Sorry no cliffs Am I just an insecure jerk or just a normal guy losing his mind? 1st.. I love my GF very much. I try to do all that I can for her.. but there are some things that have developed that I dont think I can deal with anymore.. GF has alot of guy friends... at 1st i didnt really have an issue with it as long as they werent Ex-bfs(insecure?). As we started getting more serious it just started to bother me. Group things werent that big of a deal, but when she would go out with just the guy it would bug me.. She always assured me that I'm just being overly jealous. It got worse when we would fight and she would discuss our problems with certain guy friends. One of her guyfriends that sold(she's yet to pay a dime after almost a year) her a car became her confidant. Oh and this is the 2nd guyfriend to give her a car, the 1st one took his back when her and I started getting serious. Anyway, Once we were arguing in bed and she turned over and called him crying about our fight. A couple of times she even went to his house after we fought. I was furious and she stopped but assured me that he is just a good friend that listens to her. This other guyfriend she has known for almost 10 years. They were a couple way back 9th grade or earlier. I have always known they were friends for a long time and it didnt bug me... untill one night, she came home and was crying.. She said they left a club, he was very drunk and starting trying to get in her pants. She couldnt believe he would try this.. Again, i was furious and was gonna beat his ass... she wouldnt give me his info so I at least said no more hanging out with this guy, she agreed. She now tells me it was just a dumb mistake he made and she wont throw away that friendship... Another time she went to hangout with her niece and one of her guyfriends met up with them.. she failed to tell me about this untill a buddy said he ran into them. All this + some intense anger issues on her part(i think she may be bi-poler) led up to a breakup. we seperated for about 2 months.. We remained in contact bc she said she wants to be 2gether once she seeks help on her rage issues. From my point of view she spent this time going out with her friends and making herself over.. I finally said screw this and left for good.. She kept calling me crying about how she didnt want to lose me and that she would do whatever it takes... she doesnt care about any of the other stuff as long as she doesnt lose me... Things have been good for a few days...Fast Fwd to lastnight.. I ask her what she might want to do for her Bday at the end of the month. I know that her sister's been planning a Bday party for her since b4 we got back 2gether.. So I asked what she might want to do just the 2 us also..like a weekend trip or something.. We ended up getting in an arguement about some of the guys she's inviting to her party and me going etc.. Ended with her telling me that unless we get engaged/married or something the I have to "suck it up" and deal with these particular guy friends being around. Am I just totally insecure? even rereading my own words I think "why have i put up with it?".