Cliffs: I do everything possible for a friend & I just get blown off (her WoW addiction is a big part). Is it right for me to expect more out of this friendship? Is it right for me to be pissed off? Been friends with a girl (just friends) for about 6 years now. It started online & grew to offline as well. We've grown to be very close friends, and I've helped her out with tons of shit. Her parents have been divorced and her father fucked her out of her college money (blew it on alchohol & DUI accidents) and has been out of the picture. She lives with her mother and they sometimes struggle to get by, so I do what I can. We met in Everquest (Online game). Chatted on AIM constantly, and that moved to the good offline friendship. I've helped her get through depression and got her to stop cutting. Been her shoulder to cry on through everything, including her on/off "boyfriend" (he lives in New Orleans, she in Cinci, (I'm in PA) and thats a whole seperate story there...). I've given her a $1000 "loan" (will never be paid back) a few winters ago for electric/gas when her Dad stopped paying support. I've built & custom modded her a computer & try to help her keep it updated. Either way, when she needs me, I go visit (5+ hour drive). Whenever I visit, wether she needs me, or just a general visit, I do everything I can for her. Buy her stuff she needs, or just little gifts, fix stuff around her house, help her with whatever. Just the last time, I spent around $400 just on her during a week & a half visit. Did some plumbing for her & her mother & some other house maintenance, and bought her a $100 cabinet to convert into a rat enclosure. I guess you can say I spoil her. Now, after Everquest her BF wanted to play WoW, so she did as well, and I tagged along. We all played together (altough there was some jealously issues on the BF's part), but I quit after I started playing too much. She still plays, and basically has an on-going WoW addiction. Fast forward to current... Visited her in Nov, Dec, Jan (B-day), and then Feb (a little more than usual) and each time, I've spent too much on her, and done everything I could to help them out. 2 weeks after I visited in Feb, she was heading down to visit the then non-boyfriend to possibly patch things up (Mardi Gras being part of the visit as well). I didn't hear a damn thing from her the whole time. Now, this is generally fine, no big deal, but when she's online 75% (WoW) of the time she's down there, she still doesn't bother to notice I'm on. Then she gets home, and still doesn't bother with anyone (been offline on AIM for about a month now). She's constantly playing WoW. I know this because when I visited, she promised to play with me if I bought the new expansion. I did, and reactivated account, just to play with her (and her BF, etc..), of course, she's yet to play with me at all, and just plays her 70 & raids. I asked her about this & basically said "oh.. uh.. I meant I was gonna play with you when I got bored with my 70". Yeah, ok, thanks... Blown off there too. My account expires March 20th, so until then, I check here & there to see if she's online in-game (she's on pretty much nightly). I hope that doesn't sound stalkerish, but I just want to know what I'm talking about when I confront her again, possibly for the last time. I can't make the argument without the evidence I log in, check, and see she's online and think "yep, once again..." Now, I know she has a WoW addiction, thats not the point of this post. I just want others' opinions on it all. She's blown me off twice before, once for a pretty good period of time (almost a year), where she just plays WoW with her BF and her guild, and doesn't bother even knowing anyone else exists. No emails, not on AIM, etc... The longer time, she was gone for months, then comes online for about a week, end up talking about some issues she was having & she asks if I could help her buy something & she'd pay me back, I do, and after a short time, she disappears again. I've confronted her both times, and she's appologised and said I was right and stopped blowing everyone off. Am I just expecting way too much out of this friendship? Am I wrong to think that I deserve more? I'm not trying to "buy her love" with everything I do, but I beleive I deserve at least a little consideration. My birthday is March 7th, and I'm currently just biding my time to see if she even bothers to get on AIM, email, or even call to wish me a happy b-day, especially after everything I did for hers back in Jan. I planned on confronting her about this either a few days afterwards or if she actually says anything to me, whichever comes first. I'm really thinking this is the last time, as it's the 3rd time, & I'm sick of it.