SRS Anon Thread: Gambling problem

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  1. i killed tupac

    i killed tupac New Member

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    ANON THREAD:

    I been with OT for awhile but I seem to come upon a new "hobby", also known as a bad habit. In 2007, I went to Reno, NV and it was my first time ever gambling at a real casino. I intentionally went to Reno to help out a buddy who was performing his first show. I showed up with $300 which was my expenses for food and entertainment purposes. I went to 4 casino's and lost about $180 my first night there. The following night, I won it back leaving me at $500 total. Now the third night, I went back and lost it ALL including my $300 I originally had. I was too greedy.
    --During this time period, I was focusing on school, work and having fun with my new motorcycle--
    Fast forward to Jan 2009, I went to a local casino here with $60 and end up losing it all. Came back the next week and won it back taking home $120 total. At this point, I'm addicted and want more.

    So just yesterday night, I went to a casino 2 hours away with $200 in my hand ready to play. I play for 5 hours and came up $700! After few more hours of play, I lose it all including my $200 I entered the casino with. I then withdrew another $100 from the ATM and lost that too. I go home sad and shitty.

    I really feel that my academic performance is going to shit because I can't stop playing blackjack @ the casinos. I'm usually a B/A grade student in college but I got D's/C's just this last quarter. I want to say its because I'm taking the upper division classes but its a lame excuse. I'm 4 classes away from graduating with a BA degree and its hard to concentrate. It's winter and I don't want to ride my bike in the rain for safety reasons. It seems like I don't know when to walk away from the table. Once I start the game, Its hard to stop.

    I'm already making plans to go back this weekend in terms to get my $300 back at the minimum.


    has anyone had this kind of problem? what did you do to stop gambling?

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  2. Hibidi-Shibidi

    Hibidi-Shibidi New Member

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    I love playing poker. To the point that I would call it borderline addiction. I have much larger swings than 100/200 dollars though. We are talking in the 600 to 900 range. And even then, I know people that have larger swings.

    Short of actually going to a gambling anon meeting (which I had considered) I take steps at home to try and prevent myself from going.

    If I am going to go, I just transfer what I was going to take to the casino into a savings account that I can't pull from an ATM.

    So lets say I was going to go and start with 300. I will just transfer that 300 into a savings account and it would be like I had just lost that money.

    If it puts me into the hole with bills, I make do and take the hit like I would have had I taken the money to the casino.

    Not only will this slow your gambling due to the shitty feeling of coming up short on bills, but will fund an account for something more productive.

    Invest the "loss" that is in the savings account into something else that you can't easily access. Like a CD or something. The returns are shit right now, but its better than not having the money at all.
     
  3. i killed tupac

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    Well, I say lets take the name of the behavior itself out if it. Let's call it...driving.

    If you were going to stop driving a car, how would you do it? Would you only drive on the weekend? Holidays, after work, with friends but not alone? No, you would simply stop driving.

    Now, why can't you apply that same reasoning to gambling? It's not a chemical, it's not a drug. So, perhaps it is your behavior that needs the help. Wouldn't you have stopped already-if you could?

    Gambling falls into the range of addictive behavior that often traps addicts and exposes a need for change. For most people, that's exposed by drugs, and sometimes very quickly, depending on the drug. For some people, alcohol addiction exposes it, but sadly, that takes longer. With gambling, it all depends on how fast you can lose it all (and all you can borrow/con/manipulate) before a "rock bottom" is hit. For sex addicts, it can be STD's, or being caught in prurient behavior, loss of marriages, etc.

    Really, we all have our own thresh hold. We all have said "that's it, I am not going to do _____ like that anymore" then ended up right back there before we knew it.

    Also, this is not normal behavior. It was normal to the people we associated with, but it really wasn't with the rest of the world, because there is something that makes us different. In R2R and most mental health fields, it's called addiction, and it's a very specific type of condition, different then OCD and some other similar types of disorders.

    The good news is, treatments are effective and pretty standardized anymore. The bad news is, if you're and addict of any type, you wont be able to engage in those behaviors without ever getting what you have right now.
     
  4. Xicculus

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    Sounds like you've only been to a casino less than 10 times. Solution: Don't go to the casino any more. Problem solved!

    Also, I travel to Vegas all the time for work for a week at a time. If I feel the urge to gamble I'll go with a a bunch of twenties (maybe a hundred bucks) and my ID, leaving my credit cards and ATM cards at the hotel. This way I have a set limit, once I'm done, I'm done.
     
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    i agree, try this, and if you fail, maybe you have a gambling problem
     
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    I love playing poker too man, just got to know when to walk away... I've had a few big losses and it just clicked in my head, when your up walk away and come back to it... You're not going to ride the up forever, take your winnings, go home and come back to it later... The casino isn't going anywhere... Or in my case Poker Stars isn't going anywhere ;)


    Good luck man :)
     

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