Am I overreacting?

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  1. Coco Monkey

    Coco Monkey OT Supporter

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    So yesterday was my birthday, yay. Not a special year or anything, just turning 26. Had a long hot day at work, and just came home. Went to my parents for dinner. My mom got me a few shirts from Banana Republic, and and few dollars. My siblings got together and gave me a gift card to my favorite restaurant. My fiancé comes over to dinner late from work, proceeds to sit in her car for another 20 minutes while she talks to her girlfriend, and then comes inside only after realizing we were all waiting on her to cut the cake.
    I open presents and whatnot. She told me a few days ago that she didnt get me anything for my birthday. I thought she had to be fucking with me, since for her birthday a few months ago, I planned WEEKS ahead of time and spent over $1200 on her making sure she had the best birthday I could give. But no, as it turned out, she didn't get me anything but a card. It was about 9:30 at that point, so i just said that i was going to bed. Went home, got in bed with her. She asked me if i wanted to have sex. I asked her if she did, she said "well i could". I said forget it, and rolled over. Talked to her briefly before work, she asked why i was in such a bad mood. Didn't feel like talking to her about WHY i was upset, so she said fine, i'd rather listen to the radio while i drive then. I said bye, and hung up.

    Am I being a woman here? I just cant help but feel kinda hurt that she didnt bother to take the time and get me ANYTHING, i wouldnt of cared if it was just something small, especially after everything i did for her birthday. But the fact that she just didnt even care about it, bothers me.

    I dunno, im just kinda venting here. If anyone can give some suggestions or advice, I'm open to it. I know I should be talking to her about this, but whatever.
     
  2. vodkacollins

    vodkacollins New Member

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    well yeah, thats exactly what im going to say. you need to tell her you were bothered about it. pouting and not talking to her at all doesnt make the situation any better. maybe she had a vaild reason for not getting you anything, and you not bringing it up didnt give her the chance to explain. or maybe she was just being a selfish bitch and didnt want to spend any of her money on you. either way, you need to know the answer.

    and happy late birthday :wiggle:
     
  3. fray

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    yeah, talk to her... but I'd be hurt too.

    It seems like not only did she not get you anything, but she kinda ignored/downplayed your birthday. You probably would've cared less about the present if she would've actually celebrated your birthday with you.
     
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    you should talk to her about how you feel, it's only right and it'll make you feel better.

    and happy birthday dude :love:
     
  5. Vysion

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    She sounds self-centered...

    What a mood killer. She was just offering herself because it was your birthday. Instead of asking she should have just started making out with you.

    I dunno something doesn't sound right with her...
     
  6. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    Bitch.

    Seriously though, she sounds either really bitchy and uncaring of you or you are blowing it out of proportion. Personally, I feel it's the first option.

    She shouldn't feel obligated to buy you some elaborate gift but come on! It's your birthday and she only got you a card? Worse, she sat out chit chatting with her friend that she could talk to any time. I don't want to use the example that you had recently spent a lot of money on her birthday (because I think it's kind of ridiculous for anyone to spend that much on somebody for one day...) but after that I think you deserved some love and appreciation from her.

    Shit, my bf and my anniversary is coming up soon and at least we discussed beforehand that we would not exchange presents.

    I have to ask, is she a spoiled brat and you are now just realizing it? I personally think this behavior on her part is a huge sign of what your relationship could become. Just the fact that she is so apathetic.

    To top it off she throws in that "Knocked Up"-esque sex response later at night? :uh:

    Sounds like you guys are in some sort of slump, whether you believe it or not. You need to talk to her.
     
  7. Coco Monkey

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    Thanks SJ. :wavey:
     
  8. Coco Monkey

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    Yea, i think i'll bring it up tonight after work. It's been bothering me all day, and im in a bad mood at work because of it.
     
  9. Yail Bloor

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    yes


    obviously, she doesn't care about you


    dump that bitch

    there are plenty of girls out there who will treat you like a King
     
  10. Coco Monkey

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    i dont think i need to go that far over a birthday party. I'll just talk to her about it, shake the sand out of my pussy, and keep on trudging on.
     
  11. Yail Bloor

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    based on my experience, a talk isn't going to do any good

    this is who she is, and she is unlikely to change
     
  12. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    :hug: I hear ya.

    Definitely talk to her.
     
  13. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    :werd: It worries me she's always been like this and he's finally realizing it.

    He still needs to talk to her. That's what a relationship is about-communication.
     
  14. Abomb

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    sounds like shes cheating
     
  15. Coco Monkey

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    I doubt it.
     
  16. Mr. Bungle

    Mr. Bungle *lube'n up the shock paddles*

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    I mean seriously dump the cunt NOW!!! Before you waste anymore time. I'm telling you this because I've been her, I've been the " I could" girl to someone I couldn't give a shit about, I thought I did, but didn't. SO DUMP HER before she leaves you.
     
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    :rofl: "I could" girl
     
  18. Yail Bloor

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    i'd interpret her actions as "break-up-with-me" signals at the very least

    even if she's not already cheating, i'd wager she has someone lined up
     
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    :rofl: You've been in the wagering mood lately...
     
  20. Yail Bloor

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    Him expressing his feelings isn't going to motivate her to change her behavior

    In my opinion.

    The underlying problem will remain until he shows her that her recent actions are unacceptable.
     
  21. jmezz

    jmezz layin in bed stretchin my pumped quads for hours

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    Your gf sounds like a cunt.
     
  22. eljefedetonto

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    "Well I could" :ugh: :rofl:
     
  23. Bush77

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    she is taking you for granted. tell her you're unhappy? let her know she's on thin ice. hopefully she'll smarten up.
     
  24. knucks

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    sorry bro, that's lame as hell.

    i remember i got pissed when my girlfriend at the time didn't even pay for half of my bike cranks for my birthday
     
  25. Coco Monkey

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