am i crazy?

Discussion in 'Vaginarium' started by thesuffering, May 16, 2007.

  1. thesuffering

    thesuffering New Member

    Joined:
    Mar 18, 2007
    Messages:
    17,515
    Likes Received:
    0
    Location:
    AZ
    so ive been hanging out with this girl a lot lately, we have a lot in common, she has a lot of values that i like, shes good looking, she is smart, and she works and doesnt expect anyone to help out with anything. I am finding myself very attracted to her.

    the problem? she is 9 months pregnant. and that fact really doesnt seem to bother me. am i crazy for being attracted to this girl?
     
  2. XaPU!M

    XaPU!M Active Member

    Joined:
    Jun 14, 2003
    Messages:
    18,807
    Likes Received:
    0
    Location:
    Ontario
    Short answer: Yes

    Long answer: No, but...
     
  3. Yail Bloor

    Yail Bloor OT Supporter

    Joined:
    May 5, 2002
    Messages:
    57,466
    Likes Received:
    7
    Location:
    the streets
    What about the dude that knocked her up?
     
  4. PocoDiablo

    PocoDiablo New Member

    Joined:
    Jul 11, 2004
    Messages:
    4,413
    Likes Received:
    0
    Location:
    NOVA
    Short answer: Yes

    Long answer: You are attracted to women who will not provide for your needs as a way to feel comfortable for not getting your needs met when you were a child. As a result, it feels "comfortable" to be with a mother-like figure who will not lavish attention on you. When you do get a woman who showers attention on you, it conflicts with your inner belief of being a good person who deserves to be treated well.

    Cliffs: You need to only seek out a woman who will treat you like you are the only man in her world, and a woman who is having another man's child isn't going to do that.
     
  5. dipset420

    dipset420 New Member

    Joined:
    Aug 30, 2006
    Messages:
    1,404
    Likes Received:
    0
    Location:
    Pittsburgh, PA
    Run away now!
     
  6. Coottie

    Coottie BOOMER......SOONER OT Supporter

    Joined:
    Jun 6, 2006
    Messages:
    32,407
    Likes Received:
    0
    Location:
    OKC
    :rofl:
     
  7. thesuffering

    thesuffering New Member

    Joined:
    Mar 18, 2007
    Messages:
    17,515
    Likes Received:
    0
    Location:
    AZ
    He is worthless. Hasn't been there for her at all during the pregnancy, hasnt provided 1 bit of support. He said he wont be there for his childs birth because he will be out of town on vacation and the money is already spent and he cant get it back. my first thought to this one? Money is money....you can make more. You cant, however, ever see your own childs birth again. Its a once in a lifetime thing.
     
  8. Chris90210

    Chris90210 New Member

    Joined:
    Nov 7, 2004
    Messages:
    22,530
    Likes Received:
    0
    Location:
    Utah
    she wants in your pockets..........
     
  9. Coottie

    Coottie BOOMER......SOONER OT Supporter

    Joined:
    Jun 6, 2006
    Messages:
    32,407
    Likes Received:
    0
    Location:
    OKC
    Why anyone would voluntarily subject themselves to this type of situation is beyond me. However, it's like my brother always says, "People are where they are for a reason."
     
  10. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

    Joined:
    Sep 1, 2006
    Messages:
    32,592
    Likes Received:
    5
    Need more information on baby's daddy and her relationship with him.
     
  11. Chip Chipperson

    Chip Chipperson New Member

    Joined:
    Feb 23, 2005
    Messages:
    26,118
    Likes Received:
    0
    if you had the skills to consistently pick up the women you desired you would probably not be asking this question
     
  12. thesuffering

    thesuffering New Member

    Joined:
    Mar 18, 2007
    Messages:
    17,515
    Likes Received:
    0
    Location:
    AZ
    oh trust me, i do have the skills, but this girl really does attract me for some reason.
     
  13. thesuffering

    thesuffering New Member

    Joined:
    Mar 18, 2007
    Messages:
    17,515
    Likes Received:
    0
    Location:
    AZ
    her relationship with him isnt much. pretty much only talks to him if it has something to do with the child. she hates him otherwise. what else would you like to know
     
  14. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

    Joined:
    Sep 1, 2006
    Messages:
    32,592
    Likes Received:
    5
    Was he a boyfriend? Casual fling? Why did she keep the baby? How does she feel about you?
     
  15. MattThom01

    MattThom01 New Member

    Joined:
    Jan 2, 2006
    Messages:
    8,752
    Likes Received:
    0
    Serious question to ask yourself...do you want to be this baby's father?
     
  16. Coottie

    Coottie BOOMER......SOONER OT Supporter

    Joined:
    Jun 6, 2006
    Messages:
    32,407
    Likes Received:
    0
    Location:
    OKC
    STEP

    He will never, ever be this kids father.
     
  17. thesuffering

    thesuffering New Member

    Joined:
    Mar 18, 2007
    Messages:
    17,515
    Likes Received:
    0
    Location:
    AZ
    He was a boyfriend, they broke up a couple months after she became pregnant. She kept the baby because she doesnt believe in abortion and cant go through with adoption and giving her child up.
    With me, she said she loves spending time with me and loves talking to me. As far as further, i am unsure, havent really talked with her about that as im a little afraid and trying to take things slow now.
     
  18. thesuffering

    thesuffering New Member

    Joined:
    Mar 18, 2007
    Messages:
    17,515
    Likes Received:
    0
    Location:
    AZ
    correct, his father will always be his father, im not trying to step in there.

    but yes i could see myself as a potential "father figure"
     
  19. thesuffering

    thesuffering New Member

    Joined:
    Mar 18, 2007
    Messages:
    17,515
    Likes Received:
    0
    Location:
    AZ
    Thanks for your input.
    I am really into this girl, and yes i understand that its not something to be taken lightly. It has taken me a while to get to this point, but i know what im getting into.
     
  20. thesuffering

    thesuffering New Member

    Joined:
    Mar 18, 2007
    Messages:
    17,515
    Likes Received:
    0
    Location:
    AZ
    I am 24, she is 20.
     
  21. Coottie

    Coottie BOOMER......SOONER OT Supporter

    Joined:
    Jun 6, 2006
    Messages:
    32,407
    Likes Received:
    0
    Location:
    OKC
    Exactly why I wondered why anyone would want to be a part of this when they aren't part of creating the kid in the first place.

    RE: father figure/dad comments, yes I realize that step dads can be excellent role models and can have a significant and meaningful impact on a childs life. My point was specifically directed to the father comments. Perhaps it's just me but when I hear father, I think biological. WHen I hear dad, that can be anyone.
     
  22. MattThom01

    MattThom01 New Member

    Joined:
    Jan 2, 2006
    Messages:
    8,752
    Likes Received:
    0
    I'm not trying to knock on single moms or pregnant women here...but I stay away from them (romantically) for a reason. It will always complicate the relationship. They are not just looking for a bf, they are also looking for a father figure/caregiver for their child.

    I firmly believe that you CANNOT seriously get invilved with one of these women unless you also want to become involved with the child. I think it is better to look at it with this attitude from the beginning...because if you get into it, and leave later, you might not only mess up the kid, you could add to any resentment the mom may already have towards men.

    So, I will ask again, and this time a little more clearly.

    Are you ready to have a family? Are you ready to have this child in your life? Because if this relationship goes anywhere, it won't be long before it is not just you and her, but you, her, and the child.
     
  23. thesuffering

    thesuffering New Member

    Joined:
    Mar 18, 2007
    Messages:
    17,515
    Likes Received:
    0
    Location:
    AZ
    Yes, I am ready to have a family. I am mature and am ready to take on any responsibilities that go along with being with her. I honestly think she is worth it.
     
  24. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

    Joined:
    Sep 1, 2006
    Messages:
    32,592
    Likes Received:
    5
    She's 20? Oof.
     
  25. MattThom01

    MattThom01 New Member

    Joined:
    Jan 2, 2006
    Messages:
    8,752
    Likes Received:
    0
    Then go for it.
     

Share This Page