situation for the past couple months, but it’s only getting worse by the day. For example I may be on campus smoking a cig waiting for classes to start. I feel like everyone who walks by is judging me, looking at me…….. And I get so nervous that if I didn’t control it I would go into a panic attack. My neck muscles tense up and I freeze with a million things running through my mind. This anxiety needs to be treated, as a young adult; I should be living the successful yet fun life like many others. I refuse to talk about this with my parents, as I don’t want to worry them. I think they might have an idea that something is wrong, but no one wants to say anything. I especially do not want to talk to them about it as my dads brother (who passed away) was suffering from a mental disease and my moms sister is suffering from a mental disease. Please offer some help.

    I am planning on calling up my physician tomorrow and making an appointment…….. But even right there I am afraid of telling the appointment lady that it is going to be for anxiety (they ask when you call)



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  2. Jay Pheezy

    Jay Pheezy New Member

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    You need professional help it seems. Seems like you might have a genetic mental/personality disorder. In fact most likely you do. It's hard to just fix that stuff you described by advice because it probably won't change anything. Get evaluated by a psychologist.
     
  3. Darketernal

    Darketernal Watch: Aria The Origination =)

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    You are your own judge,jury and executor. What's important is not the failure, but the strenght to rise from the ashes and to move on. I always tell myself 'they have more reason to be afraid of me, then i off them' and c'mon , your friends aren't going to expect you winning 100% of the time, they just want to go out and have a fun time. I always say 'everybody needs a bit of Jamaican in them' RELAX. Chill out, my dad used to say to me. You know all those people that lived in 1858 they all did nothing but worrying themselves, and look now they are all dead just like the people that didn't worry during their lives. The result = teh same.

    Its even in the bible.

    Matt 6:25-26 (TEB) "...Do not be worried about the food and drink you need to stay alive, or about clothes for your body. After all, isn't life worth more than food? And isn't the body worth more than clothes? Look at the birds flying around: they do not plant seeds, gather a harvest, and put it in barns; your Father in heaven takes care of them!"

    Matt 6:27-30 (TEB) "Which one of you can live a few more years by worrying about it? And why worry about clothes? Look how the wild flowers grow: they do not work or make clothes for themselves. But I tell you that not even Solomon, as rich as he was, had clothes as beautiful as one of these flowers. It is God who clothes the wild grass--grass that is here today, gone tomorrow, burned up in the oven. Won't he be all the more sure to clothe you? How little faith you have!"

    Matt 6:31-34 (RSV) "So do not start worrying: 'Where will my food come from? or my drink? or my clothes?' (These are the things the heathen are always concerned about.) Your Father in heaven knows that you need all these things. Instead, be concerned above everything else with his Kingdom and with what he requires, and he will provide you with all these other things. So do not worry about tomorrow; it will have enough worries of its own. There is no need to add to the troubles each day brings."

    [​IMG] Relax man, just be though on fixing your problems, but give yourself some slack space to enjoy life :h5:
     
  4. svetlanalemon

    svetlanalemon A little blood and vomit on the car seat...

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    no, i dont think its right to jump ahead and say he has "genetic/mental personality problems"

    i advise you to try out meditation, stop caffeine use( it increases anxiety) and keep track of your thoughts ( remember, you are your own worst judge, people are too concerned with themselves to be thinking about you!)
    if worst comes to worst, i suggest talk therapy...

    meds come last, please. nothing in life is a quick fix. people have been in your situation before, and by continuing to fear and fear, you have reinforced that these things are dangerous, and your amygdala fires adrenaline whenever youre in those situations.....

    there is hope. take your time, take a deep breath, you are not alone and perserverance is key
     
  5. quamen

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    Wow you sound like me,but i think im even worse off. im 24 and cant stop worrying about everything, that i have started to get gray hair already and it is not hereditary. I will sweat alot,tremble and i feel the same way. At college i feel people are judging me, im afraid to meet new people,i worry about everything even when im not in that situation,such as with friends etc. Sometimes i get depressed and say why do we really live? What is the point of life. I also wish i could be more happy about everything and relax more,but i havent been able to. Keep us updated,im very interested. If i had health insurance i would have went to the doc already.
     
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    Im 23 now and at 21 I was just like you. At 15 I was just like you. A bit too much pressure (albiet good intentioned) from my parents just put it in my head all the time. I was worrying about going to college and grades and being "good" when the whole time I should of been doing the dumb things and learning from it.

    I learned that noone can go forever. You have to have something to make you relax. A drug. Whether it be a beer, a cig, a coffee, or some mary =).
    As weird as it sounds weed did it for me. I made me realize where we are in this world and what really does matter. It gives me a chance to be alone with myself or someone I care about and reflect and chill. Its wonderful.
     
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    Its really about learning to love yourself and stop wanting to be loved by others. Others will love you for you are and those that you seek and that seek attention are the fake ones.
     
  8. PuppyCat

    PuppyCat O.T. Mom

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    Failure is part of growth. I agree with Fotenks...who gives a rat's ass what the receptionist thinks? If she's anything like my Doc's receptionist, thought is alien to her.
     

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