Basically... here goes I have a pretty high friend turnover rate but that doesnt really bug me as much as the problem I am having. I dont really want my friends to be friends with other friends of mine. I dont like the idea of hanging out with a "group" it usually leads to "he said/she said" bullshit which just complicates everything even more. To achieve this I usually keep details limited and say "I'm hanging out with friends" and wont answer anymore than that. Then for my BD I went out with a bunch of people. Some of the people basically "cling together" and stalk my other friends to make them their own. This pisses me off unbelievably, or perhaps selfishly. I dont like the way they then hang out all the time and I land up hearing shit I dont want to deal with. An example was I was going out with one of the girls the other night, just as friends. Then she calls me and said "thanks for changing the time, it really worked out well for her" I asked what she was talking about and she told me,"Doug said he wouldnt be home that early, so we changed the time from 7 to 10pm" Now not only did I not talk to doug, but I didnt want him to even come. I just feel encrouched upon. ANyways we went out and he was being a flashy fuck.. I really lost interest. Now im at the point of just giving up on all of them and looking for new friends. I have talked to most of my friends and they say its "fucked up" but "its hard to meet people" Basically, I dont want this type of talking on my behalf and since I have talked to the people and it continues, I presume there are no other alternatives for me? Thanks for reading.