Anonymous post: Nice guy, juiced again

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  1. RougeOgre

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    So I have this friend who got dumped AGAIN. He is for the most part kind and considerate but he does have a bit of a jealous streak (which causes THOSE arguments).

    He is good looking, late 20's and in the military (I think this part of the problem and I keep telling him that). Help him out and for God's sake... don't tell him not to be so nice, I like him like this. I think he just needs to not give his heart so easily.

    IWYWB... if there are links, can you point them out to him?
     
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    What does he need help with? Keeping a girl? With himself?

    And on not changing the niceness... I think that once everyone gets burned you learn to be more guarded, and not give up everything for every girl/guy that comes along. Relationships are a hit and miss, and most of the time they are a miss. I think he just needs to realize that and not get so down about it. Everyone has troubles, and everyone goes through this type of stuff.
     
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    Nice guys are good friends, they're not good for attracting women. He needs to put himself first and stop idolizing the women he dates. He's probably smothering them and pushing them away from him.
     
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    I can understand not wanting your friend to go from a sweet person to a jerk, but I doubt that is going to happen. He still needs to better himself and work on his jealousy issues otherwise he's always going to lose women. He does not need to act like a dick to get a girl, he just can't try to control them or be a pushover.

    Not sure what kind of links to provide, but this is a great one about nice guys by Yail :dunno:
    http://forums.offtopic.com/showthread.php?t=3806191

    And these are some threads on jealousy:
    http://forums.offtopic.com/showthread.php?t=3867481
    http://forums.offtopic.com/showthread.php?t=2236404
    http://forums.offtopic.com/showthread.php?t=2771631
     
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    He sounds amazing... from OP's original description he seems wonderful. Are you near Cincinnati?:cool: As hokey as it sounds, tell him to keep being himself and he'll find somone who doesn't take nice men for granted.
     
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    No, he is in AZ.
     
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    No, actually he doesn't do either.
     
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    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    So what is he jealous about?
     
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    He can be a jerk and still be nice.

    I tease all my friends but yet when it matters I'm there for them. It actually means a lot more to them because of that.
     
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    The jealousy is usually a mid-deployment thing and he knows he needs to work on that. He is trying and he does apologize when he steps over the line.
    And honestly, it is not a constant thing I think it is more of a stress reaction.
     
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    I think maybe you have a better understanding of what I mean. It is that "hey, your having fun with your friends and I'm stuck in BFE away from you. I want to be the one having fun with you" type of jealousy.

    Yeah, I keep telling him that most women aren't cut out for the military/long distance wife/SO scene. I tell him he needs MILF :rofl: :rofl: :rofl:
     
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    More info...

    Now my boy has lots of female friends, so he does know how to treat women properly. Some of his married friends trust him with their wives (movies, dinner & such) because they know he is a gentleman.

    Maybe y'all can suggest what he should be looking for in a woman who will be a keeper......
     
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    what kind of woman is he going after?
     
  14. RougeOgre

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    Apparently women who aren't mature enough to handle (a sometimes) long distance relationship with a man who will treat them like a Goddess if they will only be faithful and willing to give as good as they get.

    Well, they do have to be willing to at least talk about walking on the FS side. :mamoru:
     
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    hrm.. maybe he should date some older woman...
    I know some girls like that.. but they are already married lol
    but isn't all that goddess stuff like too mushy or too nice?
     
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    OK.. So I'm just his friend and I don't know if he leaves the cap off the toothpaste or the toilet seat up but I know his heart and he is genuinely a good guy.

    Yeah, maybe he should find a nice older woman. I don't think he necessairly has an age hang up (I think he'd like kids though).

    and no, I think every woman likes to know that her man thinks of her as his own personal Goddess. I wouldn't want public fawning or anything like that but it never hurts to hear that dinner was good or I look especially nice (when I have really tried) or him to do the damn dishes once in a while :rofl:
     
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    doing dishes huh? lol
     
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    some people are blind to the truth huh.. its funny
     
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    It is. Sometimes people need a wake up call.
     
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    or they need to be tied up and slapped around :naughty:

    :rofl:
     
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    You're my kinda' person....Hahahaha....
     
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    thats what they all say lol
     
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    hrm... hey RO? is your friend deployed now?
     
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    Yes or I'd be happy to tie him up and slap him around :rofl::rofl:
     

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