SRS Anonymous: Need advice....

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  1. Throwdown

    Throwdown whore destroyer

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    Need advice people.... I have been with my bf for 3 years now and recently I've been talking to a guy on the internet that I'm so into it.
    The thing is that he is on the other side of the world aswell. We have swapped pictures, talk to each other everyday (voice chat) and he wants to come and see me in a couple of months.
    He knows that I have a bf and he knows I am not happy with him.
    Each day I look forward to speaking to him, and look forward to his emails.
    Last night my bf and I had sex and I just didn't want to be with him, so I faked it. All I can think about is this other guy from the other side of the world.
    I'm scared, I dont' know what to do...
    Things with my bf and I ain't the best, he is selfish and self centered. I put up with alot of his sh*t but the reason why I'm with him is for convience, I guess....
    I didn't expect to have feelings like this for another guy, yet alone someone on the otherside of the planet.

    In a way, I don't want to leave my bf just incase this guy comes and we don't hit it off or things don't work. I don't think I can deal with being alone.

    What do you think I should do?


    Also, do long distance relationships really work??
     
  2. Throwdown

    Throwdown whore destroyer

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    if you are not happy with your man you need to get rid of him. dont degrade yourself.

    on the other hand. how old are you? are you capable of traveling to see your new friend?
     
  3. SovietRussia

    SovietRussia What? You pooped in the refrigerator? OT Supporter

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    you wouldnt be alone for long if you didnt want to im sure. you probably have plenty to offer the opposite sex.
     
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    [Things with my bf and I ain't the best, he is selfish and self centered. I put up with alot of his sh*t but the reason why I'm with him is for convience, I guess....
    I didn't expect to have feelings like this for another guy, yet alone someone on the otherside of the planet.

    In a way, I don't want to leave my bf just incase this guy comes and we don't hit it off or things don't work. I don't think I can deal with being alone.

    Selfish? Self-centered? Hmmmm....

    Don't want to leave the b/f because the new guy might not work out?

    Can't deal with being alone?

    Holy Doodle. Staying with someone out of convenience (and dorking them at the same time) isn't that um, akin to um, well you know. Where's the self-respect in that?

    Getting moist about someone on the internet a zillion miles away and faking it with your current?
    Where's the honesty in that?

    Jaysus Murphy, you cannot have your cake and eat it too.

    I say move out. You are not doing yourself any good and you are doing another human a disservice by pretending to like him (or at least sleep with him).

    And you met this guy on the internet? Exchanged pictures? Cooed and billed in cyberspace? Lord have mercy.

    I think you are selfish. I think what you are doing is wrong. Playing with someone's emotions is never a good thing. :nono:

    I think you should take some time out and seriously think about what you are doing and to whom.

    Being alone isn't bad, it gives one time to explore oneself, discover, find new avenues...as well as time to talk with Mr. Ontheothersideoftheplanet.

    How would you feel if the shoe was on the other foot and your current was doing/thinking the exact same thing as you are now? I suspect you'd feel pretty rotten. I know I would.

    Think about it.
     
  5. dave steel

    dave steel My Kung Fu is the best.

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    If you meet this guy on the other side of the world, you will most likely be disappointed in him, (or he in you.) You are living in a dream.
     
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    could just be an infatuation or "crush" type thing with the other guy because you're bored or unsatisfied with the boyfriend.
     
  7. katt_85

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    If things aren't fixable with your current boyfriend and you feel that you could never possibly be truly happy together, please tell him and let him move onto better things.

    Staying with your bf until something better comes along is unfair to him.


    Long distance relationships cannot last forever. What happens once he goes back home? :hs:
     
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    Transferring to another guy without a breakup beforehand is bad style. If you're sick of your boyfriend: end it. Then hook up with internet boy. Don't go shopping for a new man while you're still with the current one.
     
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    This is the most sensible and accurate response yet.

    But I think you should go and while you're there, email a confession to your boyfriend and don't go back.

    Your boyfriend deserves better than what you're doing to him. It is disgraceful and unworthy.
     
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    Yeah, but the depth of her selfishness leads her to think that HE is being selfish because all of HER needs aren't being met.

    Oh yeah, I'm sure this guy ain't no picnic in the sunshine either, but still, he doesn't deserve this either.

    Do everyone a favour. Leave the boyfriend, show up on Mr. Internet's doorstep, have a whirlwind "romance", get dumped and disillusioned hardcore when the Internet thing fizzles.

    That way you will have gotten a massive dose of reality and literally done years of emotional growing in the space of a few short months. The cost of all that accelerated learning is that it will HURT!

    But go ahead. Ain't no time like the present.
     

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