I've been reading a few posts lately that make certain aspects of the gay community somewhat harsh. I'm sure that it's probably just the few negative experiences which receive more attention than the more plentiful positive ones, but this has nevertheless left me wondering something. What is it about the gay community that makes it seem like so many people are: cruel, conceited, superficial or just plain fucked up? I've been able to come to grips with my own sexuality much more easily and a LOT quicker than I had expected, largely due to finding the welcoming and supportive community in this forum. Also of equal if not greater help was serendipidously finding a wonderful guy with whom I could share the experience. However, sometimes I'm left wondering whether or not I even want to be part of what people seem to refer to as: "the gay community," when I come out. I've never been the type to get really involved in activities or issues in general. I'm pretty content to do my own thing without much care as to what anyone else thinks. But, back to the question at hand: what do you guys think of this so-called community?