I'm 32. People (wife, therapist) are telling me I had a terrible childhood, and apparently I am a very angry person. So much so that even when I'm making an effort to be nice it comes off wrong. Most of my friends are very chill, so is my wife for the most part. I never really looked at the childhood thing and attitudes until very recently. This anger has never presented itself physically to any friend or member of my family, ever. I am not violent except for playing FPS games once in a great while (no time anymore anyhow due to kids and school). I have only been in a couple physical altercations in my life, but those times I wasn't a very humane person to the other party. I am really interested in the Dalai Lama's writings and am purchasing the top three most interesting and pertinent looking ones friday (payday). I'm looking at my own past behavior and attitudes and I agree about the anger issues, and I know it causes stress for me and those around me. Stress=health and other problems, and since I envy those that are relaxed and naturally nice (not to be confused with kind - I am kind in deed, just not always in word) i figure it's time to work on it. Does anyone have anything else to suggest? I want to stay away from anything too preachy and authors that are highly invested in the bible (Gary Chapman) because I don't want to really base much (of what I consider recovery) on religion specifically.