Am I set up for failure?

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  1. igotyofire

    igotyofire New Member

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    Does meeting a girl and thinking right away you want to be with this girl and fantasying in my head that shes the perfect one automatically set me up for failure?(because im already expecting to win without even playin the game?) Feel like i over analyze the situation trying to act all perfect & not say somthing stupid. Im tired of ending up in the friends zone because its safe! Anyone here ever feel like they used to be in this type of position? i honestly think self confidence has alot to do with it ...... Im talkin to a girl now and feel like im probably going to completely screw up my chances again....just like this other grl at the bank who i can also probably go out ....but just dunno know how to get the ball rollin
     
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    yes.

    99% of the women you meet aren't going to be the perfect one for you.
     
  4. perfectquietude

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    just take it slow. don't expect everything to work out perfectly the moment you meet someone. You may think the person is amazing right away, but you really don't know anything about them. Give it time and take it slow.
     
  5. Jack Horner

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    Women like selectors, you're acting like you've been selected.
     
  6. Timer

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    You sound like you have a lot of work to do.
     
  7. mistergixter

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    Yes, I over analyzed this one girl and thought things were going well. She asked about me first. Turns out she was talking to another guy before me and still asked about me. Turns out they decided to get serious. I didn't do anything out of the normal but fantasize in my head, that is all. What she did was really out of my control.

    A word to the wise about this whole thing though, try not to over analyze it, it sounds hard to do, but just be yourself and don't be so willing to bend over backwards for her. Your happiness comes before hers.
     
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    It's one of those questions where the first response that pops up in your head is yes.
     
  9. uwofrost

    uwofrost New Denver Crew

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    Accpet that she is flawed is some major way shape or form and you will do better...
     
  10. RedVsBlue

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    yes, because you are going to be really disappointed if you put her up so high and then start realizing her flaws over time. You start from the bottom and work up, not at the top and tear down...if that makes sense.
     
  11. uwofrost

    uwofrost New Denver Crew

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    Every girl i meet i assume that she is just ok, i expect nothing and at the end of the night and she is on my dick im happy cause i expected nothing... chicks also can tell you expect nothing and they feel more relaxed around you and some how it seems to always end well
     
  12. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    Yes.

    Is it bad that I get a sick sort of pleasure when naive people finally realize their "perfect woman/man" realizes they are far from perfect?
     
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    uwofrost New Denver Crew

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    No as i enjoy this too....
     
  14. Vysion

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    Develop healthy narcissistic traits and in turn you wont put the pussy up on a pedestal, thus setting yourself up for failure.
     
  15. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    Aren't we just a pair of sociopaths :mamoru:
     

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